The hut of gl/doom: ttc with the emphasis on trying!

[delilahbelle]

A supportive and slightly fluffy thread for those dealing with the issues of ttc longterm, whether with assisted fertility or not.

Just waiting for AF now... The clinic said to expect to start the patches one Day 1 of my cycle, 3-7 days after stopping the pill. So that's probably sometime between Friday and Sunday. ET could be as early as Day 12, or as late as Day 20.

Weird to think in just over 3 weeks I should be PUPO, and just over 5 weeks I will be testing.

Wishing you SO much luck Delilah x

Oh good luck Delilah! Fingers crossed

Not impressed however with waking up 3 hours after I went to bed to be sick... Not fun!

Good luck Delilah! It's such a weird feeling when you think how close you could be - really freaked me out and still does a bit thinking back

Pants to sickness Pink! I haven't been sick for a week or so but I'm not counting any chickens. That stuff they tell you about magically feeling better at 12 weeks is bollocks.

I've got a proper bump! I could never imagine myself with a bump and now have to look in every mirror I pass. I'm worried someone is going to walk into the loos at work and catch me cradling my bump and grinning like a loon

hi there everyone. ive been ttc for 4 years im 26 and in perfect health no found fertility prob nor has my partner. thing is i finally fell in november 2012 and mc 2 days after i was due my period. i had come on my period the day i was due although i was preg. i had tested 4 days early as i new something wasnt right. im so gutted, cant understand how i finally fell and why i lost it just like that? it was confirmed by a blood test as hcg levels were showing a pregnancy, 48 hours later blood test confirmed they had dropped :( has anyone experienced this, im so gutted i want it to happen again so much. we were thinking of iui this year but now wondering wether to as i finally fell naturally. any comments would be great thanks xxx

I know devil it's mad I'm really starting to show now too still a bit flabby but definitely there but they say you put on most after 20 weeks so not looking forward to that much hehe scan soon just hope everything's alright but something is making me sick and sleep deprived and the poor little mite isn't even here yet! How far along are you now I think you we're a couple of weeks after me when is baby due?

I'm so sorry to here your story wishfull you are more than welcome in the hut it's always a place for support :-) have you been to see gp for a referral as 4 years is a long time to be ttc without help? (If you don't mind me asking) please try not to blame yourself over mc I had a mc in April 2012 and sad as it is these things just happen although it is hard just think that if it had carried on it wouldn't have been healthy I tested 3 days after af was due and got a + then 2 days later I mc'd

I would go for the IUI (I skipped that and went straight to IVF) but if they have offered it I would do it if it took you 4 yrs it may take you another 4 yrs to get pregnant again naturally but it is a decision only you can make. We're here if you need us x

thankyou for your reply, finding this harder every day, it never gets easier. my partner is supportive but he has a child from a prev relationship so he wont ever understand how i excatually feel, even thou he trys. congrats on the pregnancy pinkapples :-) the problem is with iui is the costing its not cheap and nor is ivf :( where im only 26 i dont get funding till im 30 and were not in that position atm with that sort of money :( yeah i have been referred to the hosp had every test done and so has my partner but everything has come back fine and normal. Unxpalined infertility... which is no help lol!! its so frustrating, its a great comfort knowing im not the only one out there.. and thanks this may do me good haing ppl who are in simmular sitations to talk too xx

It definitely does trust me

So do you not qualify for anything? I assume you ovulate normally and things? That was the same situation as me I have pcos and had been trying with hubby for 3years previous to starting treatment was in treatment for 2 yrs I'm 24 and so didn't qualify for anything until I was 30 we got some nhs clomid rounds then I had to pay for ovulation induction and 2 rounds of IVF (the second one worked fingers crossed it results in a live birth) but we were lucky I had my parents who paid for it.

It will get easier honestly and the ladies on here are so so helpful and reassuring and just a general support when you feel rubbish it got me through countless disappointing months and a mc!

no i dont qualfiy for nothing! ive battled for a while now, i either pay or i wait till im 30!:( yeah my ovualtion is fine basically everyone is baffled as there is no reason to why im not falling! aw thast great news for you :) how far are you now? seems you have been thru alot too :( im just desperate to know if its ever going to happen for me, im still in shock it did after all these years, i started to put it to the back of my mind and not 'try' and i finally fell, wether that had anything to do with i dont no!
and thats great to no, il be sure to use the site from now on :) x

I'm just over 18 weeks just want the scan now!

Maybe it does have something to do with it you know the whole relax thing didn't work for me but I always knew that I wouldn't do it on my own no ovulation no periods etc but if you've fallen pregnant naturally before there's no reason why you can't again

Wishfull I was the same - nothing wrong with me that showed up on any tests, DH's results ranged from just below normal to 'good' (the 'good' one was the one used for the IVF, he confessed the other night that he had only actually abstained for 24 hours - had I known that at the time I would have actually killed him so probably just as well ). We tried for three and a half years without so much as a sniff at a BFP, went straight to IVF and got to two 5 day blastos one of which is in a freezer in Bath while the other one wriggles around inside me at 14 and a bit weeks pregnant.

It's a horrible limbo to be in and you'll get so much support on here (hence many 'graduates' like myself and Pink still hanging around ). What helped for myself and DH was getting to a point where we accepted that it might not happen and prepared ourselves for that possibility. I know that approach doesn't help everyone though.

Hi Wishfull, welcome to the hut. Hopefully your stay here will be short.

Today I have no idea if AF has arrived or not. TMI, I'm having creamy gunk mixed with reddy brown gunk. No idea whether to start the patches or not. I'm going to give it overnight and see if it develops further. It's only been 16days since my last day1 as my cycle is being synchronised with my donor so my body is very confused I think.

Oh Delilah that's no good but hopefully will develop tomorrow and you can get cracking

Hello devil weird to think you and I have frozen embies hanging out in a freezer in bath hehe

Wow 14 weeks your officially in the 2nd trimester woohoo I'm starting aqua natal yoga on Sunday exciting stuff! Still worried still no movement but I don't exactly know what I'm waiting to feel as its my first so fingers crossed everything is ok only woke u 5 times last night so that's an improvement however this pregnancy glow people keep harping on about is nowhere to be seen! Everything that is wrong with me seems to be getting worse hairy, dry skin everywhere, eczema everywhere and no sleep hello glow I'm waiting for you!!!!

Hope everyone else is ok?

thanks for all your support guys :) sorry im not sure of the shortened expressions ur all using as im new to all this lol. its great to here all the success as looking through back your convo's its been a journey for you all! i think for us were just gonna try a little longer naturally and if that fails were takes the iui route :) thats great you finally got there devil...:) I no what you mean i did give up hope and that month i didnt 'try' it happened! hoping this month may bring me some luck again if not will keep hopeful. gp told me that im most fertile after a mc for about 8 weeks so u never no i guess lol!

Good luck wishfull Let's hope this is your month.
With the advent of some red blood this morning I am counting today as day1 and have started the patches. They are like over large see-thru plasters, and I'm a bit worried they are not sticky enough. We shall see. Scan likely to be next Friday or the Monday after to measure lining thickness, so I need to think positive lining growing thoughts.

Morning all!

Just realised I've been very absent on this thread for a while now. I naively thought that my periods had returned and I was all set to properly TTC, but then I saw my endocrinologist who says I may have PCOS .

To be fair I had this thought in the back of my mind for a while now but hearing someone actually say it is a bit disconcerting! So I've realised my barely there periods are probably anovulatory cycles and I get highs all month long on the CBFM as my LH is nearly double my FSH. Sigh.

Endo says to wait another 6 months to see what happens, in the meantime lose some weight (I need to lose a lot of weight!) and they will refer me to gynae if nothing has changed. I do have private healthcare so am wondering if its wise to get a referral from my own doc to see someone privately in the meantime. I do have random spotting a lot of the time so I think on that basis alone it may be worth it.

Sorry for the really long post!! I'm actually being very chilled and focusing on losing weight before my next endo appointment in 6 months and am not peeing on anymore sticks! At least I'll save money there .

Hope everyone is well and enjoying the chilly weekend!

Hi flixy. A diagnosis is good right? And at least you know what you have to do, although losing weight is never easy. We are snuggling inside today and admiring the cold forsty weather through the windows. I really hope we don't have any snow tomorrow though or my drive to work will be hell.
AF is properly here for me today, lighter than normal though which is as expected according to my clinic. Now to hope the patches do their job and my lining grows over the next week.

Hi all, sorry not been on for a while. Welcome wishful hope you're ok. delilah such exciting news for you and all so quick too!
I'm back on clomid as nurse said as long as period can get out sperm can get in. Don't know if its anything to do with hsg but had a short but very heavy period. On day 5 today but not getting my hopes up.

Well 1st ante natal yoga class went well I'm very chilled and sat at home now with hubby taking dogs out later for a stroll round the local county park

Glad everyone's ok and enjoying the weekend

Hey all, thought I'd check in and see how everyone is doing.

Delilah good to hear things are progressing ok, really hope this is the cycle for you.

Welcome to the hut wishfull! Sorry to hear of your difficulties. I'm Faith, TTC'd for 2 years 8 months before having a fertility problem reversed.

pink I massively relaxed after my 20 week scan. It was such a relief to see a wriggly baby and be told it was healthy! Around that point she started kicking more and more too which is reassurance in itself :)
devil I felt a lot better from 14 weeks +

Believe it or not I am 26 weeks now! Generally well although life is more tiring again now! No denying I'm pregnant now. An also loving my pregnant body, the changes are quite amazing! Measuring bang on for dates although I'm getting comments like Well it's not going to be a tiny baby is it?! I think I look round because a. I'm carrying up front and b. I had a big tummy to start with! Ah well, I'm resigned to the fact that people will all have an opinion on my baby! :)

Hello faith glad all is well

The hut is very quiet these days everyon ok?

Hi all
I'm just waiting until my scan on Monday, hoping and praying that my lining grows enough for transfer. Got to transfer the cash for payment as well, less worried about that. Although its still a bit ouch spending the best part of £8k in one hit!
Last night DH announced that maybe it was my diet causing infertility and that I should go gluten free. Apparently gluten sensitivity is linked to high FSH - has anyone got any opinions? It wouldn't fix my dodgy tube, but if I can get my FSH lower I could cycle again with my own eggs. Hoping I won't have to and that this round of DE IVF works though.

Everyone looking forward to the forecast snow tomorrow?

Hi everyone. Hope you're all ok and staying safe in the snow.
Surgery tomorrow. All I can say is aaaaaaaahhhhhh!! All I pray is that it's worth it in the end. Will pop on again when I'm home. Take care x

Oh mands hope it all goes ok.

Good luck delilah! Sending thick vibes your way!

I dunno about GF diet in terms of fertility but I certainly found of helps my IBS. Not an easy choice to make though. Takes a lot of discipline in the early days, checking ingredients. Gradually you learn what's GF and only have to check new stuff. Eating out tends to be a nightmare though.

OMG!!!!! Surgery's been cancelled. Got a BFP!!!!!!!!! Done 5 tests so far... We're freaking out!!!!! X