YAY it's the weekend - family FLY time!

[galen]

Morning all!
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tort well done on the diy front! how easy was it ( i am contemplating doing some decorating after the half term?)

cars all fixed, grr first garage it went to sent me of to buy a part i dont need and in all their faffing they broke the motor to the electric window, which they wont admit to doing. so it has cost me £90 to fix a prob that actually only needed a can of wd40!
the second garage i took it to were really good and he has checked over all my doors and oiled as required so it shouldnt happen again, he even found my replacement ariel that has been sitting in the footwell for months and put that on for me too

dd loved fifi at the theatre, she was not happy when it finished. and fell asleep on the bus on the way home and is still snoring now, she does not want to wake up so am in for a fun night

dyls It wasn't actually that hard. The only problem was the shower curtain rail. I couldn't get the drill to go far enough into the wall so the wall plugs stick out by a few mm! Think it is ok though.

I think my DD2 would love the Fifi show. Hope she wakes up soon.

Well done tort Dyls Pants garage

Well the boys have been and are being mad, bad and dngerous to know. DH has lost his cool, which is not like him at all.

Home made pizza is in the oven and the boys will be in bed not much later.

Well I have wiped all the skirting down
cleaned the undersink cuboard out
been out for more compost
been to Tescos- urk
made pizza
painted the boys toenails and mine
some ironing - yet to pop away
washed a couple of cushions
Cleaned and applied drops etc in DS2's eyes 3 times - which is a trial in itself

I feel like I have been in attendance at world war three and will be glad when the boys are in bed tonight!

haha guess the test is if you have a heavy handed ds like mine, he is enough to test anyones DIY! . i'm sure its absolutely fine, looks good too i llike the dolphin tiles you have as well

tmh hope the boys go to bed v easy and you get some time just to sit and chill
that was exactly my words about the garage, and dd has now taken to walking past going their pants mummy yucky pants VERY LOUDLY, not good when they are literally opposite my flat!

Dyls They are stickers on the tiles .
Shower gets a big thumbs up from kids! They really liked it.

evening all tort well done on the DIY

ds has continued to be very difficult all day and I have lost my rag more than once and cried more times than I can count. We have just had a semi reasonable half hour and I have tucked him into bed. wolf breathes a sigh of relief. DP has gone out for the evening thank god. I have been feeling very down today and really need a night to myself without anyone pestering me or getting in my personal space.

I hope you all have lovely evenings ladies

prof- yes they are!! the flashing wands are £5 (the ones that get worked into the show so all children feel they need one), the prgrammes are £5, the little fifi beanie type toys you used to be able to get in woolies were £7
was one bargain, the fifi album is £10 there and £15 on play.com so that was good
did get a free promotional dvd too

tort glad dc like the shower, the stickers look great where did you get those??

wolf hope your peaceful evening has a restorative effect for you

dd woke up half hour ago, i had given up trying to wake her and put her in her bed, she now thinks it is morning

I have had a really nice relaxing bath, but DH and me are not really getting on. He still is making me concerned over my body image

So I am down, the boys have been little shits - I bet it is a full moon.

Hope everyone else is feeling better than me - pants, yuky mucky bloody pants

TMH Sorry things are still not good. (( hugs ))

dyls From here Don't seem to do the same ones as mine anymore though.

I am going to sit and list a few more bits on Ebay.

mad big hugs gorgeous girl.

EHM - sorry about your cats
Tort - well done on your DIY.

I had a manicure and pedicure for the first time ever today. Lovely..

thanks tort don't forget to link your ebay bits here (esp. girly bits), i remember from last year your dd is a little older than mine

tmh so sorry things are still not good for you

dyls OK will do. Don't think i have much girls stuff left. Nice Pumpkin Patch outfit to list. This is all i have on there at the moment. No girls bits though.

Galen I remember reading on Mumsnet in Sleep Section, (may be madness) but you can change a baby/toddler sleep patterns by using Wake to Sleep method from Baby Whisperer, where you wake baby an hour before they normally wake (that does sound mad) and then resettle in order to get them to start a long sleep cycle and then sleep later. I've never tried it myself,as kids used to wake in night and then go back to sleep longer anyway but just thought I'd mention it as it seemed to have worked for some people.
I'm sure you have a good family day in the thick of things. Other grownups do make a real difference to defuse don't they..

TMH sorry you've had another lowering day. I'm sorry he's upset you, even if unintentionally. Dd had another tantrum today - you are really not alone with the crosspatch children. I'm sure you were both sweet to them, sometimes it is just THEM.

EHM - nice to hear your "voice" again. How very unnerving to be back on course with sale again, even if it's what you wanted in long run.

Dylsmum - glad you found an honest garage, and what an exciting day your dd has had!

Tort, v. impressed by your shower diy, and by the knowledge displayed by other flyers on the matter!

And all other posters, hello, oh yes Grouchy, and Wolfcub. Sorry about the baby llama. Sagacious treasure hunts make me feel like I am A GOOD MOTHER, especially when the children could finally read the clues! It is brilliant when they are selfstarter trhnts.

Well today started a bit manic, lots of things backfiring, not enough time to be organised for guests, feeling cross with various blameless members of family but actually it was a GREAT DAY 14 for lunch and lovely to have friends over. Dh was very happy with everything

Done
Morning snuggles
Choir, violin
met friend at music for coffee
went to market and bought bread and brownies
ate tasty if slightly cold lunch (guests rather late - it is odd isn't it that people are always late, when you try so hard to get everything ready on time, and early when you don't)
children played with 5 child guests happily in garden
Everything chaos and mess, but worth it
Cleared up
Telly evening downstairs, but I snuggled separately with oversocialized dd watching Harry Potter 1.
ate lots of lovely leftovers for supper

Oh dear what a long post
BBSun morn

Wolf hope you got a bit of space as well this evening.

Evening all just popping to logg you for tomorrow.
Been busy Bunny today but will catch up more tomorrow.
sorry things aren't great between you and DH TMH - I am sure it will get better with time.

Morning all!
mad I'm so sorry you and dh are still struggling.Remember it is still such early days. Did you get anywhere with finding some counselling? Thinking it may help for you and dh to talk things through with someone imaprtial to help you both work through your feelings fter the huge trauma you have been through.So hope that you had a good nights sleep and feel at least a little brighter today.

swan Ds was sleeping till about 6.30 which was great but seems to be getting worse again....will have to try to get him in a better routine but just dont have the emotional or physical energy just now...will tackle once DH is home and things are back to normal
Glad your day worked out in the end. Sounds like you all had fun.

tort well done on the DIY.I'm always thinking I should learn to use a drill but never have!

dyls glad DD liked fifi and well done getting car fixed....darned cars!!!

Well another early start here ...4.49 exactly again Really do need to sort out DS2's sleep whenever I have enough energy!

My parents were great yesterday.No word of criticism from my Mum - which is rare! And both her and my Dad were a big help. The children ( well younger ones mostly ) were all in absolutely awful moods. Screaming,crying,fighting,tantrums,etc....ALL DAY.Think they are just reacting to what a terrible week it has been, and I know they just need extra patience but that is easier said than done! Still my parents were great with them and were very sympathetic to what I had to deal with! They were both shattered by the time they left!

DD2 is now poorly unfortunately. Has temp and sore throat and headache...think t is actually same thing DD4 had,and what I have had bubbling in background all week. Think we'll skip church as shes not up to it....we may even all spend the day in our PJ's...who knows...feel like giving up now!
Still Dh home tomorrow Eve so nearly there!

Right better go chase Ds2 out of the kitchen again!

BBL

Morning Galen. Glad thigs went ok yesterday. Sorry you have a poorly one. Glad DH will be home soon too.

Morning All

galen the early starts are killers - when things got bad I would snuggle them in bed and this is what we are doing at the moment, infact since I have been in hospital both boys have been coming to our bed. Never mind you dont hear of 15 year olds sharing their mum and dads bed and they are only little for such a sort time - so I am determined to enjoy them

Both boys slept pretty well last night, but we have been up since 6am. I am letting DH have a little lie in and then he will be cracking on in the garden. DS2 still has sore eyes, but also now is full of goo and coughing too

Get all dressed
Breakfast
I have a couple of loads of washing to do
I also need to mop the floor
Sort out all next weeks plans
package up two more ebay items
list more items on ebay
Whats for lunch and dinner

I am now going to have a bit of MN time, will be back later

morning all galen glad you had loats of help from your parents yesterday, sorry about the poorly lo
i have always done as tmh says and snuggled with mine when they have woken early, and ds is 10 now and doesn't get in in the night anymore hasn't for a few years,he will occasionally come in at 6-6.30ish

tmh hope you have a more peaceful day

i put dd to bed with me last night as she was so wide awake from her long sleep at tea time. she went off quite well, she read me her cinderella book was very sweet, then i read her some of the book i am reading.

just having breakfast now. am thinking about going off for a wander around the bootfair that has started up again this week.
dd is once again watching fifi

have a good day all

Ds2 woke at 6.30 to pay me back for giving you advice Galen!
Banished dh to ds2's bed, and then snuggled with chatty ds2 for about 40 mins, who insisted on telling me the entire plot of Thunderbirds
Now everyone is watching telly or playing on computer dh is still asleep, unusual for him

Today

Need to put all washed plates and platters away
buy more catfood
Dress kids relatively smartly for a First Communion party elevenses(but we aren't invited to church it's too full apparently)
Dress myself smartly hmm hmm hmm
Make a plan with dh for lunch - pack simple picnic to take with us and eat in park after.
water garden
change sheets on all the beds (still not done)
violin practice dd
start homework TODAY for dts to avoid more wednesday blues

Mine all get into bed with me too. mainly the girls! But i do have more space than those with parters.

I need to get some washing out today and put lots of washing away.

And loads of other things to do!!

Morning all again!
swan LOL at ds early start - hope it was a one off!

I do bring DS in to snuggle, sometimes this works....but sometimes he snuggles for 10 mins then decides he wants up so resorts to pulling my hair and poking my eyes till I get up LOL I love the mornings he snuggles back to sleep...This morning he clearly wasnt in a snuggly mmod....sigh....

everyone sort of doing nothing much here today....

girls playing upstairs....
dd2 lying on sofa porrly
ds2 pottering round
and ds1 on pc...

just aim to keep vague sense of order today and feed DC now and then....
anything else is just too muchat this stage LOL

later ladies

Morning all
I had a very busy day yesterday, running errands, opticians and Ikea! Bought lots of necessary storage stuff and a lovely red rug for the living room - looks great. Red really is the signature in this house with the red kitchen so I am trying to run the theme through the rest of the downstairs! House is still an absolute tip - the problem is nothing has a home yet, so noone can put anything away when they have finished with it. MIL and FIL for late lunch today, yet to plan a menu and cook (always a headache, with us being veggie and FIL being a plain type of eater it's quite difficult) Thinking of mushroom and ale pie, some sort of potatoes, probably wedges, and perhaps salad and homemade coleslaw. Pudding apple and blackberry crumble and custard and malteser chocolate traybake

mad Like everyone says, it's early days yet, isn't it. I think that you both have to forget your old life and make a new one. You need to let go of the old Mad and create a new Mad - both of you need to do this, otherwise you will both just chew yourselves up remembering the old one and wishing that you were still looking and feeling like that. Does that make sense? You are not the same as you were before the operation - not the same body, and not the same person either, due to all the upset and trauma. I think perhaps you and DH need a night away on your own - not billed as a romantic getaway, just to spend time together without the children. Is that possible, would your Mum do it?

everyone hi I better go, am being shouted at to get in the shower!