Sorry to be so dramatic. I am a SAHM (except when DS is at nursery when I work)
How do women (parents) give valuable attention to DCs and keep the house in the style of Anthea Turner as well.(i swear if she wasn't blonde and skinny my husband would track her down and nick her of that Bovey fella)
Any time i spend tidying or cleaning is time my DS, nearly 3, is playing on his own or, horror of horrors, watching TV.
My DH (and i used the letter D very loosely at the moment) is v critical of my housekeeping or lack thereof and really plays on my pre-existing sense of inadaquacy in this area (which exists because of his bitchy comments, which he swears he doesn't make!).
Anyway, in an effort to be a good wifey, i have given a few rooms a thorough clean today but feel it is totally at the expense of time i could be spending with my boy.
If i worked and he was a house husband the house would be immaculate but his idea of good parenting is letting DS watch telly ALL day because as long as he's happy it doesn't matter if he's stimulated or educated or moving.
Please help. I don't know if i'm asking for alleviation of my guilt about ignoring DS to clean. Or permission to tell H to piss off and try raising a well rounded child and keeping a house perfect.
Please note the house isn't dirty, we have 2 cats and a dog which don't help, but the house is clean, it's just not tidy (my H has a real problem distinguishing the two!) I could spend all day cleaning and would have to vacuum 3 times a day to have it up to his standard.
Perhaps this should be in the relationships section!!!
Sorry