Thursday Fly - Errand Day or worse

[swanriver]

Good morning

Today looks like

Get dressed properly
Go to library till 12.45

will think about what I need houseworky later
woken up at WRONG time by ds2, who is now annoying us officially (2 weeks now of bedwetting etc) New strategy in place for tomorrow, supervised by mum.

NEW STRATEGY for ds2
Downstairs straightaway, no snuggling in parents' bed, dressed warmly, put in playroom to play with his toys if he wakes BEFORE 7.am. Breakfast in our house is not officially till 7.30.
Consequently both dh and I are in a very grumpy mood, as we had a fidget chatting to us from 6.30.
I'm sure you all do better than us and are bright and cheery from 6.30

bbafter lunch

Morning Swan Thank you for the thread. When Ds was younger we had the same problem. It got so bad we brought him a bunny clock and he was told not to get out of bed until bunny opened his eyes and his ears went up. It worked 50 percent of the time! Could he play turn a light on himself and play in his room? Was he dry before?
I should have been at work but lovely my needs to go to hospital just for an eye tests and can't pick up ds. Lovely sis is looking after mum.
I have contacted HV and a school nurse is going to phone me re Ds's bedwetting.
Have been brave and asked two mums if their kid want to come on a play date. done One this Friday

Morning all
ops! Lovely Mum I mean.
Mission if you chose to accept it.
Right today is a bonus day
Laundry (natch)
make beds
Big paperwork day
CRB form (still)
Chq to old school
Find holiday insurance
Increase saving for ds
Book personal shopper at Debenhams
Food shopping & maybe a little treat for me
Chq in the bank too
Tea: Fish and new pots
I'm sure there is more but we will see.
see ya later

Mission

Hi swan and Starbear.

Just a quickie. Will be back later!

Morning all

I'm got mixed feelings today. Its my last day at school before the hols but I am really not looking forward to them. DD is being testing and I find that Feb half-term usually means staying in lots cos of the weather. I'm going to have a browse and see if there are any activities going on around us that may keep her amused for a while

It is the school disco today as well. She has said that she wants to go but part of her going was better behaviour this week which we haven't had. I'll feel like a meany if I don't let her go but DH believes that we need to start setting boundaries and either she misses the disco or dance class.

Jobs to do today
-Copy up notes from class last night so that they make sense
-clothes washing x3
-to shop for some milk etc
-dd lunch then nursery
-Me lunch then school
-search for hlaf-term activities
-send in lunch money for last two terms - didn't realise I had to pay for lunch club as DD has free nursery place
-try to arrange childcare for my gym session next week. I have another training session booked to try and get some exercises that will help me overcome my injuries before I give up and as DH is away most of the week it will be the only child free hour I have all week.

Hope everyone has a good day - BBL

Hi
swan we are not even bright and cheery by 8 in our house so don't fret! I am lucky as DS and DD play together until we get up, safely and nicely! How lucky!!!
Friends coming for lunch, it's one of their birthdays. I've baked millionaire shortbread, apple flapjack, fly pie and Bakewell tart! YUM, and oven chips and homemade bread and salad for the inconsequential main part of the meal. LOL
OFM Big hugs and vibes to you, you are a brilliant mum and I'm sure that all will be well with DD and the meetings. Just tell her at the end of today that she is your daughter and you love her loads whatever! That always works for me despite what happens! (and it's usually because I have lost my temper LOL)
Star personal shopper very exciting!
BBL, need to get on, packing for hols tomorrow too!

changes sorry, x posts, hi and activities sound a good idea at half term! In my experience saying if you are badly behaved you can't go to the disco etc doesn't work. i don't think children can see the consequences, long term, of their behaviour. The only consequences I find work are the short term ones. You could get out of it by saying if you do x y and z really nicely tonight or in the morning you can go to the disco? HTh and i don't sound interfering?!

Star - Really over pesonal shopper. DH gave me £250 cheque about two years ago when I was on a weight loss attempt. But I never spent it cos I put the weight back on. He says the cheque will be there this time if I manage it and if I do, i'm off to Debenhams too. Well Done on playdate too, I keep being tempted with DD's friend from nursery but chicken out when the time comes.

Swan DD has a habit of waking us early ever now and again and it puts both me and DH in a bad mood too. I like to wake up maturally (Not that I ever get the chance). NO advice but hope your strategy works.

OFM hope today goes well for you.

Wendy your lunch sounds delicious - Wish I was accomplished at baking. I can burn the bun mixtures you can get that you just add water too - I'm fine with main courses but just can't do cakes etc

Wendy - I agree, and no you aren't interferring. I think DH is just getting frustrated and thats why he things stopping her going to the disco might work, but I think she is too young for this to make any difference. I'm going to talk to the nursery staff though and see if others from nursery are going as its for the whole school and I'm worried that there will be loads of 10/11 year olds and not very many 4 year olds.

Okay not doing well today as it is soooooo cold in this house. Now left sholder blades mucles hurt!
What have I done
Had breakfast. Should have a shower now too (forgot to say earlier)
D/W on done
W/M on done
Food recycling bin cleaned done
bed made done MC I agree with Wendy I think sanctions have to very soon after the event. She is only little. 4 mins in the corner works wonders. It's tough being a parent!
I really need to buy office type clothes I wear a uniform every day I have nothing (really!) to wear. I don't normally spend very much on clothes so this will be a one off.
Also re Mum's at nursery. I prepared this morning. I put my mobile number on the cover of a little note book (so it was to hand) appraoched the Mum and said that my Ds's is always talking about how great 'x' (flatter, flatter) and he has asked me to ask you if they can have a play date. Then wait for an answer. Have not approached the Mum who has stuck her nose in the air (My DH taught her DH at school!)I don't think she likes me. So I not approching her!
Must get on see ya later

i've just moved the settee and found loads of crusts from DDs sandwiches from lunch today. I thought she had eaten her lunch quick. She used to throw them in the bin or say they were dirty cos they had dropped on the floor, now she seems to be hidding them. I only went upstairs to get changed. It would now appear that I have to sit and watch her eat ever mouthful that she has. Arghhhh

Done list
Lounge hoovered - Added to list as was full of crumbs. Glad I did now
DD to nursery
Lunch money sorted at nursery - Seems I'm now a term in front why bill me for it if you don't want it paying yet
Off to school now then on with tasks
Better find DD a change of clothes for disco in case for later

MC - my dd was perfectly frightful at that age. Dh and I were driven crazy by her.

With hindsight following would have helped.
She loved playing with other children, any visitor and her temper improved 100% (her brothers didn't count
--I should have had more playdates (but couldn't face it due to twin tiredness etc)

I should have spent even more time snuggling with her (ds2 got all the snuggles I fear)

I should have imagined I was her sometimes rather than think about how I was feeling (ie: cross)and what would have made sense to me if I was 3/4.

Good morning in library, but major reajustment of library arrangements (lib becoming TA) so not quite sure what future will hold, feel quite chilled about it though, since my long absence with ds1 leg. Think I will mostly be doing shelf sorting from now on..chatting to children...that's fine.

Errand afternoon, off to public library next.
then need to make Valentine's cakes with dcs for school cake sale tomorrow
finish ds2 homework
go to Brownies meeting in eve.

sort clothes sort clothes sort clothes
what's for dinner - something using up some cheese sauce, tomato sauce, broccoli, ham - pssibly lasagne?

Starbear tip about mobile is brill, you are star

I need to get some more mums round here too, slightly slackening on sociability stakes...there are soooo many of them, don't know who to pick anymore, everyone has such "complex" afternoons. I can only face the untidy mums anyway.

hurrah for personal shopper

Afternoon all

WHERE CAN MY BIRTH CERT BE!!!!
Afternoon all Hi Wolf okay I've stopped shouting
CRB form impossible without Birth cert
Chq to old school done just pop in post
Book personal shopper at Debenhams done 5/03/2010
I'm going to have one more look tonight for Birth cert then go through the process of getting a repalcement!! I have my old school reports and my H/V book from 47 years ago why not the bloody Cert!

hi again,
had a lovely afternoon, need to tidy up now LOL
DD had a lovely time with her best friend! Bless. Playdates are great but it's not always easy organising them! I forget I am a SAHM with no work pressures sometimes! I'm lucky to be able to do it and yet all I do is moan!
On the up side I am going to an interview in a fortnight at a school about some 1 to 1 English tuition. Not sure on how many hours they want doing or when and whether it will fit in with my child care i.e. dd in nursery mornings and kind Mum picking her up! Hopefully something will come of it, it will be good to do something and feel useful again!
BBL meant to be packing

I am here, just busy!!

Ruby What can it be? Hope everyone is okay? but you posted a so I'll just be nosey and not worried

Have you been given a dept to run Ruby?
Headhunted by another employer?
Business proposal re: nappy cakes?
Valentines?

feeling cross as found as ds is not in choir at school, because he didn't sign up, as it is for "girls"
if he's not going to be a footballer he needs to be Bryn Terfel

anyway I am signing off now till I am in a better mood - pssibly tomorrow [dashed hopes pushy mum emoticon]

have made lasagne
and done music practice though
and ingredients for cake warming

Star birth cert wth ds's birth cert? With marriage cert? When did you last use it, presumably for another CRB check? Is it with other stuff you might have used for that one? With job application stuff?

Ruby what you need to remember si that some people has such little in their leves they have to make work exciting they do this may making things seem to be more imporatant than they are and assume that everyone feels the same. They often just need a good shag and to get over themselves. Thats what happens with a bunch of woman. I say get a love life, then work becomes less imporarant

evening all

Looooongg day.
Feeling shell shocked.
After LOTS of very thorough assessments and discussions by wonderful staff, DD has been diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome.
Not totally unexpected, but hearing it said, and seeing it in black and white still feels a bit of a blow TBH
Lots of implications to now get my head round...mostly school related. According to the psychology testing she had, her general intelligence is above average, whereas she is currently performing WELL below average at school...mostly due to her not being engaged and motivated properly due to her difficulties...so kind of good and bad...at least I know that she can achieve more...now just need to do lots of sorting to get her the right support to achieve to her potential.Feel a bit cross that school have been fobbing me off for a year everytime I went in to raise my concerns at her lack of progress...
She will also get some further Speech and language support which will help, and some pyschology input to put in place some behaviour management strategies.

Feel overwhelmed by it all really....

House a total tip, but it can stay that way till next week!

Just need to muddle through tomorrow...

Oh and poor dh had to go straight back out to work as soon as I got in for some event they have on...so haven't even really had chance to talk to him properly...so sat here on my own feeling a bit teary....

BBtomorrow.

OFM Well, I don't know how I would react to that, hon and I don't think you should know how to react either! Of course just keep remembering she is your darling DD and it doesn't matter what label she has been given! Like you say it means you will get more help now and hopefully all will be on the same side as you, educationally. Don't worry about the house! Take care and have a sit down with the sewing machine tonight for ten mins if you can? HUGS from me!!