Chantelle and Preston - Can you actually split up after 10 months of marriage and then seriously claim to take marriage seriously?

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I think not.

And now I suddenly feel old.

Being done on another thread. Already scores of lovely people sneering at the end of a marriage they actually know little about other than what the papers choose to print.

You could go sneer there with them.

What's that old saying - marry in haste, repent at leisure? We got engaged after 6 weeks, and I know from experience that once the initial euphoria and lust wears off it can be a bit of a shock. We've been married for 13 years now, but marriage is not always a bed of roses, that's for sure!

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Has a split been announced? Haven't heard this.

And I'm not sneering, Shiny...

Calm down shiny. It's a fair observation to comment that a commitment that you are supposed to make FOR LIFE, for better for worse, etc etc etc really should be able to last a bit longer than 10 months. Otherwise, why get married?

There's a great comment on the Grauniad website about this. Someone just said, "oh thankgod something has happened, I didn't know how we were going to fill the paper today".

Leave Beany alone - she's only pointing something out!!

I am calm. The fact is, people don't actually know how or why they have split, they can only speculate. I'm sure there are things that any of us would have left our DH's for "after only ten months" if it was dreadful enough! Or vice versa.

And then imagine having half the world speculate over it.

Aw shucks, thanks countto10!

"Leave Beany alone" Oh dear, oh dear. I don't believe I have suddenly morphed into a playground bully.

Given the way this relationship started, it's hard not to be a bit [hmmm] about it. But as a general statement it's a bit harsh, there may well be damn good reasons why couples would split up quite quickly (violence/addition issues say)

Maybe if they hadn't made so much money out of their relationship in the first place, I might just be a bit more sold on the whole idea of their deep and lasting love for each other?

Why not actually be together for a while and see if you like each other and then get married?!

What's an addition issue mummytosteven?

I'd say clearly and obviously mismatched, but just madly in love at the beginning. I think the idea of marrying in the first flush is lovely and swoonsome. But the reality is probably very different.

After much soul-searching and tearful discussions we have sadly decided to end our marriage," they said in a joint statement.

"We hope we can always remain friends and still love each other but we both think we put so much pressure on one another to make our marriage work that it has ended up destroying our relationship. No one else is involved in our decision."

So - the pressure of making their marrieg work has caused the split. Ahhh..it's all becoming clearer!

Well.. at the risk of being shrieked at to "leave you alone" again.. say, for instance, that after 10 months of marriage you found out your DH was shagging your sister.. would you end the marriage?

I have no idea why they split but it could be some reason as dreadful. Or worse.

oooops - meant addiCtion issue.

We knew that we wanted to get married within a month of meeting each other, but decided to leave it until we had been together for a bit. Thought it might be nicer if people were genuinely pleased for us than raising their eyebrows and running a book on how long it would last.

Paolo'sgirl.. that's just an engineered press release seriously unlikely to have anything to do with the real reasons.

I'd be amazed - I don't have a sister.

You seem very convinced that there is some absolutely compelling reason as to why they have split up. It could just be that they did it all a bit quickly and have decided they don't like each other after all. That's fine, relationships run their course, just don't get married in the meantime!!

This is what happens when you go into marriage thinking it's all hearts and flowers and making love on rose petals and kissing every 45 seconds and having a soaring heart and heaving bosom every time you make eye contact.

It wears off very quickly.

Then you realise he squeezes his armpit boils and he sees you pulling out a chin hair with your fingernails and you run for the hills because it suddenly dawns on you this is real life, you are not cinderella and marriage really is a fairy tale.

Grim.

Haven't followed their relationship in the media (did watch celeb bb though). Bet there was a lot of pressure for them to get wed from a commercial point of view. Can't imagine they didn't have a big magazine deal to cover their wedding. Would've been surprised if it had lasted longer than 10 months tbh.

Shiny - why do you choose to doubt their joint statement? Is it just not interesting enough??!

I feel sorry for them, but at least they've seperated now, rather than a few years down the line when they've had children.