Hiya ALL
Just a quick post from me as I need sleep. I`m a walking zombie.
DS2 was up for most of the night with a bad tummy and needing the loo every 20 or so minutes. He is much better now though he said his tummy still hurt when he went to bed. Fast a sleep now though. I dont know if DD is coming down with it, she said her tummy was hurting just a while ago. She is sleeping again now. But it could be another sleepless night ahead. I have washed my hands so much since last night that they are getting sore now.
I has a meeting with DS1 doctor today. They are nearly sure he has Pathological Demand Avoidance syndrome [PDA].
I have loads of paperwork to read about it and have some work to do filling in some answers they need about his past. Just reading parts of it does explain when he is like he is and what has happened in the past.
One part is that the child can "socially manipulating others" so it is easy not to see a problem with some people they are with but very easy to see there is a problem. (Home life) Also they can just pick on an adult and or child and blame and use them. They will put more effort in to not doing something rather than just getting it done. They tend to only care about what happens to them, but they will talk in a way that they really care about others. The doctor said children as young as 5 years old have pulled the wool over everyones eyes to get away or use another person to get them out of having to do something. They are very good at making out to someone that another person is in the wrong but really they know they are but want to get the person they are saying is doing wrong into trouble. They are very bright yet seem not to be. They tend to be below average at school. There is just so much that fits in now with DS1. Yet social workers said he could not do anything like it as he was too young. How wrong they were!!
I better get to bed and get some sleep, lots of work to do to get DS1 the help he needs. I could go on for hours telling you all. I feel so much better for now knowing I was not going mad. A big shame that people did not listen to XP2 and me months ago. The doctor said the parents know they child best, but social workers tend to think they do. He said he thinks there are loads of families who have had children taken away or a partner has had to leave the home and family because social workers have said they were in the wrong, when all they needed was help and with the right help things would be loads better for everyone. He said a lot more is needed to help these families and a lot more places for families with children who may have PDA top get the help they need.
Right go be bed and sleep HN I just feel so happy to know there is someone who does know and does understand what life is like with DS1.
Night night all.
HN xxxx