Cycle buddies Aug/Sept 2016

[HelloMist]

Anyone just starting a cycle or about to?

I've just got the dates through for my first FET to TTC#2. My first LO is 18 months and was made with the help of ICSI and IVF. I start down regulating in a few weeks.

I've already gone through various emotions and I know there are a lot more to come! Anxiety and indecision wondering how I will cope with a second child if we're that lucky and the possible age gap. Sadness that my clinic told me I had to wean DD1 from the breast. Guilt at thinking about another and no longer 100% about her. (Especially if I weaned her and it doesn't work). Stupid thoughts that led me to test without telling DH when my second postpartum period (after weaning) didn't show on time (only spotting, false hope that it was implantation bleed. It's nearly impossible for us to conceive naturally though. AF came this weekend so here I am). Scared that it won't work. The stats are lower for FET and we only have 2 frosties.

The first injection will be at the end of a family holiday. I probably won't be drinking but don't really want to tell them why not yet. Despite all this I am excited too!

Anyone want to join me as cycle buddies?

Shit- just read the last few posts- Mist I am so so sorry...both for your loss and being so insensitive xxx

Mist I am so so sorry . Look after yourself and come unload here anytime xxx

Fcuk that is fantastic news for you, congrats and fingers x all goes well. Was that your 1st or 2nd round of Clomid? xx

Hey Tata, we weren't on anything this month which is why I'm so shocked! The Clomid didn't agree with me so we were going to try a tubal dye scan to rule out issues there then go back to timed intercourse and then for traditional IVF as a last resort. Only thing I did differently this month was took B6 B12 and selenium supplements with my usual pregnacare xx

That's amazing Fcuk! (Especially that you weren't on anything). You weren't insensitive, don't worry. You didn't notice my post and this space is as much for your good news as my bad. Congratulations!

Thanks for everyone's messages. I'm having a proper bleed now and have tested negative so am stopping all the drugs. I'm doing OK though all considered. Rang my mum this morning and thinking about whether/what to tell friends. Will arrange follow up at clinic soon. Maybe in a few months I will be back on these threads to try again. I'll check in here when I can too :)

Hi Mist, I'm so so sorry. Like Elles said it feels really unfair
I'm glad to know you're doing ok, and I know you weren't sure about opening up to friends, but I hope you have someone to talk to, just someone on the outside to comfort you or take your mind of things if you need xx And of course we are here for you if you need but I understand the need to step back from the threads.

Fcuk that's really fantastic news!! Congrats again love. We can both look forward to 2 weeks ahead - your scan will probably coincide with the end of my 2ww I think I might be ovulating today (if not pretty I'll have by Sunday).

Thanks Tata. I told a friend today over coffee (after we'd already had a bit of a chat and catch up. She knew we were trying treatment). :) Also had a chat on the phone to the clinic's counsellor.

Hi everyone, hope you had a good weekend? How are we all doing? xx

Hi tata, I was thinking of you earlier, hoping you managed to "get busy" over the weekend !

I was naughty and tested yesterday and got bfn so bit disappointed to say the least as many others had BFP at 9dp3dt so will test again on Thursday (OTD).

How's everyone else getting on? Xxx

Sorry about the bfn Goodthings, although it's still early so you're not out yet!! Keeping everything x for you xx

Aha yea we stayed in most of the weekend . Also DH who couldn't be bothered to google how the ovarian cycle works was all over the web to find the stupidest tips and tricks on how to conceive a boy.......... so I hope you have a good laugh when you picture my weekend not being able to eat eggs, dairy, and anything citrusy or supposedly acidic, which as a vegetarian doesn't leave me with a lot!!!

Hello lovelies,

Mist, been thinking of you lots and lots. Glad you had people to chat to and that was a great idea to talk to the clinic's counsellor. xxxx

Goodthings you are very naughty ;) That is so early though...don't be disheartened. Keeping everything x for you xxxx

Tata oh my word, as a vegetarian surely nothing was left to eat?! ( am veggie too!) He didn't make you eat asparagus did he?! I am sure that Henry VIII made his wives eat asparagus to get a boy xxxx

FCUK, how you feeling? When is your scan? xxxx

Oops

Just been having good catch up on thread - had a few days away with DH cosied up in a cottage with a woodburner, getting away from it all. Much needed!!!

Hello All,
Most- thinking of you xx
Goodthings- it's still early days yet so you may be a little early to test (says the woman who literally bulk buys tests to satisfy my poas addiction) ;)
Tata- sounds rotten. He does realise that it's his sperm which decides the baby's sex so any faddy diet should be him only? Haha that would definitely be my response.
Elles- I'm feeling great overall. Super shocked and surprised but so so pleased. DH is so pleased as well. We have a reassurance scan on 8th November to rule out issues and also whether we have a multiple pregnancy or not. How are you- have you had your scan yet xx

Hahaha he didn't push for asparagus, but I drew the line under oat milk when he said it might be too 'cereal-y', whatever that means!!! As long as he doesn't chop my head off if we have a girl we're fine

Ooh your weekend away sounds lovely! Hope you're feeling relaxed and rested? xx

Hey ladies,
FCUK, my scan is next Monday! Glad you are doing ok :)
Ah thanks Tata, yes v relaxed - have now spent most of today in my pjs too!

Been feeling sick as a dog for last few days - literally waves of nausea hitting me. If I could only actually puke I swear I would feel better?! I am really hoping that it means things are happening!

So happy for you both Elle's and fcuk, so exciting!

Did you have symptoms before your 2ww was up? Sorry just trying to prepare myself for Thursday as I've not got any symptoms apart from feeling like AF is coming .

When can you test tata?

Mist really hope you are keeping well and looking after yourself xxxx

I didn't have any symptoms at all... just exhausted which I put down to the emotional rollercoaster of IVF!
Just be very kind to yourself this week and am keeping everything xxx

OTD is on Nov 6, so will try to limit symptom spotting to a minimum. No more than 3 a day that is 😂😂😂

Keeping everything crossed for you tata!

Looks like I'm out ladies, started bleeding unfortunately. Wishing everyone lots of luck with theirs journeys and I will be lurking if you don't mind to see how you're all getting on xxx

Goodthings I am so sorry I really hoped it would work for you... please please keep in touch xxx

Still following and lurking ladies, thread has really helped during my first cycle. goodthings and mist
Just wanted to quickly ask how much downtime people manage to fit in after transfer. I had my one blastocyst transferred on Saturday (from 12 eggs - 2 fertilised and developed but 1 blastocyst didn't survive to freezing). Lots of twinges today and now worried that travelling with work tomorrow just isn't the best idea. Ive no leave left and rubbish at calling in sick.

Hi Astrid,
Only just seen this... I went back day after ET and really wish I hadn't! I was so sore and emotional, ended up doing two days, crying then needing final day off!
That's fab you gOt to blastocyst! We didn't have any frozen either xx

Oh Goodthings I'm so sorry I hope you can take a few days off to look after yourself and take the time you need xx

They had managed to freeze one embie if I remember well, I hope that gives you some sense of hope. Feel free to lurk as much as you need, and jump back in whenever you feel like it.

Astrid did you manage to stay home today? If not I hope the commute wasn't too bad xx

I bailed, I was due to go to another regional office, 14 hour day and return train journey that always makes me sick. Working from home instead.

Good for you! xx