I am disgusted at the Madeleine McCann/Shrek debate!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Bigmamie]

I have joined this site solely to remind all you thoughtless, forgetful, selfish ba#@ards that Madeleine McCann is missing!!!!!!!! I cannot understand how anyone can sit with their arms around their own children, in the comfort of a cinema whilst feeding their children popcorn and Coke that there are lots of mothers in this world who cannot do this. Their children have been taken from them and I wonder if any of you had the money or the resources available to them, I wonder if you would have campaigned this long or this hard for their daughters return. I wish the McCanns every success and only wish I could physically find their daughter for them. I am taking my 6 kids to see Shrek tomorrow and I hope my cinema is still showing the Madeleine film. I hope the publicity generated stays in your faces for a long time to come. Tell me, if she passed in front of you down at the shops or at the park could any of you be bothered to actually tell someone. Or are you all just to happy in the knowledge that its not one of your children. There but for the grace of God............

Exactly EDAM. That is the point im trying to make! I wanted to make sure my kids knew about it from me not the media or another adult or child in the playground

People have a right to ask for money. Beggars do it all the time. That doesn't bother me. It's easy not to give if you don't want to.

bang Nah not really. THink your points are very valid.

haychee, something doesn't have to be brand-new for it to have shock-value to young children. If I had told my children about MMC, I would have done so in an age appropriate way. That wouldn't innoculate them from further, and more detailed explanations.

The fact that not everyone watching a U rated film is a small child isn't relevant - the fact of the U rating means that what is shown should be appropriate if there were small children present. Personally speaking, I often think U ratings are far too loosely applied anyway, and we tend to pre-watch, but it would be very nice to be able to just trust that the ratings are accurate.

Haychee looks like she has trolled off. Cant we send her to the other site. They might not eat her alive there

Well, blow me down Haychee, you are a bit slow. Other parents want their children to learn bad news from them and not the media. Hence the irritation about the Shrek ad. To which I suppose you will reply "but it's been 60 days."

Why should the media dictate what children are told?

it IS both a fundraiser and a crimewatch appeal. They want to keep madeleines image at the forefront of the news so people will have a constant reminder of what she looks like. I know i would want to do the same if it were my child.

yes people have the right to ask and I have the right to say no. but asking for it has made a lot of people lose a lot of respect for the Mccanns, and has been responsible for a lot of the speculation that they're living a jet-set lifestyle sitting in the algarv coining it in while others are being asked to look for their child.

If my ds went missing I would sell everything I owned before running cap in hand to those who were in less of a position to afford to give than myself.

NKF
the media is not dictating the timescale madeleines abductors have done that

It doesn't make sense as a Crimewatch appeal. It's too generalised. Crimewatch works be`cause it appeals to people in the locality and gives specific pieces of information to look out for. It's put together wth the help of the police and has a good track record.

Haychee - be a dear and feck off as lots of us have made valid points [bangs head] and you still ignre most of them. Did you visit the shrine (bet you did, with your children). You are so full of yourself and trying to pull the old empathy card it is really pissing me off. You are just enjoying in an almost sick way the fact that something terrible has happened and you are letting fill your life. Get on with your life and your kids ffs

if she was abducted that is.

But you seem to be dictating what children should be told.

As far as i understood the fundraising issue it was the kindness of people making donations at the outset not the McCanns asking for it! Once these donations had started flowing in they had to then manage that, i dont think ive seen anywhere a request for funds.

But Haychee, you are choosing how you handle this with your children, can you not understand that other parents are choosing how to handle it with theirs and may do things differently from you? I don't want to alarm my boy unecessarily so haven't told him yet and won't unless something comes up. Luckily all the people I know are sensible and don't discuss this in front of children.

May I respectfully suggest the following:

This argument / debate is totally polarised

Neither side is going to suddenly say, "you know, you are right.. I cannot believe I thought of it any other way..."

So , why not agree to disagree and accept we all parent differently, neither way being better nor worse, just different.

All of us want a positive outcome, and we all want out children to have happy, well balanced childhoods, and we try to achieve that the way we see fit, as individuals.

Awen
but it would almost be a shame wouldn't it. haychee is quite the funniest thing I have read in a long time. Pompous, prepoterous, opinionated, arrogant yet sooooo caring and a far better mum than any of us.
Oh please don't scare her away.
I have wondered for years where Jeremy Kyle finds loud stupid people who just don't listen and keep making the same point ad nauseum without listening or applying any insight.
please let her stay forever - she makes me feel measured and reasonable and contemplative.

AWEN
I have NOT ignored any of the comments made here. Infact i have learned that some kids are far more sensitive than mine! SO FECK OFF yourself and get your fact right! Your indication that im here because i just want to wind you all up is childish. I have listened and learnt from you all, and after all a discussion is about give and take not attacking.
I do not in anyway ENJOY any part of the missing girls plight. I do not enjoy having to tell my kids about it either, its hard and very upsetting. And your comments mare making it even more upsetting.

Why did you have to tell them? How old are they? Or are you unfortunate enough to live in the sort of neighbourhood that is strung with yellow ribbons and full of stupid people holding "Madeleine days"? Because if you do, I'd suggest it's time to move house.

My issue is purely with those parents who want their children to live a carefree life and do not want to let them hear of ANYTHING that is from the darker side of life. This is all that i disagree with! Honestly!

lulumama - hark you being all grown up and proper

Pagwatch - I didnt scare her see, she just found her Caps button. Tis troll baiting, not yet illegal

Haychee - I am sure her parents are infinitely grateful or your shared grief and upset and this situation FGS show some dignity and step away from mass hysteria. The reason why you wont tell your dc about the other 3 year old abducted today is because it hasnt reached hysteria/fever so no bandwagon rolling for you to jump on yet.

There are no such parents. That's just your interpretation of a different kind of behaviour.

c'mon Awen, away from this, your head will explode ......

NKF
I had to tell them because initially it upset me and they wanted to know why i was upset. And not only that i wanted them to hear from me not the media or overhearing it somewhere or from an older child in the playground.

Ahhh! I thought as much.