2nd Baby 2nd Time IVF'er....anyone else?

[sunshineonarainyday1]

Hi all

I conceived my first child through IVF in January 2014 and my daughter was born last September. We were lucky enough that it worked first time with only one embryo to play with.

We are back to the same clinic in September to discuss baby no 2. Would be great to hear from anyone else in the same boat. Mumsnet was my life first time round so hoping to have some more hand holding this time round. I was FabiOne previously but have had issues logging on so going with this account going forward

Xxxx

Hey Highlove, I think I know your name from the Mid 30s Fed up thread....I was FabiOne on that. That's fantastic you're doing FET next cycle.....will you be putting both frosties back?

Chatty, Oo fingers crossed for some natural success. While I'm waiting for my couple of cycles before AMH test we are trying to see if anything happens naturally but I'm not sure there's any chance. I'm not opk'ing or anything, just DTD if can be arsed.....which is about 3 times this month in total (bed is for sleeping when you have a 1 yo!). Consultant didn't directly answer aboyt chances of success given success previously. She basically said need to have AMH tested and then go back for another consultation before we can officially start and that was it really. She didn't commit to anything else.

Highlove, know what you mean about it being nice not to think about infertility but now I feel the heart strings being pulled hard. I'm almost back to thinking how I was before.....jealous of pregnancy announcements, wondering if it'll happen, dreading people asking when we are going to have (another) baby.....

Sunshine- me too! I dread pg announcements again! My SIL is currently trying at the moment too because she recently got remarried. Her and her new partner already have 4 kids between them and they've "annoumced" quite matter of factly that they are teyibg again- obviously very confident of their ability to succeed. I'm dreading that announcement especially as it's likely to come within about 5 minutes! It seems so unfair. If any of you did NCT the first time, I'm also dreading when those annoumcements start again. Most of them are talking very matter of factly about having a second, like its only a matter of time, and one Of them even told me quite confidently that they are going to get pregnant "in June"!!!!! People have no idea!

Oh ChattyCat, I've just read your other thread. Sorry to hear the announcement was literally five minutes away. Some people are extremely lucky and just have to look at their OH and get pregnant. My brother and SIL were only trying a couple of months before they conceived. When they told us i was surprisingly OK about it tho as it'll be my first niece or nephew through blood. But I still can't bare to reactivate my FB account for fear of pg announcements (think I've been off there 3 or 4 years now and definitely off it for the better). It still frustrates me that so many people will have absolutely no idea what our journeys have been like and how hard it's been. But on the other hand I try to remember that there are SO many people that are in the same position as us. So many people are suffering from infertility.
I really hope things happen naturally for you Chatty..... And soon! Maybe you could sit down with DH and talk about when you're both willing to try IVF again but in the meantime see what happens?

Sunshine- yeah I know. Haha. Isn't t ironic? I wasn't literally expecting that announcement yesterday!! Tbh I'm pretty upset. I'm going to have to watch their pg/baby journey now while nothing happens for us and all the while plastering on a happy face. OH doesn't understand either- he thinks we should be happy with what we have. He's right in a way but I just can't help how I feel!

Hi everyone, can I join?

For us too IVF (ICSI actually) worked first time back in 2007--which led to our DS who is now 7. For various quite important reasons we delayed trying again but we're now back at it to try for the 4 frozen blastocysts we had leftover from that cycle. I have already done 2 natural FETs in august & september which sadly failed & now am undergoing investigations this month, so that I can try again for the remaining 2 (1 at a time) from next month. Would love to participate in some mutual hand-holding in what can be a super stressful process.

Chatty, sorry DH has different ideas on what's important. It's so hard, we are eternally grateful that we are finally mum's but the heart strings are definitely being pulled again now and hard to ignore it.

Worried, welcome on board! Sorry to hear 2 FETs so far haven't worked, that must be really upsetting for you. What investigations will they do now?

Hi Sunshine, I did some blood tests (immune issues / thyroid factors etc) & also a 'scratch'. They were going to also do an ERA test which is a fairly new thing that I don't understand well but in the end we've decided we're not doing that because of the very cost--and it doesn't feel the benefits justify the cost.

Just a quick update, my fertility clinic scans at 7 and 10 weeks were perfect, so I am released into normal care and apparently pregnant. Still very surprised it can go this quickly (I calculated on the way back from the scan, that it took 7 visits to the clinic to achieve this pregnancy, for DS it took 3.3 yrs, 8 rounds of IUI, 2 rounds of IVF, mc, lap&dye etc, etc). Anyhow, best of luck to all of you. Special wave to highlove as I recognise you from threads about 2-3yrs ago as well :)

StillLoving, I'm assuming you've had a name change since your last post?! Really hoping the scratch works for next month's transfer (and blood test results are positive news). Do they say if there's a difference in the probability of a FET vs fresh in terms of outcome?

LovesLemon, fantastic that you've not been "discharged" from the fertility clinic. It is very strange when you enter "normal" pregnancy life and are like all the other expectant mum's isn't it?!! Glad to hear everything is going well. You had such a journey first time round and I bet you're so thankful that this time round things are very different. Good luck for the rest of your pregnancy.... Look forward to hearing some good news from you in 6 months time! Xxxx

Indeed sunshine, very grateful and very surprised. Good news will still be a bit more than 6 months. EDD May 17th and DS was a late one too.

Keeping stuff crossed for more smooth rides into second time parenthood for all of you.

Hello sunshine, yes 3rd trimester now - 34 weeks today and feeling it! Swollen feet, aches and pain everywhere and get very grumpy towards the end of the day but all for a good cause!

Good luck ladies, fingers crossed that everyone has a smooth journey ahead

Loves and Fflonkl, good luck to the both of you. Exciting times ahead!! Xxx

Hello ladies

Hope you're all well. Thought id bump this to the top to see if we can get some more people on board.

Worried, how are you doing? Have you had another transfer since we last spoke? Hope you've had some good news

ChattyCat, how are you? Are you still bf?

Fflonkl, hope last few weeks are going well for you.

LovesLemonDrizzleCake, hope you're doing well and baby growing nicely.

Highlove, how are you? Last you messaged was that you were having a FET. How did that go? Really hope it went well.

Hello to anyone else I've missed.

AFM I am waiting for AF to arrive so I can have AMH repeated and then decide protocol and away we go again. Roll on AF next week!!
Xxxx

Hi all- sorry not been on this thread a while. Sunshine- no I gave up b feeding at the end of August and got AF back at the end of September. However, by some crazy fluke, I then got a bfp end of October!!!. I reckon I would be about 7 weeks now and throwing up like mad. The other shocker is that I had an early scan due to bleeding - thought I was having an early miscarriage- but the scan showed 2 sacs and yolk sacs which I guess would mean twins if they both continued. Yikes. Having another avan on Monday so will know more then. Of course we don't know if either are viable or not yet.....
How is everyone else? X

Omg ChattyCat!!! Congratulations!!!!! That's amazing....wow! Let us know how Monday goes.....good luck!

OMG, congrats chatty. Do let us know how the scan went!

Hi guys- thanks. Scan was good- 2 heartbeats measuring right on dates! Yikes.

When are u starting again sunshine?

Yikes indeed Chatty! How amazing! You will have you hands full but absolutely fantastic! Congratulations!! What's your EDD?

I went back to clinic yesterday for AMH as AF arrived couple of days early on Saturday. Seeing consultant next Wednesday for results and to plan treatment. DH has a week off in Feb so all being well hoping we can aim for then for EC but obviously need to see what Dr says.

Lemon, how are you??

Congrats chatty that is wonderful news! Will that be three under two insert evil cackle here.

Good luck sunshine, really hope you have a smooth ride this time!

Here all is well, I am getting fat, which is fair enough at 15 weeks. Not pregnant-looking yet, though. I am slowly telling people, which is weird. I am in the second trimester of not looking or feeling pregnant, which is good in many ways, but also quite odd!

Hi guys- yeah three under two- oh dear..... Fairly worried about how we ll cope! Not sure on due date yet but early July I think but probably June in actual fact as twins only usually go to 36 weeks.
Exciting sunshine!
Loves lemon I think it's great that you don't look or feel it- especially feeling it! Take it from someone who is throwing up several times a day already!

chatty that's amazing news, congratulations!

Lemon hope things are going well with you.

Just thought I'd give a quick update - DD2 born on Monday and we're both well, apart from being severely sleep deprived!

Hope everyone is fine too and the very best of luck for those of you planning to or about to start again xx

Fflonkl, congratulations!!! That's fantastic news. Love to you and Mr Fflonkl xxxx

Great News Fflonkl!
Hang in there though, the sleep deprivation bit is hopefully short lived!

Congratulations!

Hello!

I'm in a similar situation to the OP. Had successful IVF last year (first go) resulting in my little girl who is now one.

We have 2 frozen embryos and went back to the clinic for a first chat last week (we are now private patients). The consultant was really quick and quite dismissive - he basically said ring us when you're ready. We have to ring on day 1 of cycle and they time the transfer with when you ovulate naturally I think (like I said he was very brief!). It was strange because it was like we sit at home and think "let's book a baby this month..", a bit surreal. The consultant couldn't get us out of the room fast enough (which was annoying since we were paying!) but my hubby took that to mean that the consultant thought we were a straightforward case. I just wish he could've given us some reassurance that it might work!

I'm still breastfeeding twice a day and he said I need to finish that first before treatment which gives me mixed emotions as I don't want to hurry her but equally age is not on my side. If I knew she was to be my only baby I would carry on feeding her for longer. I know breastfeeding can reduce fertility but my periods returned over 5 months ago and have been regular from the word go and of course plenty of people get preggers when breastfeeding!
Sorry for the long post!

I'm beginning to feel