Woman, 57, thought she had cancer until doctors told her she was 30 weeks pregnant

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Woman, 57, thought she had cancer until doctors told her she was 30 weeks pregnant

She did have IVF though

What about in the situation clueless describes below - her father's wife may die young leaving him with care of a young child. (obv hope this is not the case clueless!)

My mil is 75 with no health problems. Dh grandad was still gardening (heavy spade work included) at 90. Should they have been/be preparing for their dotage at 55? Is it a question of health or age?

"Oh, Walnut, you must be one of those older wiser people.

I bow to your font of knowledge."

I didn't realise I required a font of knowledge to comment. You have stated your opinion, as have I. Quite civilly I might add.

As have I.

But I keep forgetting how things have become here lately.

Mea culpa.

They have matching moccasins, albeit in different colours. I couldn't take my eyes off them.

It's a question of the fact that people who are post-menopausal needs LOTS of expensive intervention and someone else's eggs to get pregnant, juule, because from a biological standpoint, they are too old to do so.

Health at an advanced age doesn't mean you have the energy to deal with young children.

Juuule, I am not patronising you at all, but you must be very young?

Retrospect is a good thing, I bet your inlaws aren't exactly thinking, "shame we are so healthy, we could easily had another child at 57" My dad is 81 and in a wheelchair, he still gardens. Doesnt make him fit to father young children.

expat -

It's no bad thing to have something interesting to debate on MN, sometimes it gets a bit too trivial.

lol swedes! perhaps trivial is preferable after all

Is IVF on post-menopausal women allowed in the UK?

All these people go abroad, IIRC.

One, the Romanian lady, even lied about her age to a European clinic.

Also bad taste in carpet

According to the article: "There is no absolute age limit for IVF in Britain, but the NHS will not fund it for women over 40.

In practice most private fertility clinics in the UK will not treat women over 50 - the average age of the menopause when they stop producing eggs. "

I think 57 is too old

interesting that NHS policy makes it a financial privilege over 40

Not patronising at all, Quint. Quite flattering really.

No, I don't think my mil would have been happy to find out she was expecting at 57. She did bring up 5 of her own which was more than enough for her (her words). However, she did look after 4 of my nieces/nephews full-time from the age of 60 to 65/67 after which she decided she wanted to do other things.
I'm sure if she hadn't had any children and having a child was the thing she wanted to do she would have been quite capable of doing so.

Never mind a baby at 57, I would be more concerned about a teenager at 70+. The woman is clearly mad !!!!!

Thank you gjbtc, that is the exact point I have been trying to make....

Ah well people often say I'm mad for having 9, so perhaps that's why I feel a little more lenient towards this couple.

I only say this because I found baby and toddler stage a breeze compared to teenager stage. Can't imagine doing it at 70+ its stressful enough at 40+!!! And mine arn't bad kids either but you don' stop worrying because they are older and you have much less control.

but of course you can't just apply your own experiences to everyone's elses situation, that would be terribly narrow - at least, if you do, you have to be aware of it

Very true, Walnut.

You know, (and I'm not sure what I'm about to say is exactly the same thing as what we're talking about) but never underestimate the power of denial. I was first pregnant (but miscarried early) 10 years ago. I was throwing up all the time; my nipples turned brown; stomach wasn't flattening despite my inability to eat. I thought it was just nerves!

then, my second pregnancy, which resulted in my ds, started similarly. I had nausea and a funny feeling of fullness. I thought I'd cancer or something else terminal and awful, so I went to the doctor. He asked if I could be pregnant and I said no. He said take a test anyway. And it was positive! And I'd been trying for a baby. So why didn't pregnancy occur to me? So odd.

But back to the OP: yes how WEIRD.

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I don't neccessarily think she's wrong. Hey it's her life and I'm sure her circumstances are completely different from mine. All I was saying was I don't envy her having to cope with a teenager in her 70s. But maybe her child will be a model teenager.

And of course my opinions are influenced by my experiences. I don't see how they could not be.