The All Things Donor Conception Thread

[foxinorangesocks]

Thought I'd start an ongoing thread for all mnetters that are having, thinking about having or have had treatment using donor eggs or sperm or who are considering/have been a donor. Come and talk about all stages of using or being a donor, from exploring the idea of donor conception and pursuing treatment (or not) to parenting donor conceived children or being a donor- all in a supportive and encouraging space. Whilst I say All Things - this is NOT meant to be a thread for expressing concerns over the ethics/morals of donor conception in negative/forceful/hurtful ways. Please start a thread elsewhere for this.

Lauren wow to Saturday!! So excited for you. Nerve wracking bit ahead and here to hold a virtual hand along the way. My period is here. Been a long time since I was so excited to see it an orgasm was not responsible...

Bob how are your aches and pains? What you say makes a lot of sense - wish I could instinctively feel like that!

Told you not to panic! You won't be far behind me at all, when will they scan you now? Be good if its thu I might see you! I will be with nervous tall dark haired guy with the beard and tattoos! He gets so scared bless him

well done lauren, excited for you for saturday or tuesday!!
fox everywhere hurts tonight a very busy and maniac sports day in the heat followed by no tea break!! followed by a few silly accidents at lunch time, sorting out stuff from back cupboards then class swap, getting witness statements for my professional development folder from teachers that are leaving , then home bath and dinner all before 7pm, nearly fell asleep shortly after that, so keeping myself busy till 8.45pm at least and then will have to go to bed!! so aches and pains are bad, got pains in my right leg from standing about for hours this morning, stomach is still giving constipated pains but had chilli for dinner so the kidney beans should sort that out!!

Oh bob, time for summer holidays for you, hope not much longer, get a good rest in tonight.

Lauren, ringing tomorrow about scan. Seems like quite a light period but I guess something is better than nothing. Prob not Thursday and hoping not Saturday as I'm away.. I really don't like the many many unknowns of ivf. It is so stressful on so many layers. Do the clinic call you with updates or have you contacted them? I feel so out of the loop.

hi fox yes I'm looking forward to the school holidays, its a bit more relaxed but i will still be working, the little girl i look after, after school i have full time during most school holidays, this year i have a different week off which is confusing as they are taking their family holiday in Glasgow to see the common wealth games, so I'm working next week then i have a week off then working straight through to bank holiday weekend where i have a long weekend, then its back to school on the 3rd of September, unfortunately summer holiday do go very fast, i don't know why!!
also fox once you've had your baseline scan, after the bled, they will tell you when the next scans are and which medication to take also, i had my baseline scan on day2 of my bled, good luck

hi guys it me again, asking random questions!! still no bled so clinic said unless i come on by the morning i have to do another pee test, anybody experienced this?? or know anyone else that has??
i feel quite normal i little nausea at times, bloated, tired, still weeing in the night and thats about it, no i'm about to come on symptoms either!!

Hi bob. It took me four days after stopping the progesterone to get a period but I did get very slight spotting during those four days. It is tormenty wondering what if? so I feel for you. I'd do another test tomorrow to see what the state of play is given that the clinic have instructed you and there is no sign. I'd so love this to turn out for you.

I have my scan on Friday. Good luck tomorrow Lauren.

I can't believe I'm there thu and sat and your there fri, we will bump into each other day I hope

Can't believe its finally here

thanks fox, yes it is and was torment, woke up with calf muscle cramp in my calf muscle at 4am, then found i was bleeding, so been up since then, had a bath and now taking some mefenanic acid as i get terrible period pains, thanks for all your help and i will keep watching your journeys, as i will be doing this journey again in january!!
fox good luck with your scan tomorrow and lauren good luck today and sat!!

Sorry your period came Bob, I hope you're ok.

Lauren I woke up really early this morning worrying that I had the scratch too early and that now I've had another bleed it won't be effective? Do you know anything about this? Is Saturday still your transfer date?

thanks fox, i'm ok just waiting for the mefenanic acid to work, its the yr 6 leavers assembly today, its going to be sad as i worked in there class when they came in at 4 years old, quite a few still come running up and give me a big hug now even though they are taller than me now!!
i had my scratch a month and 3 days before implantation, its the womb wall that is scratched so it will still be there, don't worry everything will be fine!!

I think it will be two months between mine so I feel a bit like I might have wasted my money! I think you are a trooper for carrying on at work so bravely. Hope the drugs kick in soon. I always found leavers assemblies quite emotional!

Hope you're ok bob

Fox I have had 2 bleeds too, the benefits last a few months I was told, still not ideal though but nothing we can do, I don't think ours would do it so close to egg transfer due to risk of infection and the chance of spotting, its supposed to growi you a better healthier lining so unsure why they did bobs so close?

I will message you when I have news later

Sorry bob you said a month and 3 days my mistake

Well I only have 4 eggs and they might not all be mature and not all fertilise so I'm a bit gutted

Oh Lauren I'm sorry to hear that. So the donor made 8 eggs? Was it an altruistic donor? And have the clinic been supportive? But! You only need one good embryo for this to turn out and I will be keeping everything crossed for you that those eggs do their thing. I know you must feel fed up right now though and I send you a huge hug.

Yeah she made 8, the cut off for cancelling one lady is 7, I would of preferred that, and been rematched for a higher number, I'm not being ungrateful sorry if it seems I am but I got 4 eggs myself last aug, and all mature with 100% fertilisation, and chances of them being all mature and all fertilising is rare, will see what tomorrow brings

my fingers are crossed for you lauren!
yes fox the leavers assembly was sad, the toughest traveller boy was right in the middle and totally broke down at the end making me cry, all 3 of us support ladies sitting at the back of the hall lost it at the last song!!
one of my favourite year 6 boys came up to me at lunch time and said i saw you trying not to cry because you don't want me to leave!! and he's right he was one of the reasons i wanted to go and watch the assembly!!

I've been thinking of you both today. I wish this journey was easier! When do you next get news Lauren?

I will get a call tomorrow before 12 with how many we have to transfer, if any x

Sometimes when your head is full of worry and worst case scenarios it's good to have someone cheering you on so I will be positive on your behalf. I'm willing those eggs to behave nicely and have a good feeling that they will. You've had a tough journey to get here and it's time that luck went your way. Will be thinking of you.

Thankyou you're so kind, had some tears today but we have to stay positive, praying I at least get something to transfer

It would be really unusual not to so yes, keep positive. I'm sorry there were tears, it is so tough plus all of the hormones don't help. It really is a roller coaster. But you will get there

good luck for today lauren my fingers are crossed that all 4 are growing nicely for you!

Sorry for extended absence (again), work is taking over my life and I'm not sleeping properly at the moment, so too shattered to spend time on the laptop.

bob I'm so sorry you had your bleed after all. I really got my hopes up when I just read through that you still hadn't had any sign. Just wow on getting through the leavers assembly. That is kudos, lady.

Lauren a friend of mine received 4 eggs from her donor, and now has b/g twins as a result. It really is quality, not quantity, that matters. I know how hard it is when you start playing the numbers game in your head but honestly, it really does only take one. Good luck today!

fox I have no advice about the scratch I'm afraid, but I'm sure I read that it was effective for 3-4 months so you're well within that time.