Mother banned from school for confronting son's bully

[2kidzandi]

here She's no longer allowed to take her own son to his classroom. How are you supposed to deal with bullies and parent bullies then? I hate confrontation but I think the schools response is awful, I hope she challenges this and wins.

"Wouldn't then have a been a more appropriate time to intervene, love?"

I think that's really, really unfair. None of us know how we would respond in that situation. That might have been the first time she'd seen it happen, she might still have been at the "going through the correct route" stage. Whatever, to criticise someone for being to shocked to respond rationally, is very unfair imo.

I think this story, however garbled and dishonest in detail, highlights the fact that in too many cases the correct routes are totally pathetically inadequate and people feel very frustrated by that. Hence taking incorrect routes.

I still think it is totally inappropriate and very ASBO-ish to say you'd beat up a teenager though. Yes it might make you feel better, but it wouldn't really help the situation.

There are no circumstances on earth where a normally functioning parent would not be able to intervene if they saw their 5 year old being held and punched.

And there are no circumstances on earth where a school would ban someone if they behaved the way the article indicates. She would be, quite rightly, told not to do it again, but not banned from the school.

You don't "know" that for a fact seeker some schools do over react and some allow parents to get away with far too much.

It is completely inappropriate for a mother to speak to another child like that.

Think also she is jeopardising any chance for the mother, child and the school to have any chance of a successful future by going to the DM and on GMTV. Wtf is she thinking of (hideous fashion choices apart).

If there are two explanations for an event, one of which is vanishingly unlikely (that the school banned her in the circumstances described) and another which is overwhelmingly likely (that there is more to this story than we are being told) then I know which one I will believe until proved wrong.

"Other boys then ran up to him grabbed him round the neck and arms and he was being hit . I was rooted to the spot."

If I saw that, I would yell at the boys to get away from son whilst rescuing him.

I would not be rooted to the spot.

The lying woman is being economical with the details and as I said before, there is more to this story to warrant such a severe sanction.

'We don't know what her pfb brat did to the other kid. '
'The lying woman is being economical with the details '

Just listen to yourselves! No, we don't the details, but we certainly DON'T know that this woman is a liar or that her son is a brat.

Talk about making assumptions.

Honestly would you really go on national TV and in the press if you felt you knew you were lying and therefore it's very likely that other people would be able to trip you up, like the other parents in the kids class ?
Or would you go to the press when you're at the end of your tether and have done everything in your power to sort things out reasonably and hit a brick wall ?

FFS

I have reported that post.

I've reported it too, it's disgusting

Oh phew, it's gone.

I think the problem is that the majority of boys 'play fight' so much of the time , then you get a quiet sensitive little chap who isn't used to it and it seems like bullying.
Of course the mother should have not approached the child on school premises , that is for the teachers to do.Have never heard of it being done at our school
I would have hung about outside the school gates on public property and given him a right bollocking when he left .

I saw her on bbc news earlier this week. Apparently she had reported to teachers/headmistress etc that her son was being hit by another child, not sure what they did but whatever it was it did not help. She had had enough one morning and went to speak to his teacher while dropping her son off. The teacher was not there but the child who was hitting her son was sitting behind the door of the classroom. She said that all she did was calmly say to the child that hitting is not a nice thing to do and to stop hitting her son, the child just said ok. The teacher came into the class and was flapping about saying that she should not have spoken to the child but once the mother had explained what she had said the teacher said it was the right thing to do. The next thing she knows is that she is banned from dropping off her son because the childs mother complained. I personally think she did the right thing, she wasn't aggressive (she says) she calmly asked the child to stop hitting her son and personally if this was happening to my son I would do the same, and I would not react the way the other mother reacted if my son was the bully. I was being hit and bullied as primary school and my mum took me out of that school after the headmistress took me to one side during school and told me not to lie I think it is all too much of a pandering time, again victims are not being treated fairly and the kids who do bully are treated with kid gloves.

It sounds like a bit of a balls up then. The school haven't added anything to her version of events?

yes - that mournful look that Julie Myerson perfected - doesn't really go with the misguided outfit choice - what a mistake! She looks rough for 38 though - I'd say she was 45 at least. Yeah I'd probably want to press charges if some middle-aged semi naked neurotic accosted my child at school. And especially as she sisnt have the self control to actually wait till the teacher came back. I bet the teacher complained because the teacher thought it was OUT OF ORDER!

there is lots of schools that just brush bullying under the carpet. if the school says its not bullying then thats the end of it they dont have to answer to anyone as to why they have reached that conclusion. this gives busy schools a loop hole when they dont want to spare the time to deal with these issues. ive been in a simular situation myself not approached child but school and governors a waste of time. an i had written proof of lots of incidents from the school.the point is the school has a duty of care to each and every child in there care. had they dealt with the situation properly this would not of happened