desperately seeking male infertility success stories

[geeup]

Can anyone please post any success stories about conceiving despite issues with their DPs sperm? Mine has poor morphology (less than 2% normal) and we're trying Fertilaid. I'd love to hear that other people got their BFPs despite these issues to help keep my optimism alive! Otherwise I'm happy to support others on the same journey. Thank you in advance.

Oh, I sooo hope we get bfps this time! I honestly don't know how much more I can take!

Might join the May/June thread once I'm closer to treatment, but for now I'm trying to not post too much and trying to distract myself a bit but I'm still obsessively reading various threads.

Oh my goodness star! Huge congratulations. How are feeling?
Hope you're doing okay geeup? Good luck with your upcoming cycle xx

Ah, thank you friends!! Feeling quite normal, only symptom is full boobs but trying to believe I am actually pregnant. Called the GP today who basically said call back in 3-4 weeks if you're still pregnant! Thought they might do extra monitoring because of my fibroids but seems not.

How are you Geeup? I'm crossing my fingers your next cycle works and this is sticky so we graduate from infertility together

Oh come on god - let me graduate from this thread too! Can't believe both of you got ironidiffs in the end! That's my dream!
No real news with me. Just waiting for the treatment plan dates from the clinic for cycle 2. This is gross I'm afraid but my period is just going on and on after being nearly a week late. I had one night of a bit of red blood on the first night but otherwise it's been brown for 7 days now and still going on (only a pantyliner). Not normal for me all at. Did a test just incase but snowy white. Hope it doesn't affect my lining for next cycle.

Gee, I have absolutely everything crossed that you will graduate soon! Hope the bleeding stops soon - I can't imagine it will have any impact on the cycle. They want the lining nice and thin before stimming anyway. On my cycle, I bled for the whole month before my DR bleed. Didn't affect my starting stims. Good luck!!

How's it going Star? Hope you're feeling well and having a very predictable and uneventful pregnancy :)

Hi everyone,
Hope you don't mind me joining.
TRC1
13+ months
Found out that DH has very low sperm count and none with normal morphology...
Waiting to re-test to confirm. He needs to change his lifestyle as he smokes a lot, drinks a lot of coffee and loves his evening beer.. also job is quite stressful.
Everything seems to be okay in my side.
Do you think lifestyle change could have a big effect on 💦🔬?
Trying to stay positive...

Hi geeup, I'm ok - thanks for asking :)

Don't have many symptoms and haven't had an early scan, so I'm just waiting for 12 weeks to find out whether there's actually anything in there.

I'm following the 18 month thread (and the Woking one, randomly just to follow your journey!) a little but lost track a bit of where you are. Are you cycling at the moment? You really deserve a BFP now!

Hi Viletta, sorry to hear about your test results - it's a real shock to the system when you get those MF results. Lifestyle changes can't do any harm. My OH gave up cycling and caffeine and cut down on alcohol and took proxeed plus (I was also taking proxeed for women). He didn't smoke anyway. I would also have liked him to do a bit more exercise, it there's only so much you can do and it can potentially be for years. Our problem was low motility and borderline count. It did improve, but we've been making changes since last January when we got the diagnosis, so it's hard to know what if anything helped. Good luck for your retest - obviously make some changes, take some supplements, keep trying, but get yourself on the list for any treatment as it can take a long time for that to get going.

Hey star. No reason why you shouldn't sit back and enjoy these early days and wait for your 12 week. Sure he or she is happily hunkering down now.
We are cycling now (and that's so sweet of you to follow me on the woking board!). Had my scratch, currently downregging waiting for my period. All very dull but second cycle is definitely calmer. I'm not posting much but will probably be more chatty when I start stimming as that's when there's news!
Viletta sorry to hear your news. Although a bit tedious I'd recommend reading this thread from the start. We all tried a few things - proxeed being the most commonly recommended supplement - reduced caffeine and alcohol, clean diet, no laptops/phones near balls etc. However what I've seen from 2 years of following these threads is that there's no rhyme or reason. People randomly get pregnant with the odds stacked heavily against them all the time. You just have to try everything that is realistic for you both without putting a huge amount of strain on your marriage.
I also second getting on the IVF train just so if and when you get approval it is an option for you if you need it. It takes ages to be approved and you don't have to do it if you don't want to. Better to find out now what you're eligible for etc.
Good luck - you may be like Star and get lucky!!

Hey guys.
Good luck with this cycle geeup! I'm still following you too. I don't want to keep commenting and be that baby women with the crap advice, when I got pregnant. I hope you're doing as well as can be. X

Star, you're doing really well holding out for the 12 week scan, I think I had 3 by that point. I also didn't have a single symptom either, no morning sickness, no cravings. Nothing. So don't worry about that. All the best for your 12 week scan and keeping sane.

Viletta.I'm really sorry you're in this situation. It's really shit! I managed to conceive after 3 years and I literally tried everything. All I would say Is that i do think that trying to cut down on the "bad things" will help you. However I wouldn't stop doing the things you enjoy either. This road is bad enough and you really need to try and keep your sanity. I went into a really dark place a few times and it nearly cost me my marriage, so if a glass of wine helps you relax, then I think that's what's best overall. If that makes sense. Good luck.

@friends123 @geeup @star1980 thank you for your advices, it does make a huge difference having people around who understand!

@star1980 @friends123 hey how are you doing? Turns out I got a strong bfp at 5dp5dt this ivf cycle but I've been bleeding quite heavily ever since so suspect it'll be over when I next test on Friday am :( so close and yet so far.

Hey geeup So sorry you're bleeding. I'd actually seen that you'd got a bfp and was so excited for you! Was going to pop on this thread to say congrats.
Gosh this is a tough, long old road... I sincerely hope that the bleeding has settled down and you get a bfp tomorrow. I know it's futile hoping, but what else do we have? If not, keep going I guess. You have a few frosties I believe and they say you should treat ivf as a cycle of three, so when you're feeling ready I'd say go again. The good thing about the bfp is that you at least know that something can implant, even if it's short lived... the most likely reason is chromosomal so there's nothing you can do, it would have eventually miscarried anyway. I know this is no comfort right now and I'm so sorry this is happening, but what you want is a baby at the end of the day and it's very likely that one of your frozen embryos is it.
Good luck Hun

As for me, I'm ok. Struggled on to 13 weeks with a couple of spells of bright red bleeding, but relaxing a bit now and starting to believe this might actually happen. Crossing everything that you get here soon. xx

Hi. Been trying for over 18 months with no success and a lot of stress and tears. We've started getting tested and I've been poked and prodded.

Last week, I was told I had low progesterone (26) and last night, we received a letter saying my partner has low sperm motility (5%). The doctor also confirmed we would have to pay for IVF, if it came to that, as my fella has a daughter already (even though she's almost 18).

So now I'm in tears again. Life sucks. It's unfair and unkind. I feel like I'm being punished.

Reading these success stories is exactly what I needed.

Hi @missenglishteacher86

How is your baby journey going? We have only(!) been trying 6 months, but very actively. We got test results last week and DH has low count (14m), morphology (3%) and maturity (33%) so feeling a little bleak right now. Motility fine at 50%. We were told to keep trying for another 4-6months and then go for PICSI owing to the low maturity.

So good to read all the success stories on here and wonderful to see how the ladies supported each other through what is such a shit time. I am so down too and surrounded by friends who are pregnant or have young babies. It feels so unfair. Must be harder for you knowing your OH has a child already - so bizarre that counts you out of funded IVF.

Wishing you lots of luck and babydust. After pouring over this thread I will be ordering soft ups for next month.

Omg @geeup are you pregnant??!! I think about you often and check in from time to time to see how your journey is going. Hope it’s not too stalkerish that I just spotted a thread you started and came on here to congratulate you!! How amazing that me, you and @friends123 all conceived naturally in the end after years of mfi.

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Hi @star1980 I'm so sorry I've only just seen this 6 weeks later! I had taken myself off mumsnet due to anxiety but occasionally pop back. I haven't posted anything about the pregnancy (except the testing thread you probably saw) because I've been so scared of jinxing it but yes, amazingly I fell pregnant the cycle immediately after my third failed IVF cycle. It was a total (obviously very much appreciated!) shock. I still can't really believe it and still struggle to accept what wasn't working before and what happened this time and everything we went through but am trying to accept it and enjoy it if possible. I know I'm so very very lucky and I do feel exceptionally grateful.
I don't want to be that person but for anyone stumbling upon this thread I guess my advice would be try everything if it makes you feel better - the vitamins, the acupuncture, the reflexology, the preseed, the IVF, the whole lot - I certainly did. My next step was immunes which would have cost thousands and we were all signed up for our appointment and would have done it. Have no regrets. But also allow yourself some space when you can because sometimes stuff just happens. God knows why or how but it did for me. Everyone keeps telling me I just "relaxed" 🙄. I don't think I did but maybe having the immunes appointment booked did help. Who knows.
How are you doing @star1980? Thank you so much for following up. You girls were such a lifeline to me at probably the lowest point of my life.