Yes, Olympe said a few times that she was agnostic. She is obviously well read on the subject. Some of her posts did come across as holier than thou(excuse the pun), but possibly that is because she feels people like me don't have the foggiest what we are talking about
Rhubarb, saying
'I've gone to great pains to show respect to non-believers on this thread'
and then
'I think many of you could do to read his words of wisdom'
is -ahem, interesting!
I too thought I had gone to great pains to show respect for the believers on this thread, but apparently not. You are right, once you get personal you have lost the argument(although I don't think that necessarily makes you incorrect in your belief, just a less proficient at debate).
Critisism and insults are different things. There are many critisisms on many layers in both directions. There are also insults going both ways, although initially these were high from the people who felt what this couple were doing was unnecessary. I do not know whether all of these were non-religious people, but suspect they were mostly as we are less likely to understand the importance of worship in this form.
I'm not condoning the insults btw. I do think though that they were intended to be leveled at the couple themselves, not because they were Jewish, but because(again, from the POV of those who do not worship in this way)it seemed unreasonable(especially given they were not full time residents, often a contentious issue in itself).
If the opening to the thread had been 'what do you think of Judaism'(not sure if that's termed correctly), and you got comments like that, then of course it would be unquestionably wrong to make any of those comments. But it wasn't, it was asking what people thought of this single situation, and many thought it unnecessary.
Personally, as I've said before, I think there must be more to it, but perhaps I'm in denial. I'm actually pretty upset to think it may be down to prejudice that they have been refused in their request, and would not have had a problem if I lived there on the bare face of it, and am confused as to why people would. As someone said, it's not much to ask and it means a lot to them.
On your other point, that someone's faith is often their life, do you not think it possible then, that that leaves them open to being more sensitive than realised by most non-believers? It's a genuine question.
Unstrungharp, why is my explanation for why some non-believers feel difficult when discussing religion(that they may cause offence), turned into an accusation? Words like that are inflammatory, which is just what you are asking non-believers to avoid.