Jade Goody's passed away

[FeelingLucky]

Dittany, if somebody said these cruel things at a party instead of on a internet board, there would be a hideously awkward silence and then once we'd picked our jaws up off the floor, people would attempt to smooth over the cracks.

It is very sad that a young motehr has dies and that two little boys have been left
motherless. It is a tragedy for the family, and of course my heart goes out to them.

But it is mawkish in the extreme to talk about the good this woman has done, or her beautiful personality.

Young mothers die every day and children are left motherless in all parts of the world in war, from starvation, from AIDS, from malaria - in countless ways. How about some grief or action on their behalf, rather than sentimental outpourings for a very rich young woman who left her children very well provided for indeed.

It is sad for her children.

But while it may be considered bad taste to voice one's opinions of her at this point in time, it is equally bad taste to suggest that people on here are grieving.

You are not grieving. People may feel sad for her children, may feel sad over the loss of someone whose circumstances may bring back painful memories of own loved ones lost to similar illnesses, but that is not grief. There is a difference between sadness and empathy, and grief.

And comments like "why do people see fit to come here and slate those of us who want to grieve for Jade..?" are quite frankly patronising and insulting to those members of Jade's family and her friends who are genuinely bereaved by her loss.

The point is on hearing my neighbours step mother had passed I did not say, oh well lots of people die, I don't know her so why would I care, I sad so sorry for your loss, it is the correct way to conduct ones self.

This thread was started so people could express sympathy (not a weeping and wailing grief fest). Anyone who wants to have a scrap or do some jade bashing should go do it elsewhere.
You never know when your life might be ripped to shreds and you come here for some support, would you like it if everyone went oh well so what, who cares? No thought not.

Why do some people have nothing better to do then be mean, spiteful and cause trouble.

wannabe,I can assure you Im not patronising.

If you have a problem with me saying what I have said then fine, your opinion. BUTe please don't turn what I said into something that it wasn't.

Im sure none of Jades friends or family would feel patronised at someone on a forum saying they felt sad etc over jade. They would be happy that she had touched so many people in different ways.

Get real.
This thread is slowly being turned into something that it never intended to be. BY some sad,selfish people.

but there is a difference between saying "oh that's sad," and claiming to be grieving.

And claiming to be grieving is just as inappropriate as "jade bashing" as some call it.

Jade was the same age as me and my son is the same age as her youngest. I cant help looking at him and thinking how heartbroken I would be too leave him. Those boys have lost a loving mum on the worst day. It really has made me look at my boy - give him a cuddle and be so grateful for every day with him. RIP Jade.

wannabe, go away.

How dare you liken it to jade bashing. You don't know me or know if I new jade in rl.
Why should it bother you if someone does grieve or not..? Take you head from up your a&s*

grieving= to mourn or have sorrow for

are we only allowed to grieve those who we know..?

I think the majority of posters have said it was sad, or they felt sad for Jades family, very few have personalized Jades death.
Her family and friends are grieving, her children will be devastated.
I think we are expressing sadness that a young mother has died, no more no less

true dittany

I have only just seen the news, was sad to see it; I feel for her family.

I feel sad for all children who have not got their mothers with them on mothers day, and feel very fortunate that I am here with DD.

Richardsons death was tragic and totally avoidable, having a helmet on for starters, or being looked at by the medics maybe.

Very bug calling a dead woman name on a thread expressing sadness at her death....give yourself a pat on the back.

'And comments like "why do people see fit to come here and slate those of us who want to grieve for Jade..?" are quite frankly patronising and insulting to those members of Jade's family and her friends who are genuinely bereaved by her loss. ' I am not personally grieving I am expressing my condolensces, a civilisewd and kindly thing to do.

These threads retain their internet presence long after the interest has passed, and who knows who will google it in those long post funeral days? I learned that awhileago when faced with the Mum of the childwhoseeath was being discussed on one of these threads (fishwife or similar she was called).

I thanked my lucktstars I hadnt posted anything unkind.

big even

I am quite certain the intensely patronising individuals on here, who obviously feel immensely superior to the rest of us will sleep nicely in their cosy little beds, content with their narrow, antagonistic, rude and offensive view of the world. I, however, look at pictures of those boys and Natasha Richardson and I see my own. ALL the money in the world wont make up for a mother. I lay odds that if you ask them in twenty years time, they will tell you that they would give it up in a heartbeat for one more day with their mum. HOW DARE YOU TRIVIALISE THAT OR JUDGE ANY OF US WITH COMPASSION FOR THOSE CHILDREN.

I dont know Jade or Natasha or any of the other women dying before their time. But I do know this. When children are left motherless on mothers day it is gut wrenchingly cruel, and feeling sad for vulnerable children, whose money will never comfort them the way their mothers did makes me human. ANYONE who wishes to argue with that needs to take a long hard look in the mirror at who and what they are. NOW BUGGER OFF.

I think you'd have to be very coldhearted not to feel sadness at the death of a 27 year old mother of 2 young boys, who passed away on Mothers Day. Just like I feel sad for anyone who hasn't got a mother to thank or appreciate today.

honestly,so distasteful bickering like this.have some composure and manners

I dont think anyone has had a go at someone for expressing condolences or saying they were sad from what I have read.

The only thing I have read is a few people saying this is not grief and that Jade is neither unusual, someone they liked or thought did good, both perfectly valid viewpoints.

But the other side of the discussion is that you wouldnt go to a funeral, or too a wake or too a party and say those things. This was a thread for those who wanted to express their sadness not here about how rubbish other people thought she was. It just isnt on and like dittany I too get cross that sometimes it isnt appropriate for people who dont like her etc to say nasty things. She died last night. At twenty seven. Just leave it alone. There is a time and a place for intelligent discussion. This isnt one of them.