Is the family to blame in this story?

[MrsMerryHenry]

Read this.

I'm wondering how it is that the man could have had family alive who apparently did little or nothing to help him.

That's incredibly sad, Devil (do you mind if I call you Devil? ). Is he still in hospital now? How is he managing?

Life is so complex, isn't it? I've met people who, like your uncle, have fallen apart in various ways after relationship breakdowns/ loss of loved ones; while others seem to be able to pick themselves up afterwards. I wish I understood better what makes some people survivors and others not survive quite so well.

Devil is fine.

The family all got together and really cleaned up his house but he died before coming home.

wouldn't we all MrsMerryHenry....I mean, like to understand why people react so differently, etc....

Baby, somehow I really don't think the family is trying to cover anything up....
all my working life has been spend in the "caring profession", i.e. nursing/auxiliary nursing/homecare/socialcare.....and especially in homecare I came to the realisation that some people will NOT except the help they could be getting for so many different reasons....it really is not as simple as even making help available...! I have come across people that felt very very upset when they felt other staff members started to meddle with their stuff...i.e. cleaning things they weren't asked to clean, etc....!
But of course there is also the issue how much help was made avaialble, say in this case, in which way was it offered and which options were given, etc....

Oh, I'm so sorry. That's incredibly sad.

Fairlady this is exactly what my friend's elderly relly was like.

She absolutely resented the unsolicited interference in her affairs. And she had a right to do so. She was not depressed, she was not unhappy, she was comfortable in her little home with all her crap around her. She was horrified at the idea that some well-meaning younger relative was going to come in and sort her out, she didn't want to be sorted out.