Nigella. Would you have intervened?

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So sorry for Nigella. Shocked no-one intervened. Was it because they were famous?

May be totally wrong but given his age could it be dementia? Could that explain her reaction?

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2342414/Nigella-Lawson-choked-husband-Charles-Saatchi-pictures-spark-outrage.html

I would have called the police to report this assault. Abuse goes across all classes and creeds, it is no respecter of class or culture.

A playful tiff!
I would hate to see his "I'm annoyed with you".

Fortunately not all media commentators are like that twit from the Grauniad:-

www.telegraph.co.uk/women/10124010/Nigella-Lawson-yes-it-can-happen-to-her.html

that picture makes me so sad, she looks so ashamed.

Not my idea of a 'playful tiff'! His trying to 'spin' the incident has backfired I think.

ooh, can anyone join in with the "playing"?

Yes, I'd like to playfully put my hands around the delightful Mr Saatchi's neck

I expect he wouldn't like it very much though. Can't think why.

Playful tiff - utter bollocks, IMHO, Mr S.

Yes I would of intervened but in a very indirect way as in saying to my husband loudly 'oooo nigela lawson remember that recipe I made of hers' in thr hope it would make him realise they are being watched

Charles Saatchi allegedly has accepted a caution...if so interesting because he must have admitted it and she must have agreed with the caution (I think)
ukcrime.wordpress.com/2013/02/22/cautions-adults/

Charles Saatchi allegedly has accepted a caution...if so interesting because he must have admitted it and she must have agreed with the caution (I think)
ukcrime.wordpress.com/2013/02/22/cautions-adults/

Yes I would have and the reason I know this is I've actually had to stop a man straggling the woman he was with and another trying to glass the one he was with. Used to work in a nightclub and both of these things happened in front of a busy bar, surrounded by lots of people. The first guy was properly strangling her though and if I hadn't have stopped him he might of actually succeeded.

Can't quite believe that none of the staff at the restaurant saw anything. That is just as much bollocks as smarmy saachis story.

And now this (via the BBC news website) from him:-

He said he voluntarily went to a police station to accept the caution as "it was better than the alternative of this hanging over all of us for months".

Words fail me.

Jilted. I could be wrong, but from what I saw of pictures, the out in the street bit wwhere they were sitting on the pavement is outside the restaurant. And to go back indoors, a waiter comes outside, to do whatever and then disappears through a door to go back inside again.
So it is quite likely that no staff saw what happened.

It could be but having worked in places like that, it just find it highly unlikely.

I should imagine that the staff have been told that they are not say anything, the owners of the restaurant wanting to be seen to be totally discreet to their customers. Scotts probably see it as business first, assualt second.

I've read that if women intervene they have a better chance of calming things down, against a guy perpetrating violence.

It's really hard to say what you would have done unless you were there. If Nigella had called for help, or he had really hurt her so she couldn't breathe, then yes. I might have asked her , gently, if she was okay. I would not have confronted him.

I have intervened before (friend and her boyfriend, him hitting her head off a wall she refused to speak to me for a week she was 17, I hope she did better tbh).

But in that situation, I think to be very honest I would have been completely flummoxed by seeing two famous people in a very incongruous situation and would not have immediately been able to know what to do.

No I would not intervene because past experience (not my relationship) tells me that an outsider will make the situation worse. If he had been knocking the living daylight out of her or the violence continued I would intervene.

I tried to intervene once. Late night, walking home from tube, vaguely aware a couple on the other side of the street arguing - then realised, as I passed them, that they were grappling and he was kicking her. I hesitated, but decided to Do Something and ran over to their side of the road, asking her if she was OK.

He let go - well, they let go of each other, I couldn't quite see who had grabbed who first. But he was bigger and stronger. Became apparent they were both drunk.

I asked her again if I could do anything or call anyone but she insisted not. He'd shambled off down the street by now. I made a final attempt to persuade her to let me get some sort of help, and she said 'He's my husband, he's my curse' and walked off. (In a strong Irish accent - this may have been before Ireland legalised divorce, can't remember quite when that happened.)

Then 200 yards further down I heard shouting and realised they'd caught up with each other, but clearly saw this time she attacked him so I decided to leave them to it...

Good for you Mrs DVere.

None of it is your fault.

And how could you watch that without shouting?