Anyone with more than 2 children??? You are irresponsible, apparantly................

[Flumpybumpy]

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Yes I think it is irresponsible...or maybe i am just fed up coz i have 4 under 6 and its haff term..and the week has been ok but now am defo ready for the eldest 2 2 b back 2 school..thats just me though..everyone entitled to their own oppinion

I think it is selfish and irresponsible to have a large family but then I was only able to have one and have often heard accusations on here about the selfishness of having only one child (or on fact none).

The truth is that an element of selfishness goes into most decisions made regarding family size. I do in fact worry about the sort of life ds will have in the future as a result of our trashing of the environment. I would in fact love him to have siblings and family around him in the future to help him through any hard times so if I could i would definitely have one more if I could

However I would also bear in mind the greater good and stop at 2 even though I know I'd love more than that.

Maybe those of us who can only have one child should twin with families who want 3. I'm happy to give my quota to someone else as long as ds gets to live near and play with the other children sometimes .

Anyone who wants 4 would need to find two only child families to twin with or maybe one couple who are childless through choice but who would like to have some children in their lives . We could create extended families through choice to share the children we have more. Then again maybe that is just my idea of utopia and comes from the perspective of someone who loves looking after other people's children and in fact finds it easier in many ways than looking after her own [blush}.

The thing some forget is that their cute environmentally aware kids will turn into adults with independent thought that may well want to eat meat, drive cars and fly abroad. I can't believe the way that some people bleat on about how their use of washable nappies, etc makes having a large family okay from an environmental perspective.

Every extra person born in wealthy countries such as the UK is driving the world further down the road to famine and wars over resources.

So far I have only managed to have one child...so if anyone would like to have one to fill the space that is there, please go ahead.

Oh, also I have family members who plan not to have children so there is definatley room for another two children there.

My goodness, we really do have to be perfect to be acceptable in this world don't we?

You have problems conceiving at all - you're obviously a selfish career-oriented women who's putting it out until it's too late

You have only one, for whatever reason - how selfish and sad for your only

You are lucky enough to conceive easily and you end up with a happy accident or two - how selfish of you for overcrowding the planet

Congratulations to all women who have achieved the ultimate - absolute control over their female functions. May we bow down at their feet!

I meant "putting it OFF" obviously.

no it was twins. i only wanted one. however the principle remains.

Why is it selfish to have more than TWO.Surely if you want to curb population growth then it is selfish to have any children at all ?

Surely 5 well brought-up, educated productive members of society are less of a drain than 2 badly brought-up spongers...

As with many issues, it depends on the person(s)

When Mr Porritt reaches retirement, he might be grateful for our extra children to pay for his pension... Just a thought.

Does this person work for the government??? Teach our children about sex when they don't even know how to spell their own names & then, when they have children (not much later these days, it seems???!!!)ask them if they are being irresponsible by producing more than 2? YEP! Sounds like a gov. official spokesman to me ...mum of 4 & loving EVERY minute of it x x x x

I only have 2, but would love a third.

Haven't read whole thread, but....

Surely everyone only having 2 (or less) kids is a hugely flawed idea? Sadly, not all will live long enough and choose/ be fortunate enough to have two kids of thier own - so population will decrease. Or was that what he wanted?

Also I can't help thinking that children in larger families learn more about sharing and consideration of other's welfare, and less of expecting to get what they want. You would expect they grow up able to make things go further, last longer and generally be more inventive with things.

Why, oh why, do some people with two kids think that makes them superior to parents with three or more? when asked why they choose to only have two, its usually so they can have the cars/ house/ holidays etc that they want, how does that make them greener and of stronger character? These people often have spoilt brats for children also - doesn't bode well for the future does it?

Kinda l ike lazycow's utopia though.......

So if people weren't so materialistic they would have more than two?
What nonsense!
I have two, may have one more,but yes, the fact the world population is increasing so rapidly will be a factor in my decision.
Doesn't make me materialistic and my children are def not what you would call spoilt brats, either.
The rate of population growth is a real cause for concern

I love Mumsnet! Having just had a miscarriage and lost my dc3, I was looking for something to make me smile and I have found it. Thank you!!!!
And nothing in this chain or article will stop me from trying again ( assuming I can persuade my DH!)

Jenny, so sorry for your loss of DC3. I hope you manage to convince your DH, I have just has DC3 and whilst she was a complete surprise and I wouldn't have it any other way.

Thanks Flumpy bunny - we felt this way about the one we lost ( as your a surprise) and it might have even persuaded DH that we should go for no 3 . I've got a good feeling but an understandably nervous