Mother loses fight to keep baby secret from her husband

[melpomene]

A sad story

What do people think about this? Does the father have the right to know that the baby exists and be involved in the adoption process?

it says she didn't realise she was pregnant until she was 6 months pregnant, so she couldn't have had an abortion anyway.

I think the father should know if he will be reasonable about it. However, it sounds like the mum may have feared for the child's safety and her own, as her husband is described as 'volatile'. How safe is she and any other children? Is he receiving treatment for his post traumatic stress? Sadly, as is so often the case the person missing from this story is...the child. What will he think when he grows older?

Well said she is no doctor and i would question the morals of any. Woman who would choose her man over her child IF he is unstable surley he should be the one to go not the child

I am sure ss would have given her that option and supported with housing ect

Adoption can go ahead without consent of birth parents if necessary but obviosuly it is a slower more raumatic process.

But unless his wife has some kind of legal staus in acting on his behalf because his mental capacity is impaired then she isn;t entitled to make such a decision on his behalf (hence the decision). Additionally there is the rights of the child to consider to be able to know of both parents, the rights of the father do not trump the rights of the child and if there were risk of serious harm to the child then I would have to assume that the mother would have played that card in court. There is no hint of this only mental harm to the father.

The child is in care, the father or his family should be given the opportunity to show they can care for the child if they choose to do so.

Though saying that they "probably" can Xenia is a bit of a stretch - we know virtually nothing about this man or his fmaily to make that judgement.