Bank Holiday Weekend FLy - May day and all that

[TheMadHouse]

Hi All

I just wanted to say thankyou to everyone who was so wonderful yesterday.

I am feeling a little more positive, although unable to sleep. DH and me have had a little chat - I couldnt handle more than that. He says he still loves me deeply and is very angry at how things have turned out.

We never prepared for the reconstruction not to work and he feels like I have been butchered. He wants to work at it, so that is a positve thing anyway.

Anyway enough about me and I must try and get some sleep.

morning all

Galen, that's a very short list!!!

My brother has just rung to ask me to look at lighting for his new house. Lighting expert abracadabra!

Feeling in a holiday mood! I feel as if we are not really parents at all just playing at it today.
Sun is shining.
Music then dh is taking twins to Greenwich because ds2 wants to go on DLR.

TMH, you prepared so well for operation, and were so steadfast and positive; I know what you mean - it's a bit like having babies (except worse) you think you are prepared and then you find things turn out quite differently.
Do you think they didn't really tell you in advance of the possible problems with the reconstruction - is that why he feels angry?

Oh dear DH approaching..better scarper.

Morning again

Swan The consultant had never had a failure before me in all his years operating, so no I never really expected this or that it would look so bad.

The wood has just arrived, the sun is shining. I am going to pull myself together and attempt to enjoy the bank holiday regardless. DH is walking on eggshells

I need to pop out with DS2 and get a wee bit of shopping etc

galen What is DH going away for and to? - nosey eh

Swan Sounds like an idea the DLR, something we never did when we were down south.

Anyway off to stop worldwar three

Hello All

Thanks for the nice comments yesterday, they do keep me sane and buck me up. Prof I'm on regular meds for a couple of things but a bad sesh just has to be ridden out. I'm learning to rest up rather than fight it/pretend it's not happening at all. Yep I'm in bed as I type

DONE

Water plants
Feed the birds (the squirel nicked the supplies last night)
Empty WM
Peg out
Load WM and run

I think that's quite enough.

BBL

Morning

You take it easy today grouchy. I think you expect to do an awful lot more than you should and can then take it very hard when you can't be superwoman. That about sums up most of us I suppose

You are doing great. As said before you are a fab mum and Ed is very lucky to have you, as you are.

tmh So, so glad you and dh managed to have a little chat. Talking is the best medicine. Hope you can both have a lovely, relaxing weekend together.

Morning galen and swan

Got the little one's friends staying this weekend so have a houseful of girls (more of a houseful than usual!). Hoping the weather stays dry so that can take them to the park later on.

Going out to one of my sister's for dinner tonight And another one has asked us too! We are very popular this weekend lol

Off to quickly hoover and put on a washing. Oh and have some breakfast!

Afternoon all. LOL
Sorry for brief post earlier.PC is going bonkers and keeps eating my posts! After losing a really long post, I was trying out to see if it was working with a short post, then was going to come back but PC went mad again....sigh!

Anyaway was going to say
mad gald your feeling more positive. it will take you and Dh time to come to terms with everything, but you WILL get there.

swan enjoy the sun

gib enjoy your girly houseful LOL

grouchy Hi! dont overdo it LOL

trying to chill a bit here today - not happening so far!
Ds had friend coming in a bit, then older ones off to Quasar with DH for Bday treat, then home for Bday tea, and friend sleeping over.
DH arrangements for next week all up in the air ATM. He may now be going tomorrow not Mon. Bum
It is all really complicated, but his brother is getting married in Barbados.Only situation now very difficult due to his Dad being so ill and unable to go. Most of Dh family are off toBarbados today, his mum is staying to look after his Dad. DH going over to help Mum look after Dad, then going with her to Barbados on Thurs for wedding on Friday (she doesnt want to travel alone) so all a bit mad ! Lots of arguing in DH family about whole situation and why brother didnt cancell wedding etc... feelings all running high, and arrangements changing daily...
Still trying to stay positive for DH. But actually scared about whole week on my own My family are not near so no one else to help out.... Still I'm sure we'll be fine, even if we end up eating frozen pizza by Saturday LOL

Right best dash
Hopefully BBL

Hello to all. Good advice and support for TMH and go I see.

I am still in my pjs. Am trying out a new layered look. White t-shirt with black (Fairtrade organic cottony thing) nightie over and a blue/white check and hearts pj bottoms. Very trendy, I'm sure!

At least I'm covered from neck to ankles which is useful as I've just been pegging washing out. I don't want to frighten the neighbours any more than I have already.

List for today:-
Go out at 1.30pm to run an errand for ds
Do washing up
Clear laundry basket
Tackle some of the ironing
Cheat for tea by using the chilli con carne that I made lots of last night
That'll do for now.

See you later!

galen what a shame about dh's dad and all the hassle over the wedding. All the upset will really put a damper on the memories of the big day surely?

simply at you still being in pyjamas and too...

Done:

Tidied
Hoovered
Last load of washing on
Ironing
Lunch

To do:

Hoover car ugh

Well I've

Pegged out more washing
Brought dry stuff in
Emptied DW
Put away
Made a slab of rocky road crunch

And gone back to bed. Muscles in my legs have seized up again. They've gone really tight but feel weak (?!?) Better rest up as my friend is over from NYC tomorrow and I want to be well enough to see him.

Hello there all, hope the sunshine is making everyone feel good! - glad that you are feeling a little stronger today TMH and good for you Grouchy for being easy on yourself. we can all beenfit from tha at times I'm sure.

I could have had a lie in thsi morning but was suddently overcome and have now:
dusted in family room
mopped all downstrairs floors
hoovered entire upstairs
washed down kitchen cabinets
cleaned sofa

Fleeing good as house is showing signs of recovery!

Off to the funfair with out tow little ones in a minute - but firt must get out pf my pj's! Haven't cracked the get dressed first rule!! have a good weekend one and all. x

Prof After 10 years of having the MS tag I got a specialist MS nurse who is fab. I discuss things with her rather than the GP now. Basically it's a case of 'If it works for you then OK' She can suggest stuff and grt the wheels moving which is great. Basically I've done too much and my legs have protested. I've taken a tip from the war veteran who's slowly doing the marathon and had a long hot bath. Seems to have worked

Oooh, sorry, being self obsessed there
Hello Everyone hope you've had good days

Hi all.

Yesterdays posts were lovely . Mad and Grouchy - hope the sunshine is lifting your spirits a little.

Last night dh and I had a night out and visited a few of our old drinking haunts . We kept saying'doesn't everyone in here look old!' then realising that we are considerably older than we were too LOL.

Today we have had lovely morning on the beach and spent the aft in the garden . Have been to B+Q for some plants and birthday present for dad.

Done:
floors
Lidl
changed beds
laundry

Tomorrow:
DC to party
plant tubs
more laundry

Off to Blockbusters now for a dvd.

Have a good eve all.

Hi everyone

Popping in for a quick hello while waiting for Dp to get back with the chips, again

TMH glad you are feeling more positive, give yourself time for all the healing.
Sorry epilepsy brain is totaly non functioning. Will be back soon, probably Monday for a hopefully intelligent post.
Have a good weekend everyone.

Hope you've all had lovely sunny Saturdays.

Not the best day here and feeling very ...grumpy!

DD3 and 4 being awful, DD2 needing some mummy time, DS2 also grumpy. DH now going first thing tomorrow. DC have spent most of the day trashing the house it seems....DS1 has friend here for sleepover so need to keep some semblance of order....

DH's family really irritating me....always all over the place and then DH has to pick up the pieces. Recent trajic situation with FIl hasnt changed them at all. Feeling very sorry for DH who is put upon again...and also very self pitying at thought of 9 days single handed with 6 children....then guilty for thinking of myself given what FIL is going through ... so then more fed up....etc....

Also have a new brand of AD's (theoretically the same medication I know!) but they're making me feel rubbish!

think I'm going to try to get my hair cut next week to cheer myself up!

Right need to do something useful!

Anyone have mobile broadband? Is it any good? So fed up of our pitiful, worse than slow dial up connection! (we live in a village that has "the wrong ohone lines" for braodband grrrr!)

Have good evenings all. Off to find some chocolate and wallow in my self pittying mood!

Evening all

galen I am so sorry about DH's situation. It can be awful being the one that everyone relys on. I am sure you will be a fab mum

Shanna Hope the epilepsy imroves and that you enjoy your chips

Groucy We will get together soon. When Wendy is back on line we will all arange a meet at creepy crawleys or if you and Ed fancy a night in North Yorhsire my door is always open for fellow Fly "Cultists"

Prof Thanks for being there on the syle and boobs front

Swan Hope you had a nice day

Scatty pmsl about everyone looking old - we had a garden day too

Wolf I hope the ankle is healed OK

jas Glad DH has work

today has been a real family day.

DH has hardstandinged under the xonservatory window for my bench. The grass was dying under it.

He has also measured out for all the raised beds and has half a one finnished.

He would have had more done, but the boys have been at war and we had a nice supprise visit from a friend and her family and I cooked tea for all

Boys are bathed, PJ'd and in bed
DH is having a soak

I am going to have a bath and then pop the washer on.

We are meeting EHM in the morning at soft play

Hi Galen, sympathy.

It is difficult when you are on your own with kids, and used to having a helping hand in the form of dh. After years of business trip-itis I now think the answer is to cut a lot of corners, serve oven chips, call in favours from friends, cut out the afterschool activities as impossible unless other people will pick up and drop off - (although it's another stress just to organise help) and basically drop all standards for a week so as to stay in a good temper. Could they have school dinners for a week even?
One of my friends used to say she really enjoyed being left with the children because it was like a special camping trip, she used to rub her hands with glee at the prospect of doing things exactly the way she wanted,no adult conversation nec, snuggling with kids, playing cards, baked beans, fryups..LOL.
The other thing which I was too proud to do, which I now realise would have been fine, was to palm my dcs off on other people for playdates, cup of tea visits..People often used to say afterwards, you were on your own for five days - why didn't you say, we would have invited you to lunch...boo hoo..

Lovely relaxing day here, apart from a bustup over violin practice with dd first thing aargh. But she seems revived by her teacher, so much more inspirational than mum
Ds2 got to sit next to train driver on DLR (open carriage setup)
I visited my brother's house which is a wreck and advised on task lighting.
Our house seems very liveable in comparison.

Swept path
watered plants
cooked lunch
tidied everything, sorted some bags of stuff from car and put away...
We are still feeling high having only 2 kids in the house!!Hope ds1 is having a lovely time though

BBSun eve

I have mobile broadband Galen, it is great! and quite easy. Not the most costeffective the way I'm doing it, but Ithink you can get packages and transfer everything.

And Shannara, hurrah for chips, oven or otherwise.
Wolfcub how are you?
TPT, what are your tricks for coping when dh on trips?
I'm glad you had a lovely surprise visit TMH, my kids just love it when people come round.

Just a quickie as I must crack on with the ironing. My old iron started tripping the electric so I had to stop using it and order a new one. The ironing pile then grew and grew (THAT had never happened here before, oh no. )

I need to read the instructions fully and make sure I have posession of the remote control in order to have something on to while away the hours.

Rather cross this evening. Dh, dd and ds have been out most of today and now that they've come back to a fairly clean and tidy kitchen they think it's all done and they can put their feet up! They'd better all pull their fingers out tomorrow, I can tell you!

galen 9 days single handed with 6 kids! Wow! It took me until my 30s to realise that my days felt much more copeable (not a word I know but I'm rushing) when there was a glass of wine at the end of it, and I have 2 kids.

swanriver Dh was away for a week when our two were about one and two years old. My family lived too far away for visits and I think I let his believe I was visiting my folks! Ooops. I preferred it that way, though. I remember going shopping about 15 miles away one day and we were there before the shops opened and were there all day! I don't know how I did it, looking back. I think we had fish fingers for tea and baked beans and things I wouldn't dream of serving up for us at teatime normally!

Must go and finish reading these iron instructions and get cracking. The drawers are pretty empty, everyone is saying. Have a lovely evening everyone!

Simply I have been trying to find the words to say thank you for your support over the last couple of days.

In fact all of you have been so open and honoust with me, it has been inspirational.

Me and DH have had a good chat tonight in the bath and we are going to work really hard on getting some of the intermacy back.

He would like me to persue the option of reconstruction and he thinks that a lot of what he feels is in response to the pain and anger of nearly losing me subsiding and the reality that I am left disfigured.

I think that that is part of my issue to. I have been so happy to be alive that I wasnt too worried about how I looked, until now when I am starting to feel better again.

We can adn will get through this. We want to be together which is a major positive, we enjoy each others company. We complete each other and also compliment each other. My friend said that she in some ways feels the same as DH, as though an ending has been removed and replaced with blank chapters and we have to be the authors.

I suppose I wanted him to love the person inside so much that the body didnt matter and in many ways he does and he assures me that he will stop seeing the scars as an infliction and more of a battle wound.

We can and will get though this.

Thank you all again so much - I do not know what I would do with out you all as my friends. There is a place for each adn everyone of you in my home any time and in my heart all the time

Morning all

We are up, dressed, breakfasted and ready to go

We are meeting EHM at soft play. It is her birthday. So I will catch you all later

I am leaving DH to get on with the raised beds - he he he

Morning All*TMH^ Thanks for the lovely offer. I'm sure Ed would love Creepy Crawlies (with his snuggly woodlouse!) and I'd love to meet up when we're up in Whitby this summer. I'm pleased that you and DH are coming through the trauma you've had and good on the pair of you. The bath is a fantastic talking place isn't it! (the Romans showed us that really!)

Can I also say a heartfelt thanks to all for your support for me while Boris has a romp round my system. You've all been so fantastic.

Galen 6 kids for 9 days! I bow to your abilities. I can't cope with 1 Ed most of the time.

and big hugs, chocolate, pots of tea and slabs of cake to all the wonderful FLY friends out there.

Good morning (Bore da in Welsh) to all.

EHM Happy birthday!!! I hope you have a lovely day.

go I'm really rather lost for words when it comes to writing to you and TMH. If you were local, I'd probably take you out for a cuppa and a cake at my local teashop but it's a bit hard to do the equivalent of that in a post. Add to that the fact that I can never think of anything witty or original to put in a card, and you can imagine how lost for words I am.

TMH I am proud of the lovely group that's hear on the FLY thread. I haven't been here much for the last 15 months or so and I've come back recently to find that they're still as fab a bunch as ever. Yes, there are a few extra names and I don't see some ones I used to (unless they have namechanged and I haven't worked it out yet) but it's a really good, supportive group on here. It's good news that you and dh have had a good chat and are looking forward with positive thoughts.

Confession time, now. I don't know what I did last night except for MNing and replying to e-mails which were long overdue. The iron seems to need a lot of kerfaffle to set it up for the first time. I'm now going to have to wait for it to cool down fully before I use it. Lord knows what I'm going to do instead. Right. Action.

To do:
Pull down birthday cards and them cut up for scrap paper.
Sort out receipts.
Find item to be returned to shop next week before it gets too late.
Write birthday and get well cards and post them.
Write thank you letters and post them.

See you later!