Chantelle and Preston - Can you actually split up after 10 months of marriage and then seriously claim to take marriage seriously?

[beansprout]

I think not.

And now I suddenly feel old.

They were not truly in love, more in love with their own egos imho.

Shiny, my kinship with Beansprout was from the antenatal thread and directed towards her not at you and has not translated well - apologies.

It was a meeting of minds/brains. Nuff said.

Chavtastic abuse of the media IMO.

I loathe BB, so I offer my comments based purely on what I have been subjected to post BB.

maybe my world is abnormal but I don't know anyone who has got married to someone after knowing them for a few weeks only to divorce (or not!?) months later! In fact, amongst my group of friends, we have been with partners for years (13 for me, one ds) and none of us are married. in fact, I went to my first "friend wedding" this year after 10 yr relationship, my cousin after 12yr relationship and other wags are between 5-10yrs but no rings!(but I am sure that we are not the norm either). So it does grate me a bit when celebs seem to think that its normal and then the relationship is on the rocks soon after (thinking Drew Barrymore, Preston, Britney, Renee Zellweger am sure there must be more). I am a cynic and always think its just newspaper columns that lure to marriage not love.. except Peter and Jordan!

Anyway, maybe I am just bitter as I'm still mithering DP!

Well, I have a friend who got married and divorced a few months later after she discovered that her husband had been telling lies about practically everything. She even lost her home over it and went back to live with her parents. It does happen, and not just to celebrities.
I never feel anything but heartbroken about these divorces.
And I don't think it's about how long you know the person, either - I knew Dh a month before he proposed, and we married about 5 months after that. I honestly think the poor things have fallen for a definition of marriage that hasn't stood up to the hard times. I hope they can perhaps get some relate counselling or something, because those kinds of issues won't go away, even with a future partner.

Obviously it's awful if someone makes a terrible mistake and marries someone who's an arse, like subaroos friend, but I think the crazed celebrity marry then divorce within months thing is more to do with money and their egos. Because they can afford a huge fantasy wedding and they are constantly told they are great and they are right and they are brilliant getting married after knowing someone weeks doesn't seem like such a bonkers idea. I've never understood why on earth these people don't just live together for a bit. Who says you have to marry? We're fortunate enough to live in a society where women don't HAVE to marry for security or for couples to have children.

Im not surprised i always thought she could do better he looked too smug for my liking. and he also dumped his pretty girlfriend for her in the first place so he didnt seem like a nice guy to begin with.

I was thinking that an "addition issue" was probably to do with the fact that one (or both!) of them couldn't add up, which when you thhink about it probably isn't that too far-fetched [retracting claws emoticon]

Oooh MrsMar, don't let the "chastity ring" girl, or any of her crowd, hear you say that..

Or indeed many of the Mners on that thread who jumped on me when I suggested that sex before marriage was a good idea not least because of any possible incompatibility issues on that score! (I suppose it's possible to be fab at foreplay and crap at the actual act!)