why do i read stuff on this topic

[FluffyMummy123]

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its ot just in the news stuff, we have lots in general subject that upsets me, but i will not say oh it upsets, because i read it.
im pg at the moment, and read some1 went scan and found baby dead, or some other sad stories happen to ppl,it upset me so much, it may be terrified me to death, i couldnt eat and stop thinking about it couple days till my scan and when i went scan and saw baby i cried, ppl must thought i was excited, no i felt im releaved after all worry, and dh told me off internet, he was mad i keep reading this sad stories and winding myself up so much, i felt ill.
so its certainly thing just happens normal on web space. ppl disguss whatever they want to, its defo upsets many of us, we got to understand that we cant do much..
and not being mean, i never though cod was soo sensitive towards this kind of subject. im sorry, hope i didnt offend you, but i find ppl get personally upset by your comments. i suppose when they get old fishi they get used to...
and agree with you, its hard when upset, it stays days...

i found the toddler one no the bbc website before i came accross the mn thread.

i was thinking about this one alot last night as well. what can you do. news is news and people do horrible, stupid things no matter what.

It's pretty much imposible to avoid being upset by things. It's very rare indeed for people to actually die from being upset or offended. And when you're in a vulnerable emotional state you might well find yourself blubbing desperately over f**g Balamory if Archie loses his screwdriver.
And, indeed, I do find some of the threads where someone posts a description or a link of some or other Bad Thing and then there's 600 posts of other MNers saying nothing more than "Boo hoo, how dreadful" it's a bit hard to see any particular point in it.
But it's always better to allow for discussion than prohibit it - of my many Favoured Sayings, here's this one: 'If censorship's the answer, it was a fucking stupid question.'

I find it a lot worse when people say, oh bohoo..a freind of a friend has found out that a friend of a friend has cancer...I mean...come omn who are you kidding that is pure attentionseeking in the way...bohoo...feel sorry for me...yes, i ahve posted recently a thread about w acousin (not in th new,s ands she had a late miscarriage, which she had to give birht too...she was 18 weeks...first Kids was emergency c-section....) so, her first vaginal Birth being a deth birht, not pleasant...but I didn't jsut post for myself, to feel better myself, but mayb eto learn how to help that person, in this case my cousin...but so many people feel "upset" by their neighbours neightbour, even though they would say wtf if nothing seriously was wrong there...a lot of woo be me there!

so much with MrsJC - some posters, it seems, just can't wait to do a link to some tragic/devastating news. And the baying hounds that sometimes follow it are a bit to stomach as well - it's like they compete to see who could be the most violent in language, no matter what the victim/victim's family may possiblly want - just a chance to to be graphically unpleasant. And spare me the "what if it was your XXYYZZ?" line.

I started a thread about this - it's when people put stuff in the thread title that I object to it - I've since seen some with "upsetting" in the title and not opened them.

But posting a link to a news story with a isn't inviting debate, it's mawkish and disrespectful, IMO.

And then the thread title is on active convos, being endlessly bumped and constantly "in yer face".

I agree if I don't want to read something, I won't read it - fair enough. But when it's in active convos, you can't avoid it.

I didn't read anything about the story you mean, Cod, because I heard a snippet on the radio and it made me feel quite, quite ill - really disturbed.

agree totally with Pann, i don't mind a debate but it's the pinkos vs rednecks thing i find distasteful. the paucity of the thinking makes my toes curl.

but i don't think tortoiseshell posting it was wrong, per se, she's not in control of the lynch mob.

i also gathered very quickly that i had heard enough about the details on the radio and didn't wish to know more, as much to protect myself as to respect the privacy of the family, so i didn't click on the link. but i must say i do prefer a more constructive thread OP than just a link and a stupid sad face.

Well sometimes the existence of a thread offers the opportunity (Ok a dog turd in my beer offers me the opportunity to make some kind of capital or at least good anecdote out of it) to administer a bit of a friendly smack-on-head to vigilante tendencies. Gently, nicely (or indeed, in online terms, rudely with lots of swearing) questioning the sort of emotional incontinence and idiot vigilantism that sometimes goes on is maybe a way of educating people out of it.

i'd be inclined to agree with you except that i never see any change in attitudes. it felt like a war round here when Big Brother was going on, so many racist views being expounded and not a single consciousness raised by the end of it...

Aitch, have not even read the op but just wanted to laud you on the use of the word paucity (despite not having an arse what it means)ah well........ sounds sooooooooooo pucity note to self....put down glass of wine and google pucity........

Paucity even! btw what does it mean?

scarcity, lack... that sort of thing. i was too scared to come right out and say that they're a bunch of thickos.

Pats self on the back for not being afraid to admit to ignorance of certain words.

"Never be afraid to say you don't know what something means - 'tis how you learn."

My nan taught me that!

that's what i love about the pedant threads, i always learn something new.

I can't read these either.