Friday Fly - Date Night and our bedrooms are our havens

[TheMadHouse]

Morning all

Stressfull start to the day here

mission

Babysteps, we are on day six and seven

So we need to read about hotspots and work on puttiong one out - 2 mins is all it takes

and tonight we are going to get out our clothes for tomorrow. In my house we all do this now, even DH. I get the boys clothes out and mine and he does his too.

So we should be

Shinning our sink
getting dressed first thing
reading our reminders
turning negatives into positives
putting out one hotspot a day

OK - I need to vent again.

Boys are really pushing things, this morning I have had their morning drinks on our bedding
My cup of tea all over my bedroom carpet
I have dressed them twice and they have proceeded to undress themselfs
DS2 refusing food
DS1 being generally cheeky and backchatting
Late for preschool
DS2 refusing to get out of the car top drop DS1 off

I am a basket case and thank god it is the weekend.

So plans for this morning are to take it easy and reboot the laundry - change my bed if I can.

My friend has offered to treat us all to softplay this afternoon, which is lovley of her, so after (and a small nap for DS2) we will do that
Whats for lunch and Dinner
Hoover upstairs
Change DS2's bedding

I am also going to endevor to be calm with the minimonsters too

I am now going to do DS2 some toast, then make a cup of tea for me and come back and lurk

Morning

mad Sorry the little monters sweeties are giving you a run for your money atm. If it makes you feel any better, remember I said dh and I popped into town for a little while yesterday? Well dd1 and dd2 had a MASSIVE fisticuffs fight over the computer whilst we were out. One phoned me shrieking about her sis and at the same time the other phoned dh shrieking about the other!

Was soooo esp since dd2 had hit dd1 and she is still healing! So are both grounded for a week and banned from using the computer for a week.

So it happens to us all is what I am trying to say, whatever age they are, and we can all empathise!

Oh and they are best of friends again today lol, but still grounded and banned from computer.

Today I must DO THE FLAMING IRONING!!!

We are not going anywhere fancy for anniversary cos dh couldnt get flights So prob going to York. I would like to go to the Lake District but the weather forecast is pants Bit of a let down since I had looked out my passport...

Anyhoo will be nice to escape the hoodlums children for a few days.

Got to get shopping in for the girls for the weekend, hoover, do the washing, change my bed and pack.

Hello, I'm here now too, no worries
Feeling a bit defeated by my list - glad it is on the other thread out of harm's way, although children are behaving well today, well they aren't in house anymore so not difficult...

You are not a basket case, if so we are all raffia mats, well done for getting ds1 to school in one piece. At least cheeky is not tearful! Dh is constantly saying to me apropos our dcs cheekiness/rudeness, I would NEVER have DARED to speak to my parents like that..

Off to dentist now. Nice walk, and chance to pick up some extra groceries.

oh TMH little monkeys breath & let it roll over your head. The more you stress the more the boys will push.Easier said then done I know. {puts arm round TMH & gently squeezes} You are a wonderful mum & are doing a fantastic job despite the roller coaster you have been riding.Enjoy Softplay.
grouchy you go girl Mrs Washer Fixer you. hope you feel ok today.
swan crisp I understand that one, ellie would eat her own body weight in crisps if she could. I don't buy them normally for that reason
wendy hope today & move in goes smoothly chuckie egg.

Ellie doesn't want to go to Mini Moovers wants to continue playing with her toys in her room
washing machine on, 1 small load on line. beds stripped & changed.
Lady called me last night from Cat Rescue place to say she had somebody looking for an older cat for their mother. I burst into tears Spoke to Daughter of lady who is looking for cat & she wants to come & see Mia

Have good days ladies, not really sure what we will do today. ellie is happy playing so I may chill
Oooooh did anybody watch Brothers & sisters last night?

gibberishThe little blighters hope dd is ok? a nice hotel & a break from darling dc's would be lovely enjoy!
swan I agree I would never have spoken to my parents like ellie sometime speaks to us, despite been 1 month shy of 3 hope dentist ok.

YESSS (don't know why I am still here) obviously just to answer that question!!!
Gripping stuff. And less gloomy than Mad Men.

I can't stop thinking about swan I LOVE Rob Lowe & will be heart broken if I can't get my weekly fix!

dd1 is fine thank goodness ehm She gave as good as she got apparently

wendy Hope the move goes smoothly!

Ooooh I can hear someone ironing... at least that's the board out - progress!

Morning all

Well this is what I was mulling over yesterday, if anyone read my post last night (probably not! I'm always last on!)
We went to friend's house for birthday party. It's the friend that I tutor for free - she is a 21 year old single mum on benefits so doesn't have much cash, I appreciate that and try my best to help out and not judge her (as most other nursery gates mothers seem to). anyway her DD's birthday - she had done some lunch at her house for after nursery just for her DD and my two, then she'd invited us to soft play afterwards. She texts me at 10.30 in a panic to say she couldn't find a birthday cake in town (she doesn't drive so just in local walkable town where we live which has a co op and a lidl) and could I drive to supermarket and get one? And oh, btw, she had no money either, so could I buy and she pay me back? So I agreed to go after dropping my children at her house and went and got a princess birthday cake from sainsbury's. Later at soft play she only paid for her DD and not my two and then asked if I would buy her a drink as she only had £7 left until she gets her cash.

Am I being really mean and tight to feel a bit used or am I being normal?! I think it was when she told me about the dress she had bought from Miss Selfridge that I started to feel a bit fed up about it all.

Rant over.

DH is off work today, he is over at the new house laying vinyl. I am having a slow start so far! have dealt with dc this morning now having bit of MN time for first time in ages. Going to go now and do some cleaning over there I think. Still loads of packing to do, may ask MIL and Mum to pack clothes, toys and kitchen up on Sat morning as we move stuff - what do you think? Remember the new house is a 1 min drive from old one or a hop over a wall and about 5 houses up a street! So thinking clothes toys etc in big blue ikea bags and kitchen stuff in boxes not wrapped or anything to be passed over the wall.

starting to think how much there is to do is not good.

Sorry for no personal hellos - hugs to all!

BBL perhaps

x posts - hi everyone - what is brothers and sisters!! think I am missing out on something here!

Wendy - I would just pass the stuff out, espeically clothes, that way they wont get too creased. Hope all goes well on the move front.

I used to have a friend like that and she is only an aquantance now, as I couldnt cope with it. Not enough money to get things eazch week, but best pram, best holdays and then would moans as didnt have money for nappies and could I leand some. I think sometimes it is best to step away or maybe as she is so young you could ask how she is budgeting to aford a new dress, but not a cake. I am brazen and would.

wendy Look here for brothers & sisters

wendy I would give this mum a wide birth! It is difficult given that she is very young. Her priorities are clearly different to most parents. I wouldn't buy myself anything if ellie needed something. I go without as do most mums I know. Its one thing helping a somebody out but nobody likes being taken for granted or a ride.Do I sound too harsh

Agree with mad, if it becomes a habit then I would distance myself. Difficult though if you are tutoring her...

Done:

Tidied downstairs
Tidied and cleaned kitchen
Shined sink and worktops
Hoovered downstairs
Cleaned downstairs floors
Tidied my room and made bed
Had breakfast

To do:

IRONING
Washing
Shopping
Dinner
Packing

And ehm!

I wouldn't pack clothes either, unless winter clothes. transfer on hanger to car or hand, or in bags.

Hi all.

Wendy - good luck with the move tomorrow. You sound very organised.

mad - good luck with the little lads today.

Gib - have a lovely weekend in York.

Today:
DD was up all night with a temp, so no nursery/work today. This aft I am driving to Cambridge for weekend with Dad and stepmum and sister. Stepmum is not well, so not sure what to expect, hope I can be of some help. Be back Mon.

Better go and pack.

Scatty Hope you have a safe, if not long journey and that you manage to have a weekend that is what you need it to be. I am sorry about your stepmum.

Gib I love York with a passion

EHM I sped a tear about your lovley cat - it would break my heart too. I am not going to have any more pets after Smudge has gone, as I can not bear the pain of losing them

Swan I do not use the word stupid at all, we use silly too - Preschool has a lot to answer for.

Well - I have given in and called my mum and told her I need some help - so she is going to come and do the ironing and help me make my bed again I think she thinks I am all well, as does MIL etc. I am still healing and things are falling behind, as they are not helping anymore and DH is beyond tired.

Done

Stripped and Changed DS2's bed
Hung my bedding on line to dry
another load in the washer
Fed DS2 and washed up
given carpet a quick rub in bedroom from tea
S&S downstairs loo

Wendy, I think at 21 I knew NOTHING about budgeting as a student, did spend money on clothes not essentials and perhaps she had just literally run out of money, and felt it would be silly to go thirsty if you had spare cash. And thought without birthday cake, visit wouldn't be success. She probably thinks you are so much older wiser and more successful that it wouldn't matter to you. And hasn't grasped that you have to make ends meet too.
Perhaps when you are with her you have to say pointedly to children things like, I've only got £5 in my bag, so we can't afford to buy that drink only water, so that she gets message that you don't have wads of cash always on tap or money to burn. I sometimes don't have cash in my bag through sheer disorganisation and do say to my children things like that. Next time she asks for a favour which involves cash you have to wriggle out, so that she gets used the idea that she is responsible for her own outgoings.

Those joint outings are a problem, cashwise, invitations that aren't really invitations etc. A bit like your hennight experience. We had one recently where a friend "invited" us to celebrate her birthday with ten friends, in a restaurant. Which turned out to be a long way away, and very expensive, and all of us bought presents and then felt a bit miffed because we were paying for the entire outing, and for babysitters etc. We would have been much happier in her house with a bottle of wine and bringing food with us, or in a local rest.
But we still love her, but are now a bit wary of her celebratory mode.

Dentist over.
Food shops and chemist visited.
Forgot jam

Good for you TMH getting some help, even just to let them know you are feeling stretched. Perhaps they just don't want to tread on your toes?
I'm sure you will be a help just being there Scatty.
Hope Mia fostering goes well, EHM, do you think you might be able to get her back again if you get another suitable flat/house

Now off to tidy the dreaded upstairs.

swan invites like that are very difficult. I think as friends we should be very clear what we expect & want from night out invitation. We had situation similar last year with family member who decided to throw party for another family member. Then expected other family members to share cost of full party & then contribute to a rather expensive present. not agreeing to a budget etc.

I am very excited about the 22 items I have listed on ebay this week, some of which come to an end today. So far total bids are at £42 for stuff I would have previously given away or binned I've a few other items that will go on before Tues next week. We are also having a car boot sale on sunday. I am hoping to raise enough spending money for Euro Disney Visit next month. My Sister & I have paid for my Mum, Auntie our 2 selves & dc's to go for 2 nights on Eurostar for my Mum's 60th. The last Ebay session I did at beginning of the year I managed to raise nearly £300 which paid for this

TMH glad you asked for help.
swan we are hoping we can still remain in touch with cat[s]. The lady in question is very elderly.

scatty hope visit goes well, I agree just being there can be a great help.