I am disgusted at the Madeleine McCann/Shrek debate!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Bigmamie]

I have joined this site solely to remind all you thoughtless, forgetful, selfish ba#@ards that Madeleine McCann is missing!!!!!!!! I cannot understand how anyone can sit with their arms around their own children, in the comfort of a cinema whilst feeding their children popcorn and Coke that there are lots of mothers in this world who cannot do this. Their children have been taken from them and I wonder if any of you had the money or the resources available to them, I wonder if you would have campaigned this long or this hard for their daughters return. I wish the McCanns every success and only wish I could physically find their daughter for them. I am taking my 6 kids to see Shrek tomorrow and I hope my cinema is still showing the Madeleine film. I hope the publicity generated stays in your faces for a long time to come. Tell me, if she passed in front of you down at the shops or at the park could any of you be bothered to actually tell someone. Or are you all just to happy in the knowledge that its not one of your children. There but for the grace of God............

How old are they?

But I like troll baiting. I do have some ironing to do tho as havean ironing mountain. Might come back tonight tho

.. sheesh Lulumama is soooo bossy .. hmm I could start a thread about lulumama and we could get a special lulumama day .

Ironing. Ironing. Get back here girl.

NKF
There are such parents, ive read it here. One said they would do everything they could to make sure their kids did not fear anything and they would live carefree lives. Its true! They are out there carrying on like everyone is a friend and nothing bad ever happens!

so if it transpires that the McCanns were in some way involved in this, will you then tell your children that there are parents out there that do harm to their own children?

I think you have misunderstood what you read.

6 & 4 years. My 4yr old had her birthday just a few days after madeleines and she is very similar in looks that is why it had upset me so much and still does.

but.. I have to If I dont I will be so terribley upset, wont be able to control my emotions and blub all over ds when i collect him. Then I will have to tell him the hoorifying truth of ironing cos I couldnt simply say that I was being a bit silly sweetheart and not to worry and give him a hug. No, cos that would be being a parent and not offloading my emotions on my children.

And he might hear about ironing from someone else.

if i had the patience and time to trawl back through the posts here im sure i would find quite a few comments that proove they are out there but ireally cant be arsed.
I have no issues with you directly NKF, all i want to achieve is that people realise that kids cant be shielded entirely from the grim side of life. I would not go out of my way to make sure they are aware of every single news break, that would scare them silly of course. I just wanted to get in there first before they heard it elsewhere - surely you can understand that?

"They are out there carrying on like everyone is a friend and nothing bad ever happens! "

Yes they are. I'm one to a very great extent. My three know about the McCann case - we've discussed it (and yes the mummy-filters were on). They are very sad for her. They know about terrorism and all the other terrible things that happen. But with explanation and in context. There is nothing I can do to explain the sudden abduction of a little girl from her bed that would make any sense to them or would be in any way constructive. And keeping it constantly in their faces (literally in the case of the cinema ad) is going to result in them thinking that this is a common occurence. Something to worry about all the time. Scaring the sh*t out of kids isn't going to keep them safer in the long term and certainly won't keep them happier.

Would it be better to pretend that everyone is any enemy and nothing good ever happpens. Which does seem to be the opposing POV .

Haychee - I'm not given to bossiness as a rule but I honestly think that it is not rational or responsible to experience and show such distresss over this news story that your children can tell that something is hurting you.

(temporarily slips out of nork-clasping)

haychee - where do you live that there is such a huge danger of your children hearing about MMC from someone else.

Where I live we are more dignified - it feels wrong to discuss it, and as far as I am aware not one child ds's age (nearly 8) has mentioned it to him. One of my friends brought it up one morning whilst we were having coffee - this was about a week after MMC went missing. No one has mentioned it since.
We all think it is sad (before you accuse us of being cruel and heartless) but we have better things to do with our lives than idle speculation/gossip/wailing about how upset we are. Hence virtually zilch chance of the dc hearing it from someone.

And another thing - your children can see how upset this makes you? ffs - what sort of childhood are they having, ' mummy was upset and cried a lot, the world is a scary place, people want to take us away wherever we go'

(shakes head sadly)

Newsround?
Older kids at school? - do you actually supervise all of their conversations?
My dd school covered it in their assembly sometime ago.
You say another parent had mentioned it, well isnt that enough kids listen with their ears wide open and imaginations swithced to full blast.

I'm a bit confused at you panic about my children accidently hearing about MMC. It isn't remotely likely.

x posted with hippi

so its not ok to show your emotions and explain your reasons for that to a child? Or do we teach them its not ok to ever be upset by anything?

Agree with Orm.

But she'll still come back with tripe having deliberately missed the point AGAIN!

I suggest she stand out in the rain a while - might help her to grow a brain - idiot.

Unless a school is directly involved (eg a missing child was a pupil there), I think it's very odd to use this type of story in an assembly. I'd seriously question the jdugement of the headteacher.

It is real life after all, people even parents get upset.

haychee - the kids were at school whilst us mums have our coffee mornings. Unless they have super hearing stretching over 2 miles, they would not have heard!!

My ds does not watch newsround, none of his friends are aware of MMC, and even if they were, they have got things to discuss much more important to them such as football, parties, etc. It is not (and should not be) part of their lives.

Regarding school - luckily my school has common sense - not a poster/banner/ribbon/mention in sight. And that is the way it is staying. The brilliant headmaster believes in childhool not scaremongering.

May I refer you to my new thread in the news section, seeing as you all will have some advice on this.

Thanks

Haychee - people make up their own minds on this but I think it's irrational to be that upset and for your children to be affected by it.