Amber Peat

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Just read an article about Amber Peat and found it so utterly saddening. Complete emotional abuse and so severe that she felt she only had one way to stop it continuing. Horrific.

And so sad to know that she is likely to be one of thousands of even tens of thousands of kids experiencing this inadequate and sadistic parenting.

Emotional abuse is now recognised as a crime between partners. It should have been something that raised flags with teachers (which it did) such that they felt they could get her some help. Is there a gap in child protection procedures, or was this another sad safeguarding failure?

It Is an extremely sad story! I hope she is at peace now.

The parents are so self serving. Everything they say has a negative spin that sullies Amber. Labelling her attention seeking st every opportunity and trying to make it Ambers fault.
It’s so clear to us that’s it’s not.
I sincerely hope that they have serious consequences unfortunately though I don’t think they’ll ever change or reflect on their own culpability.

for Amber

the family went out for a meal on the night she went missing!

Changing the child’s name to his seemed quite a big move.
Why change the name of a 10 / 11 year old child?

“You are MINE now, to control” is what it says to me.

It does make such sad reading.

Have the parents got an injunction out?

I don't see how as the case has been fully reported on with their full names.

I read yesterday that there was a “craze” for self harm at Amber’s school- according to Amber’s mother at least. Children harming themselves and showing off about it. Her daughter stormed out the house and wasn’t reported missing for what? 8 hours? Even knowing that Amber might hurt herself, no one bothered to go out and look for her for hours. Poor, poor kid.

Imagine going shopping and having a meal while your child is missing. Fucking arseholes.

Her "parents" can spin what happened any way they like but the truth here shines out. This wasn't a case of neglect, this was abuse. The worst was her gran saying that Amber loved her mum - Im sure she did. What a pity her mum loved her stepdad more. Poor, poor girl.

The first inquest was done behind closed doors so no one knew about it. No one was allowed to discuss what was being said due to those involved taking out a blanket order. It was not until now that people are privey to the findings because it is the coroner who decides.

This is the coroner's inquest that is being reported on. What was the first inquest then? I haven't seen anything in the news about a secret earlier inquest.

I am so sorry to hear all these stories.

for all of you who have suffered.

I assure you Black cat sleeping there was an inquest held just after Amber died and nobody who wasn't involved could be there

The coroner has returned a narrative conclusion. In their statement it sounds very much like her mother still blames Amber, saying she had tried to seek help to deal with her behaviour

Just watched mums statement on local news. She seemed completely ambivalent about it. I don't think she cared about her one bit.

That poor poor girl. Devastating

I can't believe the statement (unless version on BBC website has been edited) says nothing about Amber, how they will miss her, nothing about her qualities or the daughter they have lost. That's not normal, is it?

I’ve just read the statement. So cold

Mums statement did say a bit about how she wondered what she would be doing now. But her demeanour standing behind the solicitor was odd.

Re mums statement- everyone else's fault !

So bloody angry. Too busy shagging the step father to be bothered about her own flesh and blood.

This is so devastating and makes me so angry. I get sick of reading about "missed opportunities" by the various agencies. I do realise that there must be lots of times when SS intervene and prevent more harm, we just don't hear about it. We only get news of the tragic cases. Victoria Climbe, Daniel Pelka are the two who spring to mind, but I am sure there have been others.
I think there is a case for fitting children who are deemed to be at risk with a small microphone, which parents are not allowed to remove. I am sure people will say that it would be an invasion of privacy, but to my mind, parents who are suspected of abuse should forfeit their privacy. After all, we are all on CCTV practically the minute we step outside, and most abuse happens at home behind closed doors.
Poor Amber, who did have the guts to voice her concerns, and was failed by our systems.

I will be very interested to read the serious case review.

I am angry with Mum but I am
Also angry with the MASH team too who advised the teacher to speak to the mum when she reported Ambers disclosure.

I can't look at photographs of this little girl, it makes my insides shake. I can relate to a lot of her story as previous posters have said - we moved house every year and went to lots of different schools, took lunch to school in a breadbag, dragged out of bed at night to be screamed at and made to clean up, constantly belittled and terrified, taunted for having mental health issues and punished for "showing up the family" if anyone else showed concern. My mother changed my name to my stepfather's when I was 8, without consulting me, and made me be the one to tell my father (he cried).

The look in that child's eyes is haunting. And I don't think either of the "parents" have lost a moment's sleep over her. People like that - they aren't capable of empathy or personal growth of any kind. Her mother will never accept that she wasn't just a rotten kid.

She was beautiful. Such lovely big dark eyes. So unfair that she wasn't loved by her parents as she should have been. Was her dad around? I haven't heard much about him. Was he kind to her?