Also, for those arguing thatI had more children than I could afford - When I had the first 3 dc, I was EMPLOYED in a job that I was earning £50kpa, and I had £20K of savings.
I was then diagnosed with epilepsy, just 2 weeks after the birth of my 3rd child. I was BARRED BY LAW from continuing in my previous profession, as an on-site architect. I couldn't afford to re-train, as I needed to use my savings to live off, as I was the higher earner in my family (by a LONG way, as my partner at the time earnt NMW back then).
Within a year, I had lost my home, spent all my savings, and had to claim WTC on the basis of my then-partner's income.
YES, I accept that I have had another child since being in that position, it was FAR from ideal, but my medication for epilepsy affects the effectiveness of any oral contraception, and my partner at the time was allergic to spermicide. My epilepsy medication means that I metabolise hormonal contraception at a far greater rate than is normal. I cannot use a coil because when I DID, it perforated my womb.
The only thing I could have done when faced with an accidental pregnancy was terminate. But that is against my belief that conception is the start of life, I may (now) be poor, but I am still allowed to refuse a termination on the basis that it would adversely afect my mental health to feel like I had MURDERED one of my children. To suggest otherwise is getting into the bounds of euthanasia.
I would STILL not have been a Lone Parent had my Ex-P NOT decided to walk out on me when our baby was 4 months old. Which left me as a disabled Lone Parent to 4 dc, two of whom have disabilities of their own. I have requested a sterilisation (for the last 8 years, since my diagnosis, actually) but I keep getting told that I am 'too young'. In the meantime, as it is the ONLY guarantee of not falling pregnant again, I am staying celibate. Which is FAR easier as a Lone Parent than it was when I was still IN a relationship with my Ex-P.
HTH with any queries people may have!