2nd Baby 2nd Time IVF'er....anyone else?

[sunshineonarainyday1]

Hi all

I conceived my first child through IVF in January 2014 and my daughter was born last September. We were lucky enough that it worked first time with only one embryo to play with.

We are back to the same clinic in September to discuss baby no 2. Would be great to hear from anyone else in the same boat. Mumsnet was my life first time round so hoping to have some more hand holding this time round. I was FabiOne previously but have had issues logging on so going with this account going forward

Xxxx

Oops! Not sure what happened there!

I'm beginning to feel anxious about starting treatment again - had put it out of my head that we had fertility issues with the arrival of our little girl - but with hospital appts etc it reminds me that our fertility is out of our control :-(

Hi Sunshine! I remember you as FabiOne, think I actually started that Mid 30s thread! Remember Highlove too. Great we're all back talking about 2nd babies.

We have a 20 month old little boy from IVF (frozen blast) and are trying for #2 but not very proactively yet.
Our dilema is that we still have 3 frozen blasts and are not sure whether to keep trying naturally for a few months or to just try the frozen ones. I'm 38 now whereas the ones we have in the freezer are from me at 35 so a plus for frozen. However i'd love for it to work naturally, just for selfish satisfaction really. We were never given any real reasons for it not working before although since giving birth and I notibly far more egg whitey!!!
Highlove, did you try naturally before going back for a FET?

Just popping in to say all is going well - 20 weeks and anomaly scan all ok.

caipirinha we had a very similar situation. DS is now 18 months from FET. I am nearly 37, frosties from when I was 34. There were 5 more in the freezer (not all as good as DS). We were unexplained, we didn't prevent things and I got pregnant naturally on DS's first birthday, but mc-ed very soon afterwards. We decided to go for FET soon after, as I had worked out I was ready for a second, we'd always known we'd try. We decided to push on as I was prepared to do another fresh round for a sibling. However, the first FET stuck and I am still in shock. We now still have 4 frosties waiting for us if we ever wanted more. I do find being pregnant with a toddler makes it go much faster and makes me much more tired...

Hiya, can I ask if you had a medicated transfer of your FET or did you have it on a natural cycle? My consultant, in his brief explanation, said we would try a natural cycle because my periods are regular. I'm wondering if a medicated transfer is more likely to be successful because they're in "control" of your body more ??

Happy new year all!

Fisher I had natural FET transfers twice, but I used a trigger shot to time ovulation more precisely. The drill was ultrasounds to check follicle development (twice with this pregnancy) and a trigger when it reached 18-20mm. Transfer the appropriate number of days afterwards. I hated the hormones of stimulated IUI and IVF, so I was happy to do natural transfers (and it's worked twice now, where a fresh transfer didn't).

Ok thanks - good to know that there is some monitoring. I had a horrible feeling they were just going to rely on the results of an OPK! So they trigger ovulation, just to make sure the lining is at the right stage, then transfer the embryo?

That's how they did it for me. Sometimes they do rely on OPKs, but that wouldn't have made me very happy. Hate POAS with a passion and they're not as trustworthy as scan and trigger. So you'd need to ask your clinic how they do natural transfers...

Caip!!!! Hello!!! Long time no speak! Wow your little boy is 20 months, amazing! That mid 30s thread you started was a life saver back in the day. Was so nice to know I wasn't alone and everyone was so good at answering questions. I often wonder how MissBrightside is doing nowaways.....I've tried searching for her but can't find her active on anything. I hope she's well wherever her journey took her.

It's a hard decision in terms of frosties. Even tho I have a bicornuate uterus and endometriosis no one ever gave me a definite reason for not getting preggers naturally. But then when we had IVF we only had 2/13 fertilisation rate so maybe my egg and DH sperm just don't dance so I'm thinking bring on the IVF again. At least I know where I am with that! Maybe you could consult clinic and start ball rolling and in the mean time try naturally? We saw consultant in September and had to have bloods done again etc but I'm starting injecting next Monday so has taken a few months (although I had to come off pill and have couple of periods before I could have AMH tested again). Keep me posted on what you decide.

Lemon, that's fantastic all was well at the anomaly scan. What a relief. You can relax now knowing you're half way!

Fisher, sorry to hear your first appointment didn't quite go to plan and you felt consultant was dismissive. If you're paying this time could you go elsewhere for treatment? For a small fee they can transfer your embryos to another clinic I believe. Alternatively do they have another consultant your care could be put under that might be more willing to spend the time to explain everything to you?

Hi all,
I was just about to start a thread about trying to have a second IVF baby after a first IVF baby but wondered if this might be the one to join instead?

Hi BunnyGirlie

Welcome!! Thread is a little quiet but please join....the more the merrier. Can I ask when you're starting second go? What's your story? (If you're happy to share)

I am day 4 on Buserelin and its very strange second time round.....so different. I remember first time round when drugs arrived I was super excited and eagerly checked everything over whereas this time it was a bit like "oh these are my drugs then...right...let's put them in the fridge" and that was that.I think I've not had the time to think about things much with a toddler to look after.

Hi Sunshine, Yep it's a bit quiet in here.
My story? Well took us 2 years (which I know is nothing compared to some) and ICSI to get our little boy who is now 15m. I have PCO and hubby has low count.
Had our planning appt last week and drugs should arrive tomorrow (eeeek), short protocol again which begins when AF arrives due last week Jan.
Will be very odd doing all this again with a toddler to think of too!

BunnyGirlie, how are you? Are you going through treatment now??

I am in the 2ww.....yikes! 7dp5dt.....otd is Wednesday. Weird this time round, can't remember what it felt at this stage first time round so no idea what way things will go. We have 4 frozen embryos from this cycle (had none first attempt) so part of me thinks we have frozen option to try if this isn't meant to be.

Would be good to hear from anyone else in same situation xxx

Hello everyone..
I am starting ivf tomorrow.. im dreading the injections and im having so many doubts.. is anyone starting it this month..it would be great to have a friend. thankyou

Hi sarah,
I'm starting mine next month so not too far off, I'm eager to get started but go away this month, I'm so excited and petrified all at the same time! X

Hi ladies, I stumbled across your group and was so relieved! After 10 years of struggling with unexplained infertility we had our first ever pregnancy using ICSI late 2013. Our lovely girl was born mid 2014 and she is amazing!

Which makes me feel really guilty.

After she was born my husband and I said that we wouldn't do IVF again. It was so invasive and all consuming, emotionally and physically. So why do I want another baby so much? Shouldn't I be satisfied with our happy and healthy child? Why tempt fate? And why the hell would I want to go through all the medical treatment again, especially as I developed gestational diabetes during pregnancy which was a huge pain.

I guess I just wanted to talk to people who've been in the same boat. I've driven my husband crazy with my constant discussion on the topic. He doesn't really want to do it all again. I'm just worried that we'll regret it if we don't.

It's so good to read all your posts and about your pregnancies too!

Hi ladies

Most of us have moved to another thread so you're welcome to join us there

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/infertility/2546612-Anyone-else-having-IVF-for-second-child-after-IVF-for-first

GemBee completely understand where you're coming from. I thought having our DD would fill a hole that had been there forever.....and it does..... to some extent. We deem ourselves so lucky to have her. But now we want her to hopefully experience what we had growing up.....a sibling. And on a selfish note I want to experience pregnancy and labour again. Despite the aches and pains etc the whole experience was amazing and welcoming a child onto the world was magical (albeit very tiring!!!). So I have to at least try for a second baby......it might not work and we will cross that bridge when we come to it but for now I will go through it all again .....just as determined as the first time. But I do appreciate this is just my view. You need to do it again for your own reasons. Good luck deciding what you're going to do. Come and join us on the other thread ladies!!

Ps Sarah, how is your treatment going so far?

Thanks sunshine, I'll pop over to the other thread.

we also had only one egg and we had a fresh transfer with a healthy happy singleton as a result 💖 Our little miracle baby 👶🏻
I do BF exclusively, except for food, and at 10 months he sure has a healthy appetite!!! While we do want to try again we aren't pushing him to wean because we want him to have the best possible start and we really are making it a point to appreciate every minute with him. That being said, we are looking forward to trying for another miracle 😃 According to Kellymom it's an average of 14.6 months for a BF mom's period to return kellymom.com/ages/older-infant/fertility/
I'm thinking it'll be at least that long for is because lo still nurses 1-2 times per night and 5-7 oz at daycare then a few nursing session last in the morning and evening as well. I think a lot is comfort nursing at this point with all the teething & growth spurts, he's going through a lot. Right now we're also enjoying 4am wake up and play time!! I'm pooped!!