Friday Fly

[gem1981]

Morning all ....nearly the weekend YAY!!!

mission

DS has a cold still and his glands are still up.

Was supposed to have some friends round today but not sure if that is the sensible thing to do as they all have young kiddies (incl a 10 week old)
...probably will cancel - what is the etiquette? I never know

been up since 5.30 with DS and I am feeling tired already!!!!

GOing off to start now....

need to go shopping
put a load of washing on
do some ironing
hoover

scatty hope your cold has not developed too bad

ruby hope you had a nice evening and ate some cake and drank some wine!!!

big waves to all - I can NEVER rememeber what I have just read in the previous thread

Thanks for the concern, I'm fine Dd has been doing rude things with boys...well, boys have been doing rude things to her Silly and childish in some ways but all taken a step too far I feel....I never know how to handle things like this and feel a bit crappy about my parenting skills (or lack of them) tonight.

Jen no need to ever worry about chatting here.

I'm so tired this evening. Just running a shallow bath, then off to bed. Work tomorrow

Nice to see you back btw Jas

Bianca

I'm feeling all warm and loved now

I guess you need to talk to dd about it somehow, B- I try very hard to talk about all kinds of things in general convos with the dds, but it doesn't come naturally to me and I find it very difficult.
I hope it is just experimenting on her part, and you can help her understand that things can go too far....

DD2 has flashed her bits a couple of times recently when encouraged by others and we've had lots of talks about not bowing to peer pressure, which may or may not be helping.

Bianca Things like that are always hard to deal with but kids do experiment. Not sure how i would deal with it other than private parts stay private around others.

Jas

I know I need to drop things into conversations with dd but, like you, it doesn't come naturally to me so it's very difficult to make it seem natural iykwim? I understand kids showing each other their bits but this was touching and just not on. Also worrying about whether I ought to tell the boys parents.
Dd doesn't know I know about any of it.

x-posts Tort We do say that sort of thing already, but dd wants to knwo why these parts are private....and I haven't really come up with a devent answer other than that people think bottoms are rude....

I'm off for my bath now.

See you all in the morning (possibly, if time before work)

DS2 is still up and high as a kite. Medised for you

Bianca I tell DS1 that it is inappropriate to be naked all the time. That there is a time and a place. I am not sure about private bits though. I dont remember showing them off or discussing them. I remember that boys and girls are different and we wee out of diff parts but that was it really. No help whatsoever me. Sorry

Having ds when the dds were 5 and 6 helped hugely, as it gave a reason to be talking about things....you need pregnant friends to talk about
Once you've chatted about baby-making, it becomes easier to bring up valid reasons why privates should be kept private. I've also started to talk about periods with them (mostly dd1 atm in this area though)

I don't think I'd tell her I knew. I would find ways to ensure she wasn't playing out of sight of a trusted adult for a while though, and try and step up the talking a few notches.
Maybe talk about a (possibly fictional) third party who does the things she did......

Tricky one! Erm something about them being special and not for everyone to see. Oh i don't know! lol!
I am trying to stop DS1 fiddling in public lol! Told him he should only do it in the privacy of his room. Then what do i see at the train station one day? A teen lad doing the same fiddle through trousers! Was really hard not to go over and say 'leave it alone'!

lol tort

Bed for me, too.

Weekend