Are you a Ms, a Mrs or a Miss?

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I'm a Ms, cos I'm not married and am far too old to be a Miss.

I remember the day I made the decision to be a Ms. Was in the late 80s, I was a teenager and my dad, who worked for a bank, told me that they were recruiting, and that any CVs that had 'Ms' on them were automatically binned. I was and decided then I was a) going to be a Ms and b) was never going to work in a bank. Oh and I didn't speak to him for the rest of the day

If anyone asks me if I am a Miss or Mrs I phone the police

tis rude and highly frightening for a woman of my frail nature to be asked such insulting questions in this day and age

e should all be like Malcom X really as even our last names are horrid patriarchal legacy.

Miss

I've known various wimmin who've reinvented their surnames...

DP is in Sweden at the moment. Presumably swigging vodka among naked blonde women, if he's lucky.

I prefer just to be called by my first name, but if someone calls me "Mrs (my surname)", I just think of my MIL!

DS1 calls his friend's mums by their first names, and I am addressed by my first name - is this normal now? (when I was a kid I called all my parents' friends by their titles and surnames which even now makes me feel really uncomfortable....)

Use Mrs as I'm married and proud of it, but kept my maiden name which really confuses people!

Well, certainly I'm a Ms. Apart from formal school secretaries, but after a couple of weeks we're cronies & though they call me Mrs HisIndoorsName it's with a noticeable twinkle.

In 1985 I took a call for my flatmate who had applied for a job with a feminist library in California. The woman said it was Patricia Ecks calling. I was puzzled and asked her to spell it. She did not display a sense of humour.

If someone asks for Mrs DPssurname I explain she's dead. In fact I once said - quite truthfully, as DP's mum had just died - 'she died last week'. The caller (sales) wasn't even put off.

LOL bibis absolutely all of the above

When they ring up and ask for Mrs. DP I am always very tempted to give them his ex-wife's phone number

I do agree though that a title that indicates our marital status is unnecessary and archaic.

I also object to any word that ends with "ess" - like "actress", "aviatrix" or whatever.

Why can't we just be actors, aviatrix, or whatever, without being demeaned?

Mrs

Now men do have it easier with this one, they are just Mr before and after marriage (or sir etc).
I faff around with both, or avoid using any title if i can.
Then again i faff around with my surname too, work name is my maiden name, mrs for schools and estate agents lol
In fact I think im having an identity crisis of sorts!
Swedish system sounds ideal

Oops obviously that should have been aviator!

ms and own surname (although married). dont answer to anything else.

Ms - but am suddenly more interested in MI's chocolate brownies.

what are you writing about Quakers, MI?
Did you use chocolate from one of the old Quaker firms?

What Moondog said.

I don't believe women have their own names, really, surnames are just signifiers of patriarchy - which is perhaps perversely why I changed my name, to one that signified my choice rather than the biological accident that 'named' me.

I usually go by Mrs, but only til I get my PhD

I am writing about Quakers because I am writing about a rather nice radical funding body, but yes the chocolate is all ethical. Actually so is the sugar, it's from Traidcraft. God I'm such a Mizz

Mrs but very rarely

TB I all but beg people to use my first name, not a Mrs sort of person

Obv will ahev to change that when I start teaching BUT I am going to have enough flack for my surname that i am sure I will get over it!

That's good MI< don't think you're allowed to consume non fairtrade chocolate whilst writing about Quakers (unless its Borneville Obv, or cadburys I guess)

I like the Quakers- just finished a rather good book of Quaker writings. Decent people.

Dr. Or Frau. Or Frau Dr

(live in Germany and they do use Herr/Frau and Dr together)