so Jade Goody has months to live

[liahgen]

How very very tragic,

poor girl, and those poor little boys.

I'm not criticising her, but we can go back and forwards like this all evening so I'll leave it at that.

it's a matter of personal opinion though.

When you make your life public then the public, who are essentially paying your wages, have a right to an opinion. You don't have to be criticising an individual to not agree with what they're doing.

And I wonder how many of the people who posted on the CBB threads that they'd called Ofcom and c4 to complain are the same ones 'sobbing' over the news.

well, blimey, if god forbid i had a terminal disease i would love to be able to earn a lot of money for my dcs so that they could have a good education etc. i wouldn't care if that meant courting publicity.

and those of you who are sick of seeing her on tv and in the papers, don't worry, chances are she won't be around this time next year and so she won't be offending your delicate sensibilities

although i'm sure there'll be some other poor unfortunate that you can profess to be sick of but still find the time to post about on mumsnet.

I agree with you BFG it shouldn't be on the news i turn on the news to find out about whats happening in the world not to find out that a reality tv star is dying.

I feel for Jade and anyone else suffering from cancer and their families, but i dont agree with the way she has handled this. A few weeks ago there was a clip on the news from her tv show and she was crying because she was losing her hair. How can anyone watch a tv programme like this? After seeing my mum fighting cancer i would never want to watch a reality tv show about someone suffering the same thing.

Theres millions of people suffering from cancer and im sorry but i don't want to turn on the tv and see this on the news everynight.

Sometimes by continuing with the things you know and are used to it helps to keep you going when you are in a siuation like this. It did for me and if making as much money for her boys as possible gives her the determination and fight that means she lives longer and gets more time with her boys then good for her.

I think that when she started the reality show she thought she'd beat the cancer like many people did - sadly it hasn't turned out that way.

I hope the time she has left is full of love and happiness.

so what kind of people watch her show and why? I mean someone would only watch a show that they enjoyed, no? So what kind of people enjoy watching the suffering of someone else on television?

Aren't they as bad if not worse than the critics? Jade's life has been turned into entertainment and those watching are the audience.

The only reason why Jade can earn this money is because there are people, the people defending these decisions, who are prepared to pay for it.

ok, i'm sure no one enjoys watching jade suffer on tv (I hope) but she'll be paid regardless before transmission i imagine so people watching or not doesn't matter.

although people will watch because of who she is and yes unfortunately because she has cancer.

I havent watched Jades show, and I havent bought a magazine with her interviews in, but I do know that whether or not you agree with her selling her story or not, this is a young woman who is dying, and no matter what, how or why, unless you have heard those words, for yourself, then who the hell are we to comment on how she deals with it.

I wish her peace, and I hope that when the time comes she passes knowing that she has done as much as any mother could have done for their children, and she is without fear.

For all the tooing and throwing on here and the rathert snide remarks about how shes not spending time with her boys and how she lives her life, what you think or feel is of no consequence, you dont have to do it, she has to leave her children, and I dont know if I could, I dont know that I could die knowing that they were without me, I think it would be agony, I would fight the same way she is, with every onunce until the bitter end.

My best friend died, she left an 8 yr ds and a 12 week old dd, and what I saw on her face when she could no longer care for her children was an unbareable pain I never want to feel, Jade is doing what she feels is the best for her boys, not for her, or us, but them, and that is ultimatley what we as mothers do, the best for them.

And we as mothers should support that.

I think the whole thing is very
I suppose at the very least the publicity will raise awareness (I for example have never had a smear and am having one next week because it bought it home to me how important it is).And if it raises some money for her kids to live off then good for her I guess.
I have alot of sympathy for her and her family.

I just dont understand how anyone can enjoy watching someone suffering cancer, i find it hard enough watching it in a soap or in a film which i know isnt real.

Well said flaminhell.

chuckie - I watched the Robert Winston programme that followed someone dying and included his actual moment of death. Clearly no-one watching enjoyed it but I still think it was a relevant and purposeful thing to have filmed. It showed the moment of death as a thing of peace, after much suffering, and to that extent it taught us something.

I too wish her peace and I feel terribly for flamin's friend. As mothers we all know that our ultimate job is to look after our dc. To have that taken away for whatever reason is torture to us.

Tribpot - I agree. Cancer is a fact of life for 1 in 3 of us. I've had it and my mum died young because of it. It will impacy you at some stage and the more you know about it the better you will deal with it. Does anyone remeber the attitude to cancer in the 1970s? People would call it 'the c word'. I remember a friend having breast cancer and my dad, a university educated man, asked my mum if he should kiss her or not as he was scared it was contagious.

In my view the more publicity the poor woman generates, the better, and if she makes a few quid for her kids in the process, great.

I wish people would stop trying to tell her what she should or shouldn't be doing.

She is dying fgs, she can do what the hell she likes, it's for noone else but her to have any say over.

Poor poor girl.

I feel dirty for having watched her rise to fame. I know she made lots of money but - Jesus - talk about a wasted life!

Hope I'm not saying the unsayable. I also find it very uncomfortable to have her impending death splattered across the front pages of the tabloids which I have seen today.

Jade has made lots of money already and to say she has to make her terminal illness public to make money for her boys, I also find very sad. She could have set her boys up with trust funds whilst she was well and making her career in the media, before any of this happened. Also her boys will be fed and clothed after her death no matter how much money is left. Children are looked after in the UK.

Then the poor girl can fight her illness with dignity and privacy that anyone should be able to.

Sorry if I offend anyone by this post. I shuddered when I glanced the headlines and feel for her and her family.

abouteve, what if Jade wants to be public about it, shouldn't it be her choice ? Afterall, you don't have to watch or read the reports if you don't want to.

I was under the impression it was for money for her boys, not necessary IMO. I don't read the tabloids but they were on the floor in the Co-op today.

I suppose I could have held back from posting on this thread too. Fair point. I do feel for her, its terribly sad. I hope she is happy about the publicity for more than the money source.

tribot i understand what your saying but watchin a documentary about someone dying from cancer seems different to watching a reality show and seeing someone dying from cancer iyswim.

What im trying to say is i find it difficult watching jade suffer in her tv programme. She rose to fame on a reality tv show and now she's showing us how she's dying on one. I know cancer is a fact of life and watchin tv programmes helps us cope.

I agree with other posters its up to Jade what she does, i just hope that she spends her time with her boys and leaves them with happy memories, which im sure she will.

so I've just seen on the news , Jade is going to marry Jack Tweedy.

Wether people like her or not, Think what she is doing is right or not - One good thing that has come out since she got cancer and started talking about it there has been a 20% increase in young women going for smear tests (which is one thing Jade had said she hoped would happen)

To me she is a normal girl with two little boys, thats the sad thing no matter who she is she is 27 and is going to die she will not see her boys grow into men and get married, she will not see her grandchildren or her boys finish jounior school let alone senior! the thought of that is very scary tonight I will kiss my two boys good night and on Monday book my overdue smear!