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Friday Fly - No witty titles as brain is dead

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TheMadHouse · 10/10/2008 06:58

Morning ladies

Brain is addled. Was up till 3am with a sickly DS2 and then again from 5.45. DS1 is now also awake. I am going to ring the GP as soon as they open

God I am tired, but DW is on (I forgot last night)
Washer is on (again)
Another load of bedding is waiting to go on
DS2 is tucked up watching cbeebies in my bed

I have rung my mum to tell her I will not be able to take her to the hospital this morning.

Back with missions

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Bewilderbeast · 10/10/2008 20:41

Grouchy, thank you for the offer. I may take you up on it when I am feeling a bit more together, it would be nice to meet up for a cuppa sometime too. We ought to have a northern fly lady meet up one day

tortoise · 10/10/2008 21:09

BB The way your DS is behaving towards you muxt be very hard to cope with. Have you spoken to your Heath Visitor/doctor about it? Sounds like you have tried everything else.
It isn't something mine have every really done so i'm not sure how to advise you.

tortoise · 10/10/2008 21:10

Also what about starting a thread on MN for more advice?

EustaciaVye · 10/10/2008 21:14

BWB - Ok, in middle of something so cant reply now but will post later.

You are not useless. Your son sounds like he has problems. Let me think about this. Will post later or tomorrow, I promise.

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TheMadHouse · 10/10/2008 21:21

BWB Your post was so upsetting. I can not imagine what you are going through and wonder if now is the time to ask your HV for some more structured help.

Your DS should not be physically hurting you at 2 years old, it can not be healthy for you, him or anyone else looking after him.

DS1 was a little like this and the only way I found of disaplining him was to put him in the travel cot and issue a stern you do not do that warning for 2 mins.

You must be breaking up inside to have him treat you like this and if he is actually injuring you now - just think how it may be as he gets bigger.

It is not normal for a child to do this everytime. Yes they can get frustrated and bite etc but not everytime. It does sound as though he can not express his frustration.

Sorry I have no answers, but we are here to listen anytime.

PS I am up for a northern Fly meet too [grin

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Jas · 10/10/2008 21:50

Oh, BWB I couldn't read and not reply, either, although I'm not sure I could be of any help. I second the idea of putting the problem out to the wider mumsnet for advice. Have you already spoken to your h/v or gp. If not I would do that too.

I don't know what to suggest to help. DS bites me. I tried all the things you have tried (he only ever did it to me) and in the end totally ignoring it (easy to say but no so easy to do when he has sunjk his teeth into my shoulder)has reduced it to the point where he hasn't done it at al in over a fortnight. I never though he disliked me, though and it didn't seem to be out of any desire to hurt, so if things are very different for you, it may not help/ be possible to do.

Does he have any times where he is affectionate to you? Or even just not wanting to hurt you?

(No idea re work, sorry. I assume you can't ask to change mentor without it reflecting badly on you in some way?)

Lucysmam - Also thinking of you this evening. I hope you and dp can sort things out.

lucysmam · 10/10/2008 22:01

Bewilder, my lo lashes out sometimes! Not so badly though, I can imagine it would make things very hard for you. Maybe speak to Dr or HV & see if there's anything like an "anger management" course that they run for lo's like they do for grown ups. Or if there's something they could suggest might help him to channel his frustration in another way that would benefit you both.

With rgards to your mentor, tell her that she's not just your mentor so she looks good for doingit but so that you get the benefit of her input/experience. & if she really isn't 'doing it' for you, then maybe a different mentor who can focus more on your needs and give you more direction would be better. Even if it does reflect badly on you in some way, as Jas said, surely it's better to have a mentor who will push you towards where you want to be?

I'm not very good at advice at all so that probably doesn't help at all but I hope you manage to find a mentor who is right for you & that someone has some constructive advice about your lo.

Thanks everyone for the supportive comments, I am feeling a bit better. Just gutted about the fishes atm, they were well over 18mo so to be expected I guess for goldfishes but seems a bit odd that we have 1 left out of them all which is happy as larry swimming around on his own. Think we are going to move, make a fresh start somewhere new, with a nice house that someone actually will repair (if we rent) & a decent job for oh & something local instead of miles away for me and the lo. Things are just really tough atm, like for everyone, & it's really getting us down

cafebistro · 10/10/2008 22:16

Bewilder Im sorry you're having such a difficult time. My DS is also going through a difficult time at the moment...he's totally defiant and does the opposite of what I ask him and wets himself if I tell him no. He does lash out on occasion too. Please talk to your HV or GP, even if it's just to unburden how you're feeling. Im sure they'll be able to offer some advice on how to deal with his frustrations. Dont be down on yourself. Hope everything looks better in the morning.

EustaciaVye · 11/10/2008 07:22

weekend

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