Bless you! You have faith under all that don't you?
God is referred to as male that is true. But we were all created in his likeness and I doubt, as you say, that he separates us just because of our genitalia. Men have done that.
It has been and continues to be argued that the church is more feminine than male. There were certainly just as many women prophets as men, but not all their testimonies made it into the Bible. I think Jesus tried to address the issue when he came down to earth. Mary was given a great honour, as was her cousin Elizabeth, and indeed she has been crowned as Queen of Heaven.
Jesus had a very theological discussion with the woman at the well in Bethseda (I think, I don't have my Bible to hand, can't be bothered getting it).
It is not certain what part Mary M played in Jesus's life. She was NOT a prostitute however as widely thought. The Bible does not go into much detail about Mary. She is supposed to have written her own Testament but this is unconfirmed and it's source, unreliable.