What men prefer, according to the DM

[Janos]

Now before you slate me for reading the Daily Mail (woman hating garbage IMO) a friend sent me this link.

Anyhoo..

men prefer miss average

I'm not sure where to start!

Must say I laughed at the comment from Craig

"The big question I always ask is, "We'll she put up with me?"

If yes, then we're 95% there."

Funny though, that we feel we can give a general sweeping "what men prefer" and expect that that is true.
Look on MN, some women love David Beckham, others cannot see attraction, David Tennant is a bit of a God in these parts, but I think he is way too skinny.
I don't think that there is a one size fits all for either sex.

Ah you should read yesterdays article about lipstick, hilarious.

I am resisting the urge to click on the link cos I know it'll just piss me off. It's a beautiful day and I refuse to spoil it by reading the garbage in the DM.

Men prefer a good, long blow job.

Why bother reading this tosh?

Very true, Expat, very true

Quite right Rindercella it's complete tosh.

I think you are spot on lizzylou with your one size comment.

I just laugh at articles like that because it's just nonsense! Everyone has different tastes and trying to be proscriptive about it is bloody ridiculous.

How come we aren't seeing articles about what women want men to like, featuring men obsessing over their weight, followed by a sneering commentary aimed at all blokes who don't look like Brad Pitt/George Clooney/Becks.

Oh, and while we're we're about it please can we stop having a pop at women who are naturally thin? That is annoying too.

Expat

In my defence,

a) I skim read it and

b) A friend told me to look at it

It is based on a survey of just 100 Ausralian men. Hardly comprehensive or in any way meaningful.

Sorry StayFrosty. I agree with you about Liz Jones, dreadful woman.

or Australian even.

sounds like a big pile of bs to me IMO. All men are different, look for different things in a woman.

Has anyone read the 'THE MAN'S VIEW: Sorry, I'll take the bimbo' By TOM SYKES at the bottom of the page?

"What the men in this survey really meant is that they would like to be married to a cuddly Miss Average who would cook nice dinners and care for the children.

But in terms of sexual attraction, would we choose you over a lissom Barbie doll?

I don't think so."

Now I'm off to find a pic of the lovely Tom on Google, let's see how he measures up.

expat only believes this because she is good at them. Allegedly.

no, one size doesn't fit all, but I'd go along with alot of it. Curves and squishy bits ARE a great deal more fun, and body-wise it's attractive, male or female, to show evidence you take a bit of pride where you can.

Never met a man who said no to that, Pan .

Hmmm, googled Mr Sykes and he has form for this type of woman-baiting article. Clearly a wind up merchant par excellence

The third guy has it right - near enough - when he says "What the men in this survey really meant is that they would like to be married to a cuddly Miss Average who would cook nice dinners and care for the children.

But in terms of sexual attraction, would we choose you over a lissom Barbie doll?

I don't think so."

It's called 'condition dependent sexual strategies' - women have them too. They marry good fathers but have more affairs with (or/and lust after) the lookers, just as men do. Works out pretty equal actualy.

Note he said sexual attraction - not sexual intercourse! Love and commitment counts for a lot, but it won't stop him lusting after Megan Fox or me Keanu Reeves!

"but it won't stop him lusting after Megan Fox or me..."

interesting MT.....

or me Keanu Reeves. not me!

Well I agreed with a lot of that until the article got down to the heading:

"THE MAN'S VIEW: Sorry, I'll take the bimbo".

Didn't agree with anything after that.

Give me a happy loving woman who randomly oscillates between size 10 - 14 any time.

This sums it up nicely for me:

"My figure shows I'm lucky enough to enjoy a wonderful life, that I'm unpretentious, easy going and, ultimately, happy with my lot."

Indeed, DW came in this morning from dropping the DSs. She had a nice new jumper on, a light tan for being outside yesterday and put her arms round me and said "I feel so happy". Those little things made me feel very happy and far happier than if she had come in and told me she was a dress size smaller.

Women are far far too critical or even loathing of their own body shape and size. Its such a shame that so many women feel that way when in reality men do not judge women against some commonly held 'ideal woman' stamped as a template in our minds.

I wish sometimes men could communicate that fact better, especially to younger women who are so vulnerable to media stereotyes.

ABetaDad - I admire your attitude but what would happen if your happy, loving woman 'oscillated' to a size 16?

You say

"It's such a shame that so many women feel that way when in reality men do not judge women against some commonly held 'ideal woman' stamped as a template in our minds."

But you give a very fixed definiton of what size a woman should be in order to keep her husband happy.

KingRolo - I was refering to the usual range DW feels happy in. She has oscillated mostly in that 10 - 14 range throughout the last 25 years AND was size 16 for quite a few years after DS1/DS2 was born. She was also size 8 for a while when she was ill. I didn't feel any different about her but she did. She feels healtier and happier in that 10 - 14 range and when she is healthy and happy so am I.

What I am also saying is 'men' in general do not all want a size 6 (or a 26) any more than they all want women to have blonde hair. We all like different things and the most common typical 'media stereotype' of men liking skinny blonde women with narrow hips and a large bust is just ..... well a stereotype.

I rather prefer brunettes, with an obvious hour glass shape but an average sized bust (like DW). That is my preference just as other men may prefer larger sized women with ginger hair (like my sisters) or even the typical 'blonde' (like the stereotype) and any other combination in between.

Men generally do not feel they have to conform to a stereotype body image and neither do they feel women should.

I have said it before but there really is no channel for men to communicate this general reality to women and I wish there were because I feel it would save a lot of unhappiness.