The hut of gl/doom: ttc with the emphasis on trying!

[delilahbelle]

A supportive and slightly fluffy thread for those dealing with the issues of ttc longterm, whether with assisted fertility or not.

Hey Mands. Thinking of you as you get set for your scan - really hope it's encouraging news.

Thinking of you mands hope it has gone so well for you. And the faint line is fab!
I've started my period today so the prescription says I start taking my tablets tommorrow til day 6. Starting to shit myself about this now. I'd got myself so sorted thinking that adoption was the only way we could go, and now I don't know I'm just building my hopes up even thinking this is going work. And I don't know what I do. I'm supposed to take my temperature every day and buy ovulation sticks but when do we have sex?? Do we wait til my temp goes up? (by what??) Or do I wait til I get something on my ovulation sticks? Or do we just have sex every other day? I am mojor stressed. Sorry for ranting.

Nothing there
Another one a week today which will be CD17, so maybe it's not that bad there weren't any follicles worth mentioning but in my heart of hearts I know next week will be the same surgery it is I think.
Hope you are all ok. I like that I came on here before texting family/friends x

Awww mands sorry to hear that never mind though, onwards and upwards lovely and you never know next week might be different.

I don't know about dtd I was told when i was on clomid every other day then everyday at supposed ov so day 11,13,14,15,17 - 11 and 17 I think being to cover all bases

Oh mands I'm so sorry. Still hope for day 17 though.
Poor dh will be shattered after all of that. Need to calm myself down about it all.

Emotional roller coaster doesn't come close for us all does it! x

Oh Mands, my heart goes out to you. :( Emotional roller coaster is right. Keep your hopes up for day 17, will next step not be the injections rather than surgery? You poor love, I hope you and your DH are taking it easy tonight.

Waiting, I've got a feeling the ov test kits and temping just make things even more stressful, maybe best to just do as pink advises and have a lot of sex.
I was told by my nurse to 'abstain' the two days prior to the scan (so CD10 and CD11) in case of multiples but then as there was only one follie we dtd every day from CD12 to CD21. For the first time in our relationship I think DH was a bit fed up of sex! - but I was damned if I was going to ov and not catch it :)
Also, don't be shitting yourself. Remember, taking these drugs is a good thing! The brilliant part is that you're open to adoption so if they don't work, you know that's always going to be a possibility of a child in your future. But if they DO work - that could be your biological child.
And obviously any worries you do have just pop on here and someone will have the answer :)

Oh Mands, I'm sorry it wasn't good news but like you say you've got another scan and a plan in place. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you and sending you a virtual hug in the meantime (()).

I'm off for my day 10 scan now. Been feeling pretty rubbish - tired and very tender around the ovaries so hoping there's something going on down there

Thank you everyone for your support and lovely words they really help, even more so that you truly understand what I'm going through.
Good luck Devil keep us posted.
Wishing everyone a happy Friday and an even happier weekend x

Good luck with your scan Devil, let us know how it goes. Think we need some good news before the weekend... :)

Mands, really sorry to hear about your scan - but there's always a chance with the day 17 scan so keep positive.

I had a scary 'we have the results of your test, come and see us' letter from the doctor yesterday so am now fretting as to what it could mean, but trying not to let it ruin the weekend.

Hope y'all have a good Friday and weekend planned.

6 follicles plus one random thing they think is a cyst . Back for another scan on Monday and probably collecting on Wednesday. I'm quite happy with that for a first attempt, I always suspected my left ovary wasn't quite on the ball and this has confirmed it.

Chair, try not to worry (I know!) and enjoy the weekend as best you can.

Happy Friday everyone!

Brilliant, Devil!! The hut is on a roll with IVF success.

Chair, think positive - finding out what's wrong is the first step to treating it and getting a solution. And, yes, just try to enjoy the weekend and do things to take your mind off it!

Woohoo devil and if you had some smaller ones they'll probably grow over the weekend fingers crossed x

On my way to hospital now for some more progesterone gel... Ohh the excitement

Brilliant news Devil! x

hi all...new to this so be gentle with me :) basically i'm hoping there'll be some experts on here as not having much luck with the supposedly all knowing WWW! in a nutshell we had a baby naturally 5.5 yrs ago (a week before my 31st bday) via planned c section and we've not used contraception since. i can't claim that we've been trying all those years as the technical world of babymaking wasn't even on our radar!
so now i'm 36 and a half and my periods completely stopped in May of this year. went to see my gp who sent me for bloods and later told me my FSH was 22.5. his suggestion was to redo again in 6 mths to which i said i wanted to be referred to a gyno - which i was. saw the gyno on 2nd oct who began instantly telling me there's barely anything they can do as i've conceived naturally before and started talking about adoption?! he than said go for more bloods and mumbled a load of abbreviations whilst writing...only one i picked up on was amh. also went for a transvaginal scan and ultrasound yest, the technician commented that it looks like i've less follicles than expected for my age and said it's worrisome. again, i have NO idea what that means?? just feels like they expect u to know everything and want u out the room asap. should mention my mum began menopause (perimenopausal?!) in her late 30s. my only other symptoms since May have been an increase in (yet odourless) discharge and some itchiness. didn't imagine periods would just stop like that one day...thought it'd be stopping and starting like some sort of warning! would love some insight from real people as opposed to 'white coats'. many thanks

forgot to say my follow up appt isn't until jan 8th for all results :(

Hi imisslieins , welcome to the hut!

I'm sorry I can't be much use on the specifics of your case but someone in the know will be along shortly. It might also be worth posting on the conception board as I think it gets more traffic. What I have found is that sometimes you really have to push to get answers and the referrals you need. I'm also pretty sure that they have to explore options like IVF for secondary infertility rather than telling you to go straight for adoption [hmmm]

Hi imisslieins don't really have much advice for you, just wanted to say that I've had issues with my hospital/specialist and would say a couple of things.
First, phone your specialists secratery and ask for an earlier appt for follow up results as they might be able to sort. (when I phoned up to complain about something else she said:are you busy this wk cos we have a few cancellations)
So might be worry trying.
And also if you are not happy with them then go to pals and explain your issues, they got mine sorted within a week.
It sounds so frustrating for you.

thank you both for your thoughts...a friend told me you can always ask the nhs if you can pay privately to have an apt brought forward (not just fertility related), so i rang the hosp and said waiting until january is causing me stress and is it possible to pay to have a nearer apt to which the woman replied "I don't see the sense in that personally" >:( but she did advise me to ring every monday to see if there are any cancellations (as the clinic is only once a week on a tues). so think that's probably what i will have to do. it is frustrating and it's only at times like this (re: health issues) that i wish i was rich in order to receive a swift and informative service from health professionals! thanks again and good luck in your endeavours :)

Hi imisslieins, I'm sorry you had a bad experience with this gynae. It really shouldn't have to be that way. Of course it's worth calling to see about cancellations but having also had several months of waiting around for various appointments before getting fertility drugs I would say that the time will pass very quickly (particularly with all the madness around Christmas) before your follow up comes.

I too am very surprised that the gynae went straight into talking about adoption - I don't think you can get NHS funding for IVF if you already have a child but there may be other avenues to explore. Furthermore, if your periods have stopped but you haven't gone through the menopause, the doctors should be trying to determine why whether you want another child or not, just for your general health.

Good luck with the wait and fingers crossed you get a cancellation and get seen more quickly.

Hi summer...thanks for your post. That's kind of the route i had to take with gp - that it wasn't so much about me getting pregnant but more so as to why my periods have suddenly stopped at 36. They just don't seem to get the obvious tho - if i am now infertile i sure as hell want to know asap rather than further years of my life chasing a dream that cannot ever happen. As heartbreaking as it is i would still much prefer to know. But i have so many q's such as not even knowing if i can even still ov/get pregnant w/out periods - as stupid as that sounds u do hear of miracle babies. I plan to hound them til i get an earlier apt! Tks again and best of luck xx

Slightly random question while I try to take my mind off imagining worst case scenarios for the coming week: have/are any of you having a flu jab? I've never bothered before but I'm wondering if it's worth paying for it in case I get my miracle over the winter.

I haven't had mine yet but I do have it every year I'm asthmatic so am high risk I wait for the gp letter about 1st nov then get it better to be safe than sorry x

Ooh devil good question. I have literally never thought about having it - besides this whole infertility malarkey I have really good health in general so avoid all jabs and meds that aren't absolutely essential. Personally I don't think I'll get it 'just in case', I'll wait and if the amazing and unbelievable does happen then I'll see what the doctor advises.

BUT it's a totally personal choice and, as pink says, if you're thinking about it anyway, maybe better safe than sorry?