Are you a Ms, a Mrs or a Miss?

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I'm a Ms, cos I'm not married and am far too old to be a Miss.

I remember the day I made the decision to be a Ms. Was in the late 80s, I was a teenager and my dad, who worked for a bank, told me that they were recruiting, and that any CVs that had 'Ms' on them were automatically binned. I was and decided then I was a) going to be a Ms and b) was never going to work in a bank. Oh and I didn't speak to him for the rest of the day

I am Mrs, changed to Mrs whe I marriednearly 9 years ago.

Ms original name. I am not a bitter anything (I hope) and have been very happily married to dh for 20 years.

I simply never felt the need to change my name, didn't want to lose a faily rare name for a more common one, had publised under my original name and didn't want to start building from scratch all over again with a new name.

I also feel that as adult women we should be recognised as such regardless of our marital status, as happens on the continent (and used to happen in the UK)

i am confused, what does Ms actaully stand for or mean??

what am i? i am divorced now but still Mrs pirate (ex dh's name)

if i go back to Miss ......, as I was, i dont think i would feel right. Can I just change to Ms (pirategirl ex dh's name) for continuity. Or do i have to legally change form MRS to Ms?????????/

You can legally call yourself whatever you like, as long as you don't do it with intent to break the law.

You can call yourself Mrs pirate, Miss Pirate, or Ms Pirate, it is up to you! You could even try Capt Pirate I suppose.

Ms started in the 70s when women chose to use a title that did not indicate their marital status They argued that you could not tell a mans marital status, since all adult men are called Mr regardless of if they are married or single (or divorced or Widowered)

They also argued that Mrs was a title that showed 'Adult' status to a women, and that this was only granted if that women married, in other words unmarried women were in some way seen as not fully adult. Historically womenin the UK would be called 'mrs' once they got to a certain age. This also happens on the continenet, with Frau and Madam.

Other people felt that this was not important/ needed and stuck wit the traditional uses of Miss and Mrs, as they were happy with them.

You just pick what you like.

Try not having a title at all - that really confuses people - god knows why.

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so for things like my bank dets, say on my card, can i just ring up and tell them to change it to Ms??

never done it myself, but I assume so.

I once worked for a woman who was Dr A B at work, and Mrs X Y at home. Had different doc for each. She didn't seem to have a problem.

I'm a Mrs, my mum is a Ms. She is
divorced but as she was married for about 10 years longer than she was single she feels her married name is her proper name now so kept it and just changed to Ms.

yeah thats how i feel i really dont mind my married name, as it is the same as dd's afterall, and feels 'right'. I may just changeit too Ms 'pirate 'then. I tend to just sign my name or if i have to fill in a form, as just 'firstname' 'pirate( married surname)'

i use all three
so, am a dont know

I'm married, a Ms and have been for most of my life, since I became a feminist, which was when I was about 19

Mrs.

Bizarrely, I recently had to fill something in and for some reason put my forename in full whereas I usually use 'Sue'. My maiden name followed automatically and then I signed the document using my married signature.

A Ms unless a develishy handsome man is asking and then I become a Miss .

so a MS just means you are older kind of?

i wanna be a miss now

am a mrs (which i have always hated and i hate it when women say "oh i am so proud to be a mrs - get a life!)

but i am going to change it to Ms.
wish i kept my own surname too.

I like Ms, it has right tone of 'mind your own business' I always feel.
Yesterday I was talking to German friends about same subject, Fraulein been dumped long ago as too archaic and value loaded.
I lived in France and it always amazed me that I would always be greeted as Mademoiselle though in my mid 20's and accompanied by my son. People seem naturally to clock instantly that you're not wearing a wedding ring and you'll be addressed as Mademoiselle till your 90's.

i still use Miss

i'm 30, have been with DP for 10 years, and we have 4 children - how does using Miss make me childish?

i'm not offended if someone refers to me as a Ms infact the bank actually put that title on my card - maybe they think i should grow up too

unmarried but living in sin 20 years
miss
i like it

I think Ms should be changed to something like Miy which is actually pronounced Misty - it sounds much nicer than Muzz

Misty Jones
Mister Jones
Misses Jones

lol maybe we should start a campaign to find a different alternative

i agree- MuZZZZZZZZ is not nice

Muzzzz reminds me of 'Muzzy' thing advertised on tv - not quite sure why though!?!

I agree that I don't think Miss is necessarily childish - it conjures up images of schoolmarms to me - but use Ms Hassled (maiden name) despite being recently married on the basis that a) I like my maiden name, and no-one would expect DH to change his, and b) I don't see why I should have to reveal my marital status on a form. Unless there's an "Are you married?" question which applies to both genders.