Woman, 57, thought she had cancer until doctors told her she was 30 weeks pregnant

[TheBlonde]

Woman, 57, thought she had cancer until doctors told her she was 30 weeks pregnant

She did have IVF though

I'm surprised that she didn't have a scan following her suspected miscarriage.

I have a friend who thought she had a stomach tumour; it turned out she was 19 weeks pregnant with her third child!

How ridiculous than no-one scanned her earlier to check that both embryos had died.

Am a bit confused as to why she is having a caesarian so early though. Surely Freya would be better left where she is for another 6 or 7 weeks?

CSWS, she was 30 weeks at the end of jan so shes prob 36 or so weeks now.

I'm saying nothing more though. I'l get flamed if I do.

Ah yes, thanks lth. It does in fact say 'Not only is she about to become a first-time mother at the age of 57, but she found out she was pregnant just eight weeks ago', so I guess she is actually 38 weeks already.

hardly a 'miracle' if they went though IVF. What were they thinking???????? Too old, far too old.

wrong wrong wrong wrong wrong

57!!!! Oh dear.

Surely the clue was in the three letters 'IVF'? It's hardly unknown for one twin to be miscarried and the other survive...

blood test and HPT apparently showed up negative afterwards????

home pregnancy tests are well known to give false negetives.

A one off blood test will not say very much at all about how well or not a pregnancy is progressing. A series of blood tests is needed, combined with a scan in these circumstances.

not quite sure what to make of it

IVF, miscarriage, but no scan.. and no-one thought the abdominal mass might be a baby? sounds horribly stressful

57, is quite old to have a baby, i hope it all goes well for them

there are no guarentees until the baby is born. I hope all goes well with them as well.

Lulu - the facts just don't seem to quite add up do they.

What an amazing story - 57 is not an ideal age to be having a baby but a much-wanted child is always a blessing. I hope everything goes brilliantly for them.

IVF, miscarriage, no scan, no one thought the abdominal mass might be a baby...

Does not fill me with faith in this lady's private health care provider....

Yes, she is quite old, don't know how I feel about this to be honest...

(tis uncomfortable on the fence)

her partner's 10 years younger. she sounds very grounded. worked with children all her life, spent years caring for her parents. I think they'll make a lovely family.

i know , belgo, feel a bit but i don;t want to. am also sitting on the fence a bit really.... my mum is 59, i cannot imagine her and dad having a baby.. but then, if they had not had us, maybe they would do, being at a time in their lives when they are comfortable, and mum can be at home...
but then the flipside is that if you are becoming a mum in your 50s/60s, you most likely alos have an elderly parent that might need looking after too and other issues with your own healthy.. with the best will in the world, having a baby at 57 is very different to having one at 27 or 37

If she had IVF treatment abroad, I just wonder how aware the UK doctors were of her past medical history.

Her age doesn't bother me, but I think I would rather be looking forward to retirement and a round the world cruise at her age rather then a c-section and sleepless nights! But maybe I would feel differently if I had never had children.

I'm happy for her that she doesn't have cancer she must have been so worried. But I must confess I'm a bit about her being pg at her age. Yes I'm being judgy considering that she has had IVF. Still I wish them every happiness.
I was surprise at the lack of earlier scan, I would have thought she would have her miscarriage investigated, considering she was having IVF.

"When I asked the doctors what would happen if there was something seriously wrong with her, I was told, 'Well it's too late now. You are 30 weeks pregnant. You'll have to go through the birth and then decide if you want her adopted if she is disabled.' "

did find this odd

I read that when she went to see doc about the bleeding and tiredness, she didn't mention the ivf as she was told she had miscarried...
If she had mentioned it I am sure she would have been diagnosed as pregnant much earlier.
If you don't mention something then how are the med profession supposed to pick up on it? I find it that a woman who's had recent ivf finds her tummy swelling and must have felt the baby moving but didn't even think for one second she may be pg?
A cynic (not me laydees) might suggest that a sale of a story to a newspaper might supplement the family's pensions when the child wants to go to uni/travelling/learn to drive

This didn't really surprise me.

I went to the Drs. with stomach cramps and was told 100% positively that I wasn't pregnant and that they thought I had some sort of tumour....

At 20weeks, I was told I was PG (UNplanned, but very welcomed!)

I was told something quite similar - I'd missed the scans etc., so it was a case of going through with the birth or a termination....

I was pretty shocked... I remember driving home that day, tears rolling down my face (it was a pretty emotional day, when you think you are going to hospital to investigate a tumour and you come out PG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ) rubbing my tummy, telling my baby 'he wasn't going anywhere' (I knew immediately it was a boy)

I got some more specialist scans done privately and everything seems to be OK....

But, this sort of thing does happen (Still, pretty schocking, given she'd had IVF!)

Ds (12) has just read this with me and said 'she will be 69 when her child is my age - that's the same age as granny'

He finds it disturbing, from a child's perspective, I'm not sure how I feel. If I had never been blessed with kids, then maybe I too would be chasing every chance to be a mum. A tough decision IMO

I find the whole concept of women having ivf after the menopause fairly weird

And 57 is absolutely ancient to be having a child, I will be 57 when dd2 is 17 and I feel that's bad enough

I just feel it's plain wrong. No two ways about it.