Friday Fly - No witty titles as brain is dead

[TheMadHouse]

Morning ladies

Brain is addled. Was up till 3am with a sickly DS2 and then again from 5.45. DS1 is now also awake. I am going to ring the GP as soon as they open

God I am tired, but DW is on (I forgot last night)
Washer is on (again)
Another load of bedding is waiting to go on
DS2 is tucked up watching cbeebies in my bed

I have rung my mum to tell her I will not be able to take her to the hospital this morning.

Back with missions

Hello Tort and GO

Decided to take a break from MN but unfortunately the Flying went awry when I stopped coming on regularly .

Will start with Baby Steps and go make my sink all shiny. Hope all are well (hope DS is feeling better soon TMH) and I haven't missed anything too important.

And Hello to ALL

Went swimming with the family last night. I'm really enjoying getting some quality family time when the TV/PC/Chores/work/finances don't get in the way. Got a washer full of laundered wet washing to sort out but hey ho

Woken up at 5:45 by the water Board digging up the road Outside My House^ !!! Seems a main had burst. Thouhjt 'might as well get up' so I was making pizza dough and porridge and doing the morning routines before 7:30

Been on a course today and got my eye brows waxed. Look a lot better for it I'm going to takle the pile of clean dry washing that needs sorting then off to collect Ed at 2

Better crack on TTFN

Hello and welcome back IC. I'll join you with babystepping I think. I seem to posting on here but not sticking to my routines properly any more. I took the print versions off the wall and didn't replace them a while ago and it was a mistake. I'll go and shine my sink right now

Hi all.

IVC I concentrate on the routines (look on the home page for daily and weekly routines) and try to do a bit more in the zone each week (look on website for zone cleaning lists). I don't usually manage the mission .

No news about car (hope I can afford it!).

Friend has given me a copy of Mamma Mia to watch tonight (can't wait).

Weekend:
swimming with Dcs
fancy dress costumes for halloween disco.
food shop.

bbl

Scatty I am waiting desperatly for Mamma Mia to come out on DVD so i can watch it.

I have sorted a few toys. But generally getting no where as usual!

Also i have filled party bags ready for Sunday.
There is 30 coming so far! Don't know how many will be wearing skate/heelies. How many ambulances should i have on stand by?

IC welcome back, my FLYing is always into a force 10 gale.
I'm sure paper breeds in this house. I never remember getting many letters but I keep finding them everywhere, like a horror movie.
DS has been asleep since 10:30 and I haven't done nearly enough in two hours, but I'm nearly sorted with the paper and general clutter. Did a coat hanger purge before ds's nap, I can never say no when they ask if I need teh hanger, why?
Planet Rock radio is currently blasting into my ears, ds needs to wake up anyway

Lunch has finished so I'd better go and wash up and shine my sink. I'm still planning on going out and enjoying the sunshine before collecting dd if ds ever wakes up!

Hope everyone has a good afternoon.

welcome back IC.

I have ILs coming over tomorrow and other than hoovering downstairs I dont need to do anything [smug]

My sink is shiny, and I've printed off my old lists and stuck them back up. I will still babystep as they need adapting a bit (and sticking to!)

I've cleaned out the cat cellar so I don't 'need' to do anything tomorrow

tort I shall report back. Good luck with the party (gulp).

Welcome back IVC

Well ladies I have spend the day at the hopspital with DS2 who had become dehydrated. Even when he ate and drank for them, he still wouldnt wee. Once they had a sample we could come home.

I am having my first drink since 9.30 this morning, as he refused to let me leave his side

No flying, but have bedding in the TD

Mad is your DS feeling any better after his adventure?

Not managed to remember anything else . . . banging headache & shitty day competing with each other I think!

Oh still not been paid, except we were assured cheque would be here today so went & spent my money on the bits we needed thinking we had his cheque to pay the bills out of. & now we don't!

Oh also announced he has had enough of being with me, so not sure where I am now!

No flying done whatsoever but I am going to do the whole of downstairs stuff when the lo goes to bed rather than sit & be ignored!

Hope you all had a better day than me! xx

I have a shiny sink

Hello to all, have missed the flyers!!

Mad Poor you, that sounds awful. Did noone offer you a drink? Hope Ds is better soon.
Jas Glad I won't be on my own with the babysteps

Right, am off to cook dinner. Hope everyone has a relaxing evening.

help!

does anyone want to be my career coach and can anyone tell me how to be a decent mother and stop ds hating me not necessarily in that order. I am miserable

BWB I think there must be something in the air at the moment - I have no wise words EV is the one for that. But chin up

Lucys Aagain nothing to say really, but I am sorry it was a cack day.

IVC No hot drinks on the childrens wards - everytime I tried to leave DS2 clung on like a limpet

Our bed is made
Boys are in bed
We have all been fed

Catch you over the weekend

TMH Glad DS2 and you are home now. Hope he is on the mend.

Lucysmam Is this something out of the blue from OH? I hope you can talk things through with him and find out what is going on. I have MSN/Fb if you need someone to talk to.Am here all evening.

Oh and my MSN is [email protected] if you have it and want to add me to chat. (( hugs ))

Oh Lucys what can I say. A big hug for you. Blokes can be so sodding difficult and they hit out at their nearest and dearest (nice )

BWB I'm at home tomorrow if you fancy popping round. I've had a crisis of confidence about myself this week (what do I mean this week, every ruddy week is more accurate) so if you fancy a chat let me know at [email protected]

BWB - we've all felt like this. Can you elaborate a bit and lets see what we can help you with?

Thanks Mad, tortoise & grouchy. We have talked it through. He's just very very fed up with things not going right at the mo and took it out on me!

Has suggested we mak the break we were going to a while back and move away from here & pretty much start again, which might just be the kick up the ass we need & give us a completely fresh start without the constant hassle from family to do stuff they want & try to keep on top of everything.

I'm in the middle of xmas cakes at the mo. & while I've been mixing them, 3 of our fish have died! Just to top the week off in a cracking way. So I have sent oh to the shop for beer & munchies

Have a night off from everything lucysmam...

Glad you have had a chat with OH Lucysmam. Enjoy the beer and munchies lol

Good evening

Lucysmam sending lots of love your way x x Hope you can sort things out.

IV good to see you back

Tort Happy birthday ds2! (I am late with a present, sorry

Luda yay for the wm

Bewilder hope you're OK. Grouchy's offer sounds good

TMH hope ds is soon better x

EHM nice to see you about too

Grouchy, Jas, EV, everyone else - hello!

I have been busy as usual with lots of work going on. It's all getting a bit much but I am half way through my stint so it's almost all over! FLYing has gone to pot a bit
I took the afternoon off today and took dd out after school (ds went to a friends for tea) We went to the shops and bought her some new sparkly trainers and me a new skirt and top in the Fat Face sale Then we went for a grown up supper at ASK I love it when we get one on one time togther (couldn't really afford it but sometimes you have to have a treat, right?!)
Dd is off on an outing with the Brownies tomorrow to a safari park She's probably going to make her Brownie Promise while she's there so is very much looking forward to it.
Dh and ds will probably go out somewhere too and I will be working (again)

Hope to catch up with you all again soon x

Ok, more detail, I am on an intensive development programme at work but I am (as always) having major confidence problems and am not making the most of it. My mentor is useless, i picked her because I thought that another working mother (albeit of a much higher grade than me) would be better for me than a non-mum or a bloke - I was wrong she just wants to be able to say she is a mentor of someone on the program and doesn't actually want to do anything but then again perhaps I have been too slack and haven't pushed her as I should have. So maybe I need a coach to give me more pushing and more direction and who can reflect back to me on certain issues so that I can see for myself more clearly what needs to be done, if that makes sense.

With Ds, which is in reality the bigger and more important problem, he has never liked me as much as dp or granny or grandad or anyone at nursery. he will be 2 in less than a fortnight and has always (and I mean from the day we got him home) lashed out and hurt me, often he injures me quite badly, I have tried different ways of dealing, like putting him down and walking away, instituting consequences (which he does understand if they are simple enough), yelling of which I am not proud, crying and explaining that he has hurt me and made me sad, and walking away. At the end of a day or even first hting in the morning and several times inbetween he lashes out, biting, hitting, kicking, thumping, gouging and scratching his first response on seeing me is to hurt me and he doesn't stop he just keeps on going etc etc. I thought it was getting better but it has been very bad this evening he has hurt me badly and upset me even more. I do not know what to do or how to cope, i am at the end of my tether. I do not know if this behaviour is normal and he is just frustrated or if there is a bigger problem. This is not a daft paranoid pfb parent moment, ds was prem, they expected death or severe brain damage, there are no structural brain problems and apart from not really talking very well he is developing normally so generally I am happy that there is no problem and we jsut get on with life but we were told leaving hospital that really they would not know about any learning/behavioural side effects of blood loss and oxygen deprivation until he was older and they saw how he developed - for me this is what it is like for every parent, you don't know until kids develop whether they will have probs or not so I consider ds to be like every other child in that respect I don't know if this is making sense, i probably sound like a nutter but I am very tired and very ipset so I appologise - so basically I feel like a crap mum and do not know what to do to sort ds's behavoiur out