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Cot death and bedsharing.

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pie · 16/01/2004 08:41

Hmm...well it seems I can't do anything right. Will this report make a difference to you when you baby is less then 8 weeks old? And can anyone tell me, is it supposed to increase the risk overall, or for the duration of the bedsharing under 8 weeks? I can't tell from the article. Cot death is my worst fear, and I mean I'm terrified, I feel sick right now.

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Hulababy · 16/01/2004 10:02

Popsycal DH is born the end of July so apparantly had mental problems - he is now a lawyer; my sister is July too - she is in her final year of her solicitors exams; BIL is July baby too - he is a charted surveyor currently working in Oz. I wouldn't worry about it too much

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pie · 16/01/2004 10:06

I've seen those things to make co-sleeping safer, DD2 has a bedside cot though (no space between her cot and the main bed), she only comes into the main bed for a b/f, but sometimes I fall asleep before she has finished. DD1 slept in the main bed from day one, still does - arghhh.

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Epigirl · 16/01/2004 10:07

Wish I'd never mentioned the August babies thing! I was just trying to illustrate the occasinal stupidity of the press (after all, it's not like most of us are in control of when they pop out!).

ds born on 2nd September and there'll probably be an equivalent article about September baies this year

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pie · 16/01/2004 10:09

Don't worry Epigirl, just trying to show that sometimes they get it right (Only saying about me BTW, no one else's August babies lol)

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popsycal · 16/01/2004 10:10

epigirl - please dont stress - i am not worried!!!
for me, it just reflects the nonsense out there....

Hulababy · 16/01/2004 10:14

I was only jesting with the summer baby thing too!

Pie - we had a bedside cot for DD too; she went into it properly when she got her sleeping back at about 6 weeks. She often came into our bed during the night still though as she liked to cuddle. She is still a cuddler now but Baby Annabel is the reciepent now.

I now it isn't the right place (already on noticeboard) but that bedside cot is now finished with and up for sale.

popsycal · 16/01/2004 10:17

how old is your baby again pie? (I should know this....)
when will baby be old enough for a sleeping bag??
i swear by these too

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pie · 16/01/2004 10:19

Shes 15 weeks tomorrow, but I've just started a sleeping thread on her!

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Hulababy · 16/01/2004 10:20

You can now get newborn size Grobags which can be used from 7lbs. The normal baby size is from 10lbs.

popsycal · 16/01/2004 10:23

oh hula - i didnt know that....
is it ok to use second hand grobags?
we have a 6-18 motnh one not being used atm though we would need it again if baba2 came.....

Hulababy · 16/01/2004 10:26

Yes, perfectly okay to use second hand ones. In fact I have given 2 away to people on here - a travel bag one and a 6-18 month girls one. It's only like giving bedding or bedclothes away and they are fully washable anyway.

popsycal · 16/01/2004 10:28

if pie would like to try a grobag she is welcome to borrow by ds's noah's ark one...kind of unisex....
he is in his bigger one now

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pie · 16/01/2004 10:32

popsie, see here for my free grobag story. Thank you though!

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popsycal · 16/01/2004 10:37

ah right Pie!!
Makes sense!

JeniN · 16/01/2004 10:46

I don't know how I would have got DD to sleep at all in the early weeks without having her in bed with me, and i know so many people who said the same. I heard the government is considering how to interpret this new research and what advice to give - I hope they take into account all the benfits of co-sleeping too. I think we all just have to decide what advice to take on board, but I hate that its so hard with all the contradictory findings. Yuk.

zebra · 16/01/2004 10:52

My fave risk story about babies is how bigger newborns are shown to be cleverer, more sexually successful, whatever, in later life. WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO ABOUT THAT? Sit around eating lard and getting fat all pregnancy? And would me getting fat really make the baby much bigger??? Could definitely increase my long-term risk of heart disease, of course. Wouldn't help my children much if I died an early death, would it?

Pah.
I let my babies sleep under the duvet with me(shock, gasp, horror, I know). My risk to take. I can't sweat in bed; I get nightmares & wake up if I get even the tiniest bit overheated, so can't see it getting too hot as long as I'm there. And "they" really do not have much clue what causes cot death. If you compared the average temp in baby rooms where cot death happened and never has happened... don't you rather suspect the temp. difference wouldn't be significant? I do. I doubt anyone actually ever did the epidemiological comparisons, it's just a hypothesized risk factor. Anyone keen to correct me?

zebra · 16/01/2004 10:55

Just thinking...i don't use a duvet in summer at all. I sleep under a sheet, usually, maybe a light blanket with it. I have no idea why 'Summer' duvet's are called such when they are useless between April & October.... and yes, I am one of these people who walks around outside in winter with shorts on.

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pie · 16/01/2004 10:57

"and yes, I am one of these people who walks around outside in winter with shorts on"

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Clarinet60 · 16/01/2004 11:09

epigirl, could you precis the august baby thing for me? Not that I'm taking it seriously, just interested. Is it to do with early pregnancy in late autumn/early winter or something else?
Ta.

popsycal · 16/01/2004 11:15

oh i remember this from my degreee now!!!!!!!!!
load of rubbish really droile - your assumption is right!

zebra · 16/01/2004 11:18

March/April birth babies are supposed to have a higher risk of schizophrenia, hypothesised due to vitamin D defiency (very simple solution, mom gets a decent around of exposure (adjusted for her skin tone) to sunlight every day, even in winter, that would be plenty).

Epigirl · 16/01/2004 11:26

August baby thing was mainly about them being youngest in school year so was really just an old chestnut recycled to fill a page of the paper with an attention grabbing headline!
It just got to me as I was so heavily pregnant at the time. It didn't actually say anything new or exciting!

Hulababy · 16/01/2004 11:28

DD is an early April baby so sounds like we have interesting times ahead of us

popsycal · 16/01/2004 11:45

and ds is an august baby.....hurrah!

Oakmaiden · 16/01/2004 13:31

The interesting thing is that I wa reading recently that putting your baby to sleep in a different room to you is a greater risk factor for sids than cosleeping - but do they make a big fuss and scare people to death about that? No, they don't. I wonder why that is?

DO you think it could be because the Foundation for research into sids (whatever they are called) is funded by Cow and Gate, and anecdotaly co-sleeping increases bf rates? And of course that is NOT in C+G's interest....