James Bulger's mother demands right to find freed killers

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as reported in the \link{http://www.newsoftheworld.co.uk/story_pages/news/news1.shtml\news of the world.

Should she have the right?

Discuss

that's what I think joash - Her comment about being "paralysed with hatred" when she saw one of them just made me feel so sorry for her. Knowing where they, following them around etc - how can that help her heal

I agree with stilltrue and hercules on this one.

She should absolutely not have the right to know where the killers are. That doesn't mean that if I was in her position I wouldn't want to personally kill them myself.

But reading the article I feel incredibly sorry for her. She obviously hasn't got any sort of closure. She will never forget or get over what happened to her son, of course, but ideally she should be able to learn to live with it and it doesn't sound like that's the case. I wonder if she has had much, if any, counselling?

My husband was killed in a brutal, horrific way. Now obviously that's not the same as losing a child, which is the worst thing that can happen to you, but I have an understanding of what it feels like to have a loved one murdered. The people who killed my husband are dead themselves, so I can't say how I would react if they were free, rehabilitated and walking the streets (but then again they were grown men not children, and I do think that makes a difference).

3 years later, I'm not over it, I feel an incredible amount of anger to the people who did this, I miss my husband immensely. But I have learned to live with it. I wish Jamie Bulger's mother could do the same.

Don't think Jamie's mother has the right to meet his killers, unless all parties want to meet each other in a closed, supervised setting.

Anyway, what happens if she meets them but it doesn't make her feel better long term? What happens if this meeting does not achieve her hoped for 'closure'? She says it will help her, but what if it doesn't?

I hope and pray the people involved with supporting Denise Fergus these last 10 years have tried to steer her away from believing that only by seeing these boys will she move on. That seems to me a very dangerous, harmful assumption.

Beetroot, how do you know he/she is a child molester, how awful for you, I would find this very hard, but like you would not feel compelled to act.

sorry to ask I just wondered whether it was the result of media speculation etc Didn't mean to be intrusive xx

Beetroot

Good for you.

Beetroot - I couldn't do that, too close for comfort. You've obviously got great strength. Good for you

I agree with everything that you're saying. But couldn't live that close. That's why I can't understand why Jamie Bulgers mum would want to know where those two live, or what they're doing.

what's she going to do? follow them around, see them grow up, get married, have children? She really is torturing herself. awful.

Beetroot

I don't think that what happened to James Bulger and the aftermath of his murder is something that a mother could ever come to terms with. I believe that with help, we can find closure for terrible things that happen in our lives, but in this instance, I'm honestly not sure its possible.

but look at someone like sarah payne's mother - she seems to have got some kind of peace. She seemed to channel a lot of it into trying to invoke 'sarah's law' but then I guess in this guess the difference is that jamie's killers are free.

sorry not 'invoke' sarah's law but 'create'

i honestly feel that 8years was far too short a sentane, and that is why many people are/were/ very upset about them being released. surely a 2yr old boys life is worth more than that?

But that's not how sentences are decided. Any life is priceless, how can you put a time limit on it in that way?

8years is nothing really. why did they get short sentances? they tortured a young child, surely 15yrs min.

Throw away the key and never let them see daylight.