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Our Infertility Support forum is a space to connect with others in the same position, discuss causes, treatment and IVF, and share infertility stories of hope and success.

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The Padded Cell

33 replies

queenrollo · 05/09/2011 19:30

so....sometimes I just want to come on and go

RRRAAAAAHHHHHHHHH

or type lots of swear words.

and not have to explain why.

or don't have time to, but need to let it out.

or don't want to clog up the other threads with a rant.

So I've built us a padded cell.......

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twatphoneandbobbin · 05/09/2011 20:10

Fab idea! Have you hidden conception yet?

twatphoneandbobbin · 05/09/2011 20:10

Fab idea! Have you hidden conception yet?

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queenrollo · 05/09/2011 20:41

I haven't hidden it. Yet.

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havealittlefaithbaby · 05/09/2011 21:23

havealittlefaithbaby · 05/09/2011 21:24

*cycle20 not cd. Duh.

Florin · 05/09/2011 22:59

know the feeling its so frustrating sometimes isn't it?
havealittlefaithbaby I am on the same cycle as you!

havealittlefaithbaby · 06/09/2011 06:14

Ah she's here with a vengeance. Don't worry, I'm all prepared with co-codamol and heat patches for work .
Ooh a cycle buddy! :)

Florin · 06/09/2011 20:17

ahhh cycle buddy! Hope it not to painful. After the initial dissapointment I always quite enjoy the new excitement of starting a new cycle with new hope. Hate the 2 week wait though!

pinkapples · 11/09/2011 10:50

I'm coming in for a scream

Hopefully no one will find me in here

havealittlefaithbaby · 12/09/2011 19:48

that's me bouncing off the walls after lurking in conception and seeing too many 'when shall I test?'s alongside 'I'm just about to start ttc, what advice will you give me?'. Poor, naive, irritating souls.

pinkapples · 12/09/2011 21:10

I know! Can't really turn round and say don't panic it won't happen for a year or more... It's not there fault were stuck in here! Hmmm might do a bit more headbanging

LucyRaggyDoll · 13/09/2011 20:13

Oooo...great!! Padded walls, where no one gets hurt when I have another tantrum!

Grrr....why? Why, why, why???!

I was full of enthusiasm 20 cycles ago, eagerly going on the conception board, gleaning as much advice as I could. Pah!

Now I'm just watching the post, wondering how long til we get this ruddy appointment for IVF...2 months and counting....

pinkapples · 13/09/2011 20:36

I know that feeling of naivety I had that to. Almost certain after reading all the success stories about clomid was positive for about 2 months positivity long gone now ready for (probably) long stint in the cell

havealittlefaithbaby · 13/09/2011 20:41

Yes that naivety is....retro?! A woman in chat just said she has 4 dc and is expecting twins (wasn't ttc). I just want one :(

pinkapples · 13/09/2011 21:45

How rude I honestly think they should have a completely different area/space so that we who are ttc and those who can't keep their gob shut about babies and the fact they could fill a double decker bus shall never come across each other. So patronising... "oh poor me I have a million kids and oh look, popped another one out oh dear me how will I cope!

I wonder if they ever have a thought for us. No one cares how many kids you've got already we can't even get one let alone a brood!

Aaaahhhhhhhhh

LucyRaggyDoll · 13/09/2011 22:03

My DH had the audacity to point out that I was hard to please:-

One of the only 'friends' I had spoken to about the problems we're having, sent a round robin email announcing her "happy news". I was v upset and bitter that she'd been so thoughtless.

Then another friend told me she was pregnant - had been to scared to tell me for ages as she thought I'd be too upset, considering.

I preferred the latter, but still huffed that my friends have to tip toe around me. :@

Don't they realise, no pregnancies, none, until I have mine. :-D

LucyRaggyDoll · 13/09/2011 22:04

Crap...phone smilies don't work. Sorry folks. Other things to worry about though!!

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queenrollo · 14/09/2011 08:16

i had one friend who didn't tell me at all, expecting No4 when she went through what i'm going through now to conceive her no2. I found out when her husband mentioned the 12 week scan, assuming i knew.....

My other friend has been TTC same time as me, had one m/c in the first year. She's now pregnant. I knew she was going to say that when she phoned rather than text me. I am soooo pleased for her, but she was nervous about how i would take it. She had early bleeding, and I text her every other day to see how she was. Very short responses. In the end she phoned and admitted that she felt awkward about talking to me because we should 'both be pregnant' and she didn't want to rub my nose in it. Bless her heart i told her that I'm excited for her and of all people she's the one friend who i could never resent for this.

It's a minefield isn't it!

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HaveALittleFaithBaybee · 14/09/2011 18:07

People tred on egg shells don't they?

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queenrollo · 14/09/2011 18:23

'friend' no1 didn't tell me because she knew i'd at the fact it was an 'accident'. No3 was an 'accident' conceived when she stopped taking BC without telling her husband because he didn't want anymore. This time she set the scene by spinning out the fact that 'i'm spotting on my new pill and the GP can't say for sure if i'm protected or not' - like i'm stupid enough to fall for that. And she spun me that line because I told her bluntly that what she was doing for no3 was out of line. Yes - cheers 'friend' for confiding that little gem in me, can't tell your husband and be responsible for the divorce.
Needless to say i don't see her much anymore.

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lenore123 · 14/09/2011 19:31

Well this is a refreshing change. I'm used to banging my head against a brick wall all alone but it's nice to have company in this 'ere padded cell. Where I work everyones pregnant all the time so I've got used to that stab of pure hatred?jealousy? joy when someone else announces their impending arrival. It's practically a daily occurence.

Worse than that though was the time when someone asked me if I was pregnant (I'd put some weight on was all) and if that wasn't bad enough, a second person whom I'd confided in about my conception malfunction proceeded to announce to the whole office that actually, No, Lenore was not pregnant as she (Lenore, i.e. me) couldn't have children. She did it in my defence, but still...Ground?, open?, swallow?..yes please

pinkapples · 14/09/2011 21:03

Well I here u ladies but get this for a job I am assistant manager at a nursery and head up our baby room!!!! Talk about torture! I can't go into any other space as the most qualified needs to be with babies and that's me as I'm the only one in the setting with a degree.

I love them all and could not work anywhere else.. Wouldnt do an office after this and I love showing ppl round but some days I come home and cry!

In this padded cell I have found peace of mind to bang intently and not actually hurt myself... Brilliant! Thanks

HaveALittleFaithBaybee · 17/09/2011 10:16

Friend who started trying 8 months after us has just started Mat leave.

BlueMoon1981 · 24/09/2011 20:40

Hello. Please can I join you. Its taken me a long time to realise that I no longer belong in conception and I belong here instead. You sound as mad as me

delilahbelle · 25/09/2011 11:39

Fuck Wank Shit Bastard Crap Bollocks AAAAAARRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Just wanted to get that out.

Normal service may now resume.

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