Bit Embarrassed...

[Becc91]

So inlaws left this pm after a week with us for Christmas. Was lovely, but when I've come to clean the ensuite, have found what can only be described as concrete in the bowl.😖DH won't touch it, don't even know where to start and I'm so embarrassed by the whole thing. What do I do????💩

I suspect it means he can’t change nappies or clean loos … but still disappears into the loo for prolonged man time. What do they actually DO in there all that time?!

Your DH is lying about the poo phobia and thinks you're stupid enough to believe him. He also treats you like an unpaid servant and expects you to do stuff any decent guest would have done themselves before leaving...for his relatives.

If he doesn't clean up the mess and speak to his Ps the easiest way forward is fit an external lock clasp on the door (do this yourself) and make it off limits whenever they visit again. Explain on request only.

When he says it's "your" ensuite I hope to god he doesn't get you to clean any bathroom HE uses "because phobia"🙄.

Because it's s not about the mess is it, it's about the utter lack of respect and taking you for a mug.

I think everyone actually suffers from what DH is calling “poo phobia “ ( or at least I kind of hope they do! ) ; it’s just some of us ( carers, nurses, parents, dog owners, cleaners, sewage workers), can’t indulge ourselves in totally avoiding these things.

Dh needs to step up, but you can’t can’t shame and punish the ILs . They may not have even been aware it didn’t flush effectively. It’s gruesome, and DH should be helping deal with it , but that’s one of the perils of hosting. As they say, “ poo happens.”