2shoes - it does sound awful . The only person I can blame for DD2's death is myself - and then only in a generic way. Its not easy, but at least I have a clean point from which to try and move forward.
Sakura - Its all a big vicious circle though, isn't it! Unless you have an Obs who is woman friendly then you're unlikely to get an "OK" for HB especially if there's anything at all unusual about your case. We do need a greater acceptance that HB can be a choice that is as safe as hospital birth - but until that acceptance has reached all parties involved in maternity care I'm very loathe to go for a model where you "have" to have permission from an Obs to get MW support...
Slhilly - I've spent more time than I would like in hospital this year. From what I've seen, in many instances medicine is both science and art (at least in the present day - maybe as technology develops it will get closer to pure science). I have major reservations about standardisation. It may save some lives, but it can remove the flexibility that could save others.
How can you standardise care without turning maternity services into a conveyor belt? How many factors can you standardise for and how much weight do you give each of them? How much weight do you give to maternal preference, given some women suffer severe mental trauma during their labours?
But how do you make that work for maternity services? Ultimately, which do you prioritise - standardisation of care or the principle that women have a right to accept or decline any intervention? I do think there's massive room for improvement in the management side (and in the attitude of many consultants - a significant percentage of the Obs consultants/registrar's I've met have destroyed rather than fostered my trust in them and their opinion), but I'm very unconvinced that complete standardisation will benefit women and babies - especially when you put mental health into the equation.
Incidentally, the "idiot proof" stuff is working its way out - I got my notes from January and the charts where vital signs were recorded were all colour coded and scored. Blood pressure in the red zone, refer. Score changes by more than a certain factor, bleep a Dr, etc. For instances like that its a fantastic safety check.