Anyone starting IVF soon? Join me.

[Shellster52]

After 3 full failed IVF's last year, I am about to embark on my second last attempt. I started an IVF thread during my last IVF, and everyone got pregnant but me. So I swore I wouldn't do that again this time. But I find myself wanting to chat with people going through what I am, so I am starting the thread again. Join me as I seem to be a BFP magnet!

By the way, here's the info on the expert Q&A
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_q_and_a/a2101897-Q-A-about-fertility-claims-with-Sense-About-Science

Wow, thanks bluemoon. So they say they answer the questions by Monday 23rd June. I assume I can click back on that same link you provided and the answers will be there then. It's now closed so I can post a question, but I will be really interested to see what they answer to a couple of the questions. Thanks again blue. How are you coping beautiful?

Just wondered how everyone one here was getting on? X

I haven't been on here in days. Thought I would have missed heaps of posts - but all is quiet. Nice of you to check in Happilymarried (or should I say Happilypregnant!). I asked my Dr about the scratch Happily and to my suprise she does it! Not a common thing here in Australia and I am just lucky my Dr happens to do it. Got it done today. Paranoid after I think it was you that said it hurt. But it was fine. Going on a 2 week holiday in a few days and then back to try IVF AGAIN. Just have to hope my period holds out long enough until I get back so that I can start next cycle - I am sick of waiting!

Hellooo! Glad you managed to get a scratch, Shellster - it's supposed to be good for women like us who seem to have an implantation problem, and it's really important to feel you've tried all the things that might make a difference. I had one this cycle, too, so here's hoping. Holiday sounds good...what sort of holiday is it going to be?
Hello Happily - how are you doing? When's the next milestone? Have you had your scan yet?
I've got my baseline scan tomorrow.

Baseline scan was fine - I'm shut down good and proper - so I've started the endo-thickening drug now. It's just oestrogen tablets. And I continue with the buserelin, but down to 0.2 ml, so much less of a big deal than the fresh cycle.
How's everyone else doing? It's all gone quiet....

Hi folks, I'm still in the US so have been off the radar a bit. Heading back to London tomorrow, looking forward to sleeping in my own bed (yes I am turning into my mother). We have an appointment with the fertility consultant next week so hopefully we can get our next cycle underway soon. Shellster that's great news about the endo scratch, definitely worth a try I think.

Coconutty, very nice of you to be wishing your SIL well and thinking of her. Sounds like she will know but I totally understand her wanting to wait. If it doesn't work, she might want time to process her emotions before having to talk about it to others. If it did, she might be paranoid after all she has gone through and wants to make sure it sticks around. You sound like a lovely SIL.

It's all happening now Purple! I wish I was further along so we could be doing things at the same time. Today is day 16. I am away on holidays and have taken my drugs with me to start on day two as I never know when my period will arrive. Might be going at the same time as you Blue if you are starting shortly too. Hope your being busy was a good distraction and when you get home, your appointment will help you to look forward rather than your past IVF. Here's hoping for all of us. This is my 7th IVF. Surely this is my turn!

Blue, I just saw your news, I'm so sorry. What a dreadful thing to go through. Miscarrying is unbelievably difficult. It was a few days ago now -- how are you feeling? The grieving process affects everyone differently, but I hope you're still able to feel hopeful about the future.

Purple, I've got all appendages crossed that your endo will end up juicy and welcoming.

Shell, lucky no. 7, right?!

Mini, how are you feeling? Are you getting started for a new cycle again or are you having a break? Have you even decided? I hope you've recovered from the shock of it all. Even when I knew it was failing, it was still awful.

Coconutty, what a great thing to ask! You sound like my SIL. (My first cycle didn't work and she brought me cake almost as soon as she found out. She's pregnant herself, so it was an extra sweet gesture.)

Happily, I hope you are healthy and happy and that your first confirmation scans are wonderful. You'll let us know how they go, right?

So many questions!! Did I miss anyone? This is what I get for being away for ten days.

In the land of GH, I'm waiting for my first 'normal' period to start after the IVF cycle. I think I ovulated as normal, although I decided I wasn't going to keep track, but from what I can tell, either pre-ovulation or the luteal stage can be really abnormal in the first cycle after IVF. So far I'm three days late. (It's really easy to start wondering if this means that I'm pregnant by some fluke, but I'm pretty sure I'm not and I'm kind of hoping that if I say it all out loud AF will take the hint and get in gear!)

Has anyone else experienced this? A wonky cycle after the a failed IVF cycle, I mean. I just want to know I'm normal! ('Don't we all, love,' I can hear my grandmother saying. 'Don't we all.')

Yep, history of wonky cycles after IVF for me. I was left with cysts on my ovaries which sent my cycles all over the place. So I can't quite recall what your plan is from here. Waiting for a normal cycle to start IVF again? Today is my day 17. We are away on holidays and I brought the IVF drugs to start on day 2 in case my period arrives. So I am carting them around in an esky and in and out of motel fridges. Didn't want to wait another whole cycle in case my period arrives while I am away. I want this over with next cycle please! Just found out my bum BIL and his partner are pregnant yet again. They conceived their first while I was struggling for my dream baby and now again. Normally pregnancies hurt but I still have some happiness for the couple. But these two I can't stand. They don't work and just expect society to pay their tax to fund their children. Meanwhile I am working my arse off to fund treatment so I can have a family but instead am having to pay tax to raise other peoples children. Ugh. Thought a vent might help. I wanted to have a nice holiday before I start IVF and I wish I didn't hear this news to ruin it all.

Shellster I know what you mean - it's really tough hearing about everyone around you getting pregnant, especially those who really don't seem that bothered/interested in pregnancy in the first place. That said, you really shouldn't let them get to you! There's nothing you can do about their situation, so you need to just focus on yourself - otherwise you'll go mental.Enjoy your holiday and think positive. 7 is a lucky number after all!

Emma thanks for thinking of me - I'm doing ok. We were really disappointed about the MC but pleased we managed to get a BFP on our first attempt. Hopefully it bodes well for the future. I have an appointment with the specialist tomorrow to find out when we can try again...like you, I'll have to wait for my cycle to go back to normal . Time is definitely ticking away for me as I have a very low AMH, so I'm hoping we can get started again soon.

Having my first appointment this week for my first one, not sure what to expect. Any pointers to what to expect and where I can read up? Turn 40 end of the year so running out of time under NHS. Any feedback for going through the NHS? Thank you.

Hi everyone, any recommendations for a good IVF clinic in London?

This will be my second attempt at IVF (previously NHS at Kings college hospital) but this time it'll be private.

Thanks

Hi everyone,

I'm keeping track of this thread. Glad to see everyone is back on track for another attempt. Those of you that have/getting the scratch I think it's a really good idea! I can't say that it definitely helped me but it obviously didn't do me and harm and who knows if it if would have worked if I didn't have it!

I have my scan tommorow, will be 7+2 so fingers crossed! This is were my bubble was burst last time so in very nervous but I'm trying to stay positive! I will let you know c

Good luck happily!!

Just wanted to let you all know that we had our scan, measuring perfectly with a heartbeat. We even heard it!!! :) if was so amazing after all the stress and I hope that you all get to hear the same soon xxx

Happily that's amazing! Congratulations! Very pleased for you x

By the way Coconutty I'm sorry to hear about your SIL. IVF is an emotional rollercoaster and there's nothing like it for building up hope and then bringing it crashing down. Perhaps you can encourage your SIL to join a forum like this one - a lot of women find it very useful to talk to others in the same boat.

Woo hoo Happily - that's lovely news
Hi JYJ - if you scroll up to my post to Liquorice on 27 March (good grief, has this thread been going on that long?!), there's a link to a book that I found really helpful. It's available on Kindle if you have one, so you don't even have to wait for it! If you have questions, there's bound to be someone on here who's been through something similar - I've found the lovely ladies on here really helpful.
Hello Fuzzy - don't have an answer to your q, but didn't want to ignore you completely!
Welcome back Bluemoon - you okay? Hope you managed to enjoy your break a bit.
Hey Shellster - hope you're having a good break xxx

bluemoon how did your appointment go? Any idea when you will start up again? I am starting estrogen today (day 20) and will start IVF drugs when my period arrives. Would be nice to tag along with you - especially since you too have low AMH and won't be depressing me with a whopping egg count - and vica versa! Can I ask your AMH. Mine was 2.5 at age 34. I am 36 now.

Welcome JYJ. I am not familiar with your NHS system but I hope your appointment goes well. Hopefully you'll get an idea of when you can start. Let us know.

I'm in Australia Fuzz so can't answer your Q but don't want to ignore. Welcome.

Cocnutty, again, what a lovely caring SIL you are - even coming on forums to try and learn about her experience and provide support. You sound like great support for her.

I've lost track of your dates Purple. Let me know where you are at. I just feel anxious for you and want that embryo to hurry up and get defrosted so we can know it's a survivor after all this build up!

Oh, by the way blue, I seem to be doing as you suggested. First 2 days, my stomach was churning at this couples preg. But I then told myself to forget them and focus on my family and my IVF. Thanks for reaffirming that I need to get them out of my head. Always feels better for me to hear things from an objective viewpoint as I am never sure if my insane IVF brain is thinking straight. Just have to avoid hubby's family for a few weeks while I get through my next IVF so I don't have to be reminded.

Okay, it's 5am here. I couldn't sleep. I think because IVF is on my mind with today being day 20 and me starting estrogen today gearing up for IVF next cycle. So I thought I'd come here and have my 'IVF fix'.

Hi Shellster, good to hear you've chilled out about your BIL's situation. Getting stressed won't do you any good and the IVF hormones don't help either! I've been in permanent PMT mode for the last couple of months (unfortunately for my husband...)

Appointment at the hospital yesterday went well. Doctor wants me to wait until August to get started again though -I still haven't had a proper period after the MC. Hopefully it will be early Aug.

Good news is that I may qualify for a medical trial they are running at the hospital. I'm 'applying' on Friday (ie, having a load of tests done) and if I'm chosen, the cycle would be funded by the drug company - which would be AMAZING. It's aimed at women with low AMH (mine was 1.1 at the last count ). Fingers crossed it works out. Like you, I'm also 36. I have a good feeling about your next cycle Shellster!

Purple, Emma everyone else....sending you positive vibes all round!!

Thanks Blue - and keeping everything crossed that you get selected for this trial.
FET is scheduled for 2 weeks today, Shellster. It seems a lot longer preparing for a FET cycle - think it's just because the appointments at the clinic are fewer and further between so it doesn't feel as if much is happening. xxx