Mums neglecting their children by spending too much time on the internet

[EdieSedgwick]

Sorry for the Daily Mail link....

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1355346/Twitter-mothers-spend-hours-blogging-neglect-children.html

Now stop reading this and neglecting that child of yours...

if you think SM has some axe to grind with SAHP's...............you 'aint seen nothing on MN - she's tame. She's like a little kitten, compared to some of the lions we have here

yes BTP - you should be next to him - didn't you read my post above where I had to stop mid-post to care for my child

There's always something - my mother used to leave us in the bath while she had some peace to watch the tv. She claimed it was never more than half an hour but the water used to be really cold by the time she'd come back for us - we used to be chorusing "MUUMMMMMMMEEEEEEEEEEE" at the top of our voices for ages before she came!

Now I can kind of see her point - but not for so long that the water went cold!

DS (3) is neglected allowed to play by himself but he's starting to need a playmate and by default I am it, so I have to intersperse my MN computer time with playing with him.

Sorry - despite the "safety aspect" of your mum leaving you in the bath I'm at the same time.

And you know what the answer to "starting to need a playmate is" don't you

I know! As I said, now Ds is getting older, I have more sympathy with her doing it - not when she first admitted it though!
The other thing - working on it, Baroque, not going too well though :(

oh I'm sorry - I didn't realise you were working on it - badly placed humour

I think people are glad it's the Daily Mail and so can dismiss this. Truth is that many of us (only have to look at post histories) use this site and probably others like FB way too often. I'll admit it - I'm ready to flounce - I want to walk away. My kids say ' you on Mn again , mum?' way too often, Joke all you want but from seeing the all too familiar names cropping up time an time again - I'm not alone. You know who you are if you are on here and other sites more then is healthy - don't fool yourselves ladies with nonchalant jokes. If you really think you've got it under control and it's not affecting your family life then fair play o you.

posting regularly doesn't mean we sit here all day you know - it is possible to sit down with a coffee (that is allowed right??) scan a thread for latest posts, fire off a post finished your coffee and then do something else in between you know?? Or even just walk past, refresh, type post and then carry on.

point taken Baroque at 1.48am early on a Friday morning. Some have it under control but would bet money on it that many don't.

Maybe we should have a rule on MN - that each time you post a message you must write

a) what your children have been doing since your last post

b) what you've done since your last post

and then people can judge whether or not you've earned your next post???

yes I am aware that it's 1.48am - it's called insomnia - it's a fucker.

(and for the record in accordance with my 1.54 post I'm currently putting together/editing a video in between posts - at the moment purely for pleasure but potentially for "business" in the future).

Baroque - don't worry, honestly!
I shouldn't have put the sad face, it's a disappointed one, not sad.
Had to nick off to make lunch or I would have responded sooner!

My parents used to read the newspaper ALL weekend (they both worked full time). And watched a lot of TV. Except when my dad was off doing sports and my mom was shopping.

I think my internet mumsnet addiction has helped my dc be more independent, they now do things for themselves rather than wait for me to move and do it for them!

Surely women must be doing other things than twitting, otherwise Twitter would be a very boring place full of mums twitting that they are twitting, non?

Personnally I only MN when the children are arround because the rest of the time I have got tings to do!

I use MN and surf the web while bfing. Could not do it otherwise.

I also surf while Dad does the breakfast.

It is my chill out time.

I do use Mumsnet too much. But even before the internet, I never met a 2yo who had the gross motor skills to ride a real bike. Imho a mum who spent her time obsessively fussing over her toddler's inability to bike-ride could do a lot more harm than one who is stuck in the corner quietly mnetting whilst her toddler plays with some age appropriate toy.

haha cory - I know I haven't woke up properly yet I read you last bit as

"whilst her toddler plays with some age inappropriate toy."

I particularly liked this bit

"But for a child, it?s quite different for mum to be ignoring them because she?s chatting with ­people who are in the room, or while she?s doing the washing up, than for her to be turning her back on her child and tapping on a ­keypad, or texting.
Pam Spurr, psychologist and author of How to Be A Happy Human, says this is key. ?Domestic chores are classic, essential nest-maintenance behaviour, and even very young children can rationalise this in some way."

So rest assured ladies, it's perfectly ok to ignore them as long as your cleaning

So how would Pam Spurr judge my mum who was often busy reading books, or me who was busy writing them?

I'm doing my morning MN catchup.
While I am doing it ds3 (the others are at school) is watching the diggers (out of window) with DH.
DH is currently unemployed. I do more hosuework and childcare with him yet I am the one slated by this article as ignoring my children.
ds has just come to find me so this is wher eI would and will go