Madeleine McCann info shown before Shrek, anyone else cross about this?

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I was. I have chosen NOT to tell my nearly 4yo about this. I haven't discussed it in detail with 9yo ds either I CHOOSE not to put the news on in our house. I really resent this being shoved at my children before a U cert movie. Completely inappropriate imo.

spot on dullwitch (and Enid who made exactly the same point 5 gazillion posts ago )

Spot on Enid!

Agree with Enid and dullwitch.

Telling small children that a child was 'snatched from her bed' is serving no purpose other than to frighten them to death. What responsible parent does that?

Stranger danger is an entirely separate issue.

I just dont understand the uproar about the showing of a trailer to find madeleine mccann before the shrek film.

Why are so many parents censoring this abduction from their children, I am very confused.

I already tell my 18 month old that their good and bad people in the world. Surely children should know about snatching and that it does happen and that it is infrequent, but it has happened to this little girl and now we must find her.

I was brought up in a protective bubble by my mother because she thought children should never know about such things, It was such a shock for me to find out the truth about the world, and I lot harder to digest as an adult because there was no period of adjusting.

I am reading about parents being secretive and even deceptive to their children about this.(pretending shes been found!) Amazing!
It seems to me that it is the parents that are much more upset over this than the children could ever be, and what is the anger that they see teaching them?

I am quite shocked!

Oh FFS, it's really quite simple to understand I think.

How does it help children to know that a child was asleep in bed, someone broke in and snatched them and now she's gone? Really, honestly, what do we expect our children to learn from that? How are we expecting them to modify their behaviour? I'd really like to know.

Quite, DullWitch.

And re "The subject of child abduction should be one of the first things we teach our little children" er, whoever said the nutters will be along any minute was right, it appears.

This issue, imo, isn't about the McCanns or finding Madeleine or about our sympathy and sadness, it's about what we choose to tell our children about news items and whether we get to choose or The Odeon gets to choose when and whether it's appropriate.

Anyway, I'm very pleased The Odeon have decided not to show it before U rated films any more. Agree with bakedpotato, Job Done as far as I'm concerned.

Now someone is going to come back and tell you about all hte children who are abducted from their beds, their baths, etc. and how that makes no difference, Kerry Mum .

But why let the fox loose among the chickens, IYKWIM?

Whatamiss, the McCanns themselves have told their younger children that their sister has gone away for a bit.

I have a nice aluminum one, Kerry Mum .

whatsamiss. you tell your 18 month old that there are 'bad people in the world'?? whatever happened to letting children have a childhood? yes bad things happen but i think your more likely to scare a child that young than do any good tbh.

I was surprised when I read that about the macanns, but as Madeleine is the twins sister, and that they also believe that they are going to get madeleine back, then telling the twins they "have gone away for a bit" is acceptable, as opposed to "someone naughty has taken Madeleine away so now we are trying to find her again etc.."which would have been more honest.

Does everyone think that their child will think that they would be snatched from their bed because it happened to another child, with a little "it does happen in some places, and you are not on your own in the house, mummy and daddy are here etc.." works wonders. The macanns are targeting adults/families mainly who see the films anyway, why exclude children?

My child will still have a childhood, but it is so important to be aware of things in the world. Information and awareness is so important, it might just save her life.

Why include children?

Oh get real. 3 and 4 year olds, and older, aren't rational adults - they don't think it through and think 'Ok, mum and dad are here, it's really rare, I'm fine' - even if you say that to them, it's there, the seed of possibility is sewn.

Plus, as we keep saying, there is no fecking value in it!

3 and 4 yr olds are not going to find her and 3 and 4 year olds can learn nothing from this incident - they can't change their behaviour. They can do absolutely f*ck all about it, except perhaps lie awake at night worried that it will happen to them.

And how will it save her life?

because children are not being told the whole story whatsamiss. the cinema ad does not say that her parents were out. so a child watching that is going to think that he/she could get snatched whilst mummy and daddy were home.

children are too young to hear/understand the whole story. they also don't understand the concept of 'this is very rare'. they will hear that it happened once and therefore assume it is likely to happen to them.

what at 18 months old?? ffs

whatamiss - can you answer the question - what will your child learn from this incident and how will it help them? This specific incident.

I hope I am not being flamed at...I just am getting that feeling. And I have read the whole tread.

It might save my childs life because she will grow up to be not trusting of just any adult should the situation arise of " come to my house and see some kittens" rouse.

If you say that children don't understand things at a young age then why do you think they would worry or understand about being snatched, they would forget the trailer 2 minutes after it was shown then.
And anyway, if they are interested and ask questions, then as responsible parents we reassure, and inform in a gentle way.

BUT NOBODY ASKED HER TO LOOK AT KITTENS!!! THEY TOOK HER FROM HER ROOM WHILE SHE WAS SLEEPING!!!

WHAT THE FECK COULD SHE DO???? NOTHING!

FGS it's not rocket science