Madeleine McCann info shown before Shrek, anyone else cross about this?

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I was. I have chosen NOT to tell my nearly 4yo about this. I haven't discussed it in detail with 9yo ds either I CHOOSE not to put the news on in our house. I really resent this being shoved at my children before a U cert movie. Completely inappropriate imo.

Im writing in response to the most outragous and degrading comments written in respect of my opinions i wrote earlier today. As i said i whole heartedly agree with the advert being shown proir to the shrek film. It is up to us parents to then talk to our children in a manner that will not frighten them or scar them but to educate them about real life. My opinion is that children cannot be hidden from the dangers that exist in the world forever. I do not agree that parents are bundling their children up in cotton wool and deciding what information they are told regarding the madeleine case. Of course they should be told! What do those parents do if their children do happen to find out about it? pretend it isnt real? Parents need to be sensitive and truthful with their children and discuss topics such as this openly at a level which is suitable for their age and ability to understand. If they do not what a shock their children will have when they do realise the world is actually full of danger! Bad things do happen, bad people do exist, unfortunately for all of us we have to deal with it not shut it away as if it is not there.
I hope to god that those over protective parents have not stopped this advert being shown as not only does it educate our children but it also continues to provide the publicity that the McCanns need to get their daughter back.
My question to those foolish parents is, what would you want done if your child is missing? Keep it quiet for fear of upsetting another child? I think the answer would be no, you too would want as much help and support that could possibly be gained. I think that the worry here is that those parents who object do not have the intelligence to be able to discuss the topic with their children and do not know the correct language skills and way to go about reassuring their own children that they are infact safe in their beds.
There is of course always the option of keeping your children locked away so that they never have to come into contact with anything that may worry or upset them! Totally ludicrous!

howq very bloody dare you!!!!

whatever.

what god does it do ot tlel them?
"Ooh kids keep your eyes open in your bedroom just in case"

no. they do not "need to know". they perhaps need to know about strangers, I was told to be careful of strangers when I was younger so that hasn't changed imo, but what is my 4 yo going to gain from knowing that children can be snatched from their beds while they're sleeping?

oh and, if one chooses to tell them is it acceptable to tell them everything? i.e. that the mccanns weren't actually there and that they were having dinner in a restaurant and had left the children on their own? or would that too be disrespectful? after all should we not tell them everything?

LOL at Haychee calling us thick while being unable to punctuate properly.

Dear, if you are going to criticise other people's 'language skills' then do try to write your post correctly...

The good it does them is let them know you can talk to mummy and or daddy openly and honestly. It does not have to be forced down their throats just brief and at a level thay cqan comprehend. You dont have to go to a level where they are scared out of their brains its just being honest. As i saud earlier, my daughter feels at times that she is invincible and that no harm will ever come to her. She needed being made aware of dangers that lurk all around us. Each child of course is different and some degree of empathy is required. Be assurred though that those of you who feel it necessary to not tell them anything, you need to be aware that they will find out at some point. Id prefer they heard it from me rather than all twisted up in the playground. Kids you know have big imaginations and if they do not hear the truth from someone they trust (ie parents) they tend to make up scenarios to fill in the gaps that they didnt understand.
So my answer to the question what good does it do is that it clarifies their misunderstandings and reassures them that their parents cna talk to them openly.

So...I have to tell my children that little girls get snatched from their beds while they are asleep because YOU say so?

She needed being made aware of dangers that lurk all around us.

Except people who steal children from their beds are not 'all around us', are they? So is totally pointless to scare your children with it.

To edam
A level english language for me! so, what do you have? Why do you have to pick on a minor typing error as your only form of defence? That is not a discussion that is just picking fault in someone elses typing. Ridiculous!
Go back to wrapping on more cotton wool to your child so that they never ever find out anything bad exists in our world.
Good luck when the truth arises in the playground, when they learn that it was actually a monster hiding in the room that ate madeleine up, because that is what is going to happen if you dont tell them the truth yourself. But im sure that would suit you better as that would mean that it didnt come out of your mouth. Anyway your far too busy pickig fault in others typing to worry about any of that!

I DONT WANT MY KDI TO THINK THERE IS DANGER IN HIS BEDROOM

i really want to come back with something but it would be just plain rude.

I think edam can claim to rather more than A level English actually.

Of course we dont want to scare our children - thats why we have to be open and sensitive to them. They will have it all twisted up in thier heads and will imagine all kinds of scenarios as kids do! That is exactly why we need to put them right!

haychee you said

'Id prefer they heard it from me rather than all twisted up in the playground'

and there you have hit the nail on the head. Because by showing it before a film, without people knowing it was going to be on, the decision has been taken out of your hands.

Not even the McCanns told their younger children what had happened straight away.

No-one here is wrapping their children in cotton wool. Some children get very scared by stories like these because they are not EMOTIONALLY mature enough to handle a story about a lovely girl being snatched from her bed while she was sleeping.

Surely, even the most fuckwitted person could understand that.

Do not come on here and tell us how to raise our children, haychee.

When a 4 year old catches Madeleine McCann's kidnappers, we'll all agree with you, OK? Until then, we will do the same as Kate and Gerry McCann and protect our children as we see fit.

Haychee, does that mean you need to tell your child about the 2 year olds uncle who brutally raped and strangled her??

Sorry but you point is completely ridiculous imo.

Blimey, I didn't know you could do that! Well done KM

HOW have you managed THAT!!!

bloody hell how did u get a picture on there?

They will have it all twisted up in thier heads and will imagine all kinds of scenarios as kids do! That is exactly why we need to put them right!

so...you put them right by saying a little girl, about your age, was sleeping peacefully in her bed with her brother and sister and someone came into the room and took her away, and nobody knows where she has gone, but it is possible that she might have been murdered or maybe she has been taken by a paedophile ring to be raped for the internet. That should do it.