4 year old starved to death by his parents

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Horrendous Story

What i can't understand is why all the people who could have helped him: Teachers, school nurse, doctors etc could not see he was being mistreated. My 2 1/ year old weighs more than that poor child when he died.
I am just sickened by his needless death and the hand wringing "if only's" by the other adults who should have protected him

nettle1, thanks for the replies. I really can't tell you anything as I'm worried it will identify me or the child. We are having a meeting with the family and someone from CS later this week. I don't hold out much hope to be honest, but will certainly keep your advice to hand. I won't give up, I couldn't live with myself if I did.

I understand lara2 and thank you for your response. I didn't anticipate you could provide more information. Hope that you take up the advice of my colleague if it becomes necessary. Can you at least in the vaguest terms let me know if there is a satisfactory outcome or if you do contact the nspcc. Even if you can inbox me. Im new to this forum so not sure how that works. Good luck and im so Glad the child has at least got you as an advocate

Please try to visit the Facebook page ' Justice to Daniel Pelka' which has been lovingly put together in memory of this child. It is heartening to read some of the comments

I couldn't find it nettle, do you have a link?

The page looks like it is temporarily unavailable. Hopefully this will be back up soon. It appears on google, but sadly the link is not working. Its a beautiful page, very respectable and thoughtfully put together x

But he wasn't starved to death though, he died of an injury.
It seems the school did all it could do, passing on their concerns to the relevant people.
Nobody could have predicted what happened next.
The only way to have prevented it was to take him into care and budget cuts mean the resources to do this just are not there.

Thanks nettle, I did find it eventually but it's gone this morning, I hope it's only down temporarily, it looked really good with lots of updates about the trial. I hope it wasn't forcibly removed because they were trying to organise a demonstration.

It's back! www.facebook.com/JusticeForDanielPelka

I read about this a couple of weeks ago and just can't stop thinking about this little boy. I have a son in reception and everything we have been doing, making cakes, giving him a bath, just normal stuff, i just keep thinking how sad and scared he must've been. I hope that he had a little love. Just can't understand how it has happened. Still don't understand why more wasn't done. Just keep thinking how alone he must've felt. So sad and sorry.

Sorry - i meant how scared Daniel must've been.

I feel the same syork, I cried and cried over this and can't stop thinking about that poor little boy. It's just awful and I'm so sad he wasn't helped in time. I have a four year old and I just can't imagine doing anything to intentionally hurt him. I suppose it's useless to apply rational thinking to the behaviour of the people who did this though.

I just wish i could give him a hug. He must've wondered why his life was like that compared to other children.

Says who? I don't remember any referendum asking whether children should be allowed to starve to death rather than .

The UK is a rich country. It is not official government policy to allow children to be killed in their own homes. Local authorities should perhaps remember this when allocating resources.

Syork I feel exactly the same way. Just keep asking myself 'why why why' would parents do this to a child. The text messages are just awful. But it's like people who torture animals - they are just wired differently so you cannot apply rational thinking to their actions. They must get some sort of sadistic pleasure out of controlling an innocent being.

How can we even begin to try to imagine what that little boy's day to day life was like?

And how can such evil exist? It's beyond nightmarish and yet it happens and does exist.

My heart is heavy with anger and overwhelming grief for the innocent life that was taken, tortured and which endured the most miserable of existences before being eventually murdered.

That little boy deserved everything we strive to give our own children and it's bloody heartbreaking to think that he never experienced even the most fleeting show of kindness from these two.

What a tragic life and an horrific waste.

May he rest in peaceful dreams.

This has shocked me to the core

Oh God, FeegleFion, reading what you wrote induced me to tears....unbearable. I cant read any more about this as it took two weeks before I could sleep at night without that little boy's face entering my head and he is still there...

Those brutes and others like them should never walk free as they are a blight on society. Its a paradox that where humans are capable of the most wonderful acts of kindness and have such a propensity for love and sacrifice, there are those whose base existence, their depraved, cruel and sadistic actions cause us to question the point of our existence and just WHY? It just makes no sense. Again, the authorities should have done more and I hope there is a proper enquiry, but I doubt there will be. There are so many children being failed by the authorities. Look at Keanu Williams only last week. Another beautiful little lad, who was cruelly tortured by the mother who was supposed to idolise him. The local authority again failed this child miserably, spotting the most obvious signs.

Lara2 have you managed to get anywhere in your matter?

nettle for that innocent baby's sake, and for others like him, I'm glad my words moved you...

...I just wish they'd never been necessary.

Looks like they close the facebook page at night time- probably to prevent any unwanted comments being left that they cant respond to straight away.

to those people who say the school did enough, I hope you are following the reports of the condition of this little boy.....

i e just posted about this on aibu... i keep getting all tearful when i hear the details.... but im following it cos im waiting to see what their sentence will be. if i was the judge id sentence them to be subjected to the same abuse for the same length of time then death by lethal injection. but sadly i dont have that jurisdiction

my heart bleeds for that poor boy. when i eat, i cant help but think about his little hungry face

this story really has demolished me emotionally

I am really struggling with this story - have been tearful for a month and feel so much grief for him, even though i never knew him. It was when i saw his picture, my heart and stomach lurched, even though i live hundreds of miles away. I do have 2 boys, one in reception and everything we do together, i just keep thinking on Daniel and how hard and sad his life was. I can't understand that he was seen by people every day and no one helped him.

Same - my daughter is in reception and I have been feeling guilty that she is loved and taken care of, when that poor boy wasn't.

I don't know him but live around 40 miles away.

I keep wishing the parents had said they didn't want him and just given him to me to care for. I would have fed and cared for him. Just an appalling way for a small child to suffer and die.

I hope he is at peace now. Poor baby.

what i dont get is... why daniel? why did he suffer the most? why always him!

i got a slap on the wrist once for putting too MUCH in my sons lunch

If not this little boy, there is always another child.

This is going on, now, and there are children suffering, now.

It's beyond comprehension, but it is going on.

Fortunately, there are people fighting for children and their lives too.

It's just horrendous, I'm following the story closely to see how it pans out but have found it so upsetting. I was comforted in a small way though to find out that he had a brave, wonderful sibling to love and try to care for him where he or she could.