this teacher 'running away' with a 15 year old story

[germyrabbit]

why on earth is it such a big story?? i know she is underage but he is hardly kidnapping her.

[solidgoldbrass]

Yes, one of the biggest problems with these older-man/younger woman relationships (when the woman is 16 or over but much younger than the man) is that he considers himself her teacher and her superior, and it nearly always goes horribly wrong when she grows up enough to start asserting herself and wants a relationship of equals. It's the ones where that doesn't happen that are likely to be valid, loving relationships.

[lovechoc]

When DH and myself saw the 15 yo on TV, the picture of her, she looked NOTHING like a 15 yo. Her face was full of make-up, she could easily have passed as an 17 or 18 yo, tbh. Girls seem to be very grown up these days. Growing up far too quickly IMO.

[FreddieMercuryforQueen]

So?

[KRITIQ]

Lovechoc, why should it matter whether the photos you've seen depict her as "looking older" than you think a 15 year old should? Whatever she looked like on the outside, she's still a 15 year old child emotionally, psychologically and socially. Are you suggesting that because you think she "looks" more mature, the teacher's actions are, I dunno, somehow more excusable?

[Wetthemogwai]

I think maybe lovechoc means (and by all means correct me if I'm wrong) that some people underestimate 15 year olds now, they're all different of course but a lot of them are far more grown up than 'we were'. This doesn't excuse it at all but if she was a mature 15 and he's a young 30 (I heard his solicitor say that today) then mentally there may not have been such a big difference between them

[lovechoc]

thank youwetthemogwai - at least someone knew the path I was going down!

No, I don't think any teenage girl should be taken advantage of if she wears make up or not, but my point was that just seeing her photo on the TV did not show a girl who would typically look like a 15 year old (or my own opinion of what a 15 yo should look like, but times really have changed it seems!). Her hair and face was beautifully done, very mature looking for a teenage girl so her appearance could easily be mistaken for her being an older woman. DH said should could easily have passed for a lot older.

[lovechoc]

Get off your high horse please, KRITIQ because you've deliberately misinterpreted my comments and do not think any teenager should be attacked (that goes for teen boys as well, btw).

[lovechoc]

My first thoughts when I saw it on TV were 'statutory rape', but it's still not been disclosed what happened between the pair of them although I'm sure most of us can speculate as much as we want to...

[chipmonkey]

But, lovechoc, this guy was her teacher. She does look older in some photos but when he first clapped his eyes on her, she was probably in her school uniform. And he knew full well how young she was.

[mathanxiety]

They are not a lot more grown up now than they were before. They are every bit as vulnerable as they have ever been to predators. The proof of that is that they fall victim to predators and take off to France with them despite the fact that the predators are married, will need to work in order to keep a roof over their heads, etc., they believe boys when they tell them they love them and end up having babies, in droves, and can't believe it when the boy moves on and there they are saddled with a baby and no prospects. The only people who could possibly believe in Luv to the extent those unfortunate 15 year olds do are children who still believe in fairy tales. Because that is what they are.

[Fishwife1949]

Just read he stole his wifes passport ad passed of megan as jhsi wife in order to get into france

Dear lord so not only did he abduct a 15 year old possibly have sex with her, abuse his postion he also has commited FRAUD and THEFT

[Fishwife1949]

chipmonkey and lets not forget he knows her dad as they used to work togethr this is not a case of man meeting a girl he belived to be 18

[Fishwife1949]

Also one last point she is in GCSE year and most likey he has runied any chance of her doing well she wont be able to attaned the school she was at nor any in the local area

And due to the press most likey her whole family will have to move chance are she will get a big fat U in her exams if she takes them at all

[lovechoc]

If you're going to abduct a child you may as well commit theft and fraud whilst you're at it. go the whole hog.

[Moanranger]

A couple of things haven't been mentioned. My perspective - my DD now 20 went through a very hormonal stage at 14; some internet grooming occurred and DP & myself dived in to put a stop to it - not with an adult, but an older boy. I think 14-15 is a very vulnerable age - bodies mature but minds are not. My outrage at this story is that while it was going on, school were suspicious but parents not informed. I believe school confronted them in May. This I find completely unacceptable and parents should have been informed immediately. When we had the above issues with DD, police actually confiscated her PC & mobile and investigated the groomer. At a certain point during this time I had a very direct conversation with DD and one of her clueless classmates about their lack of emotional maturity. That is something a hormonal teenager doesn't understand until they actually have it - much later in life. I hope that school is sued up one side and down the other by the family.

[shoppingbagsundereyes]

Just read she only turned 15 in June! She is a long way from 16 and consensual age