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Cant believe someone would do this,

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lilymolly · 06/06/2007 19:35

mums leaves kids on dual carriage way

this happened locally to me and has been on the teatime local news all evening.

The mother chucked the 2 daughters out onto the A69 which is a very high speed dangerous road, after an argument about her daughter forgetting dance shoes when they where running late

She is allegedly a smart professional women

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lilymolly · 06/06/2007 19:37

a better description

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PinkChick · 06/06/2007 19:37

what a horrible woman, she has no right to be called a mother!, those girls could have been killed! all over some shoes!

lisad123 · 06/06/2007 19:38

My dad used to threaten this when we were kids and one day did it. However was not on motorway.
Im just glad the kids are ok
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Kaz33 · 06/06/2007 19:38

My dad chucked me out of the car on the way to Littlehampton. I think I was about 8. He drove off, it seems like an age (maybe ten minutes) till he came back but no doubt it wasn't. I had decided that i would walk home. Bit scary and I was very quiet after I was picked up

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lilymolly · 06/06/2007 19:42

I can somehow imagine doing this on a very quiet road, actually on second thoughts, no could not do it.

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CountessDracula · 06/06/2007 19:46

I kicked dh off a motorbike in Greece because he was moaning too much

chipmonkey · 06/06/2007 19:47

I have threatened fighting boys with this but never actually followed through!

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lilymolly · 06/06/2007 20:23

threatening is one thing, but just abandoning them is quite another

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Rachmumoftwo · 06/06/2007 20:29

Lol at Countess Dracula! I have been tempted to abandon DH but never DDs.
I pulled over once when DD was hitting her sister and refused to go any further until they behaved, but could never leave them. Problem is you shouldn't make threats and not follow them through, which is why I wouldn't threaten to kick them out of the car just in case they call my bluff.

fireflyfairy2 · 06/06/2007 20:32

My dad put my sister & I out at the side of the road on the way to visit our aunt one Sunday

And he didn't come back for us!!

We had to walk the 2 miles to our aunts house. We were 10 & 12 though & our cousins walked to meet us when my dad arrived without us

newlifenewname · 06/06/2007 20:38

My Dad left my sister at the park when she was about 5 or 6 I think. I was there. We didn't come when he said it was time to go. Eventually I packed in playing, she didn't so my Dad took me and got in his car. He then drove to the other side of the park, which was 2 mins drive away and 3 or 4 mins walk and walked back across the park to collect her. I guess he thought in that time she'd figure out that he meant business when he said it was time to go.

Anyway, my sister was getting into the back of a man's car when my Dad arrived back on the scene. She'd told him she lived in (name of town) through floods of tears and he's offered to find her house with her.

Will never know whether he was a genuine man offering a child help. Does not bear thinking about.

My sister got the bollocking of her life all the way home. My mum came home from work that evening and I remember hearing my mum crying downstairs while my Dad told her all about it.

Gosh! 'tis like therapy telling you all this...

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lilymolly · 06/06/2007 20:40

at that tale.

Agree threatening should be followed up with action, so lets all agree not to threaten abandonment

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Malaleche · 06/06/2007 20:42

the fact that it says they got out of the car of their own accord and that the older one had done it on about 20 previous occasions suggests to me that the mother only has to stop the car during an argument to signal that she wants them to get out. If this has happened 20 times before i think she needs a very much bigger kick up the ass than she has recieved...and some parenting classes....or maybe community service visiting children in hospital who have been in traffic accidents....

Songbird · 07/06/2007 11:40

Yeah, £2000? Not enough IMO.

twinsetandpearls · 07/06/2007 11:43

Dp once threatened to kick dd out of the car due to her bahviour she continued so he booted her out with me so I could keep an eye on her! I had to stand in the rain watching her having a tantrum until dp returned.

babygrand · 07/06/2007 11:44

I've almost dumped my children many a time after arguments in the car!

lemonaid · 07/06/2007 11:44

It sounds as though her story is that she just stopped the car during the argument and the girls climbed out of their own volition and ran off and then she was looking for them. Which sounds mighty fishy to me, admittedly.

rey · 07/06/2007 11:49

Hard to believe someone would actually do it. Must admit I too have made such a threat but never ever carried it out and wouldn't and the children know this I'm sure as it makes no difference. This woman needs parenting help surely!

lemonaid · 07/06/2007 11:55

And if her version is true then someone needs to explain the notion of the childlock to her...

Piffle · 07/06/2007 11:57

ahhh, me and my brother were turfed out on state highway 1 in NZ in the 70's. we survived ad deserved it and never pissed her off in the car again
WE were taken home by the police who also lectured us on driving our parents mad...

clumsymum · 07/06/2007 12:04

Ha, I threatened ds with this just this morning, on the way to school because he had argued with me about brushing his teeth, then used the F word (first time ever) when I told him no computer tonight. When we got in the car he said a grudging 'sorry' followed by 'but you made me angry by asking me to brush my teeth and I had to let my anger out so I swore'

At which point I stopped the car, said 'Right, I've had enough, get out, take yourself to school.' (we were 3 mins walk away by now)

He didn't, he said sorry again I said 'I expect better than this', and carried on.

Deffo wouldn't have done it on a dual carriageway tho'.

Riss70 · 07/06/2007 12:08

We lived in a very small country town and I once pulled over and put the little ones out of the car and went to get back in - we were on a dirt track and they were put out onto a field but it seemed to do the trick as the two littlest ones remember and always know whn I tell them that screaming in the car will see them left on the roadside because thy become quiet qickly. I would NEVER do that one the side of a suburban/urban street busy or not but a coutry track with only the residents using the road and not driing off that was a differnt story

brimfull · 07/06/2007 12:14

Can still remember my mum doing this in Canada on dual carriageway.She only drove a few hundred yards then stopped whilst we raced to get in.

DragonFaerie · 07/06/2007 12:42

MN Justine discussing on Jeremy Vine now.

tigerschick · 07/06/2007 12:54

I heard Justine too - thought she made a few good points.
I agree that I really don't think I could do it. Especially not considering how long it was before the mother went back for them!