I think there was negligence and unproffesional behaviour in all parties concerned!! Terrible, those poor poor people.
I have to say that i have noticed this across the board, with nurses doctors and midwives. 95% of them are wonderful but the attitude of others beggars belief. You feel so helpless and at the mercy of these people during labour, at least that was my experience, i often wonder how far i came from a tragedy as my birth was traumatic and whilst the staff were wonderful, i did sense an air of "oh fuck, i can't believe this woman has been left for 27 hours in labour and the baby has still not engaged, now what the fuck are we going to do" from the doctor. I remember him getting cross with me because i hadn't been pushing, i was told not too!!!! Even though i had been telling the midwives for the past hour i wanted to push, he thought id been ODing on gas and air, i'd had none!! I took an instant dislike to him, arrogant bastard, i remember saying to him, why the hell are you here, there must be something wrong, i dont want you here, and him getting more cross because he thought i was being shy about him having his arm inside me like a pregnant cow - believe me, i coudlnt have cared less, i thought my baby was going to die!!! They didnt keep me informed at all, i could hear the heart rate falling and then they kept losing it, i was terrified. There was a general round of panic and fetching of stirrups from the other delivery suite (the ones in my room had gone missing!) to FINALLY intervene, and it was while this was going on i thought, Fuck you lot, im going to do this my self, it was when i took control in my mind that i managed to give birth to my DD naturally, so while i had spent my whole pregnancy thinking i would have the baby in hospital, i wish i had her at home or birthing centre as i feel if i had more control i would have pulled myself together more and probably popped her out in a few hours! All my poor DP could remember was there being a bible beside the bed and because we were so badly informed that our baby was going to die! THANK GOD, i actually think my experience wasnt that bad, it just felt that way, my birth was recorded as natural with no problems. My wonderful baby girl was born and the first thing i said was, is she still alive, but that was all forgotten when they handed me a screwed up little olive of a baby, masses of black curly hair and long black eye lashes (she is platinum blonde now aged 22 months), nine pound nine ounces (no wonder she got stuck!) but no stitches (proud, umm, i think)
Sorry to hijack this, probably not the place but it did make me think, im just so sorry for these people. I hope they all get the sack!